Prevalence of virginity on MTFs

[Natalia]

Today I was talking with a psichologist from the public health system. She is especialized in male to females transexuals (she only works with MTFs) and i had a 20 minutes talk with her in order to proceed to an avaliation to get free HRT from the public health system of my country (quite nice).

While she was asking me a lot of questions, one was if I am still virgin.

I always felt embarassed and ashamed of having to answer "yes". (yes, I'm still virgin...and this with 26 yo!) 

I asked her that this must be a very ununsual situation for anyone with my age, but she answered me that this is far more common than I think, specialy in MTFs.

So, if it is not a too personal question, might this be true? Do we have more MTFs virgins here with around 25 yo? Being MTF might be related with still being virgin late in life?

(I hope this is on the right place on the forum, if it is not, I am sorry in advance)

[Miss_Bungle1991]

I have always been and will always be a virgin. I find sex to be disgusting, to be honest. I feel no shame in admitting that I've never had sex.

[evecrook]

I don't Know I'm definitely not 25 and definitely not a virgin

[Lauren5]

Strange question of them to ask. I wonder why.

In response to your question, I am, but mostly because my body is disgusting; I can't imagine sex in it.

[suzifrommd]

I smell a poll coming on. Have you ever set one up? It's easy. Instead of hitting "new topic", choose "new poll". They're easy to make.

[Aina]

30 years old here, haven't had a girlfriend since Middle-School.

Its pretty sad, but oddly I am not really ashamed.

[Hayley]

Not a virgin but to be honest I never liked sex using the man bits. It has always been something that triggers my dysphoria something awful. Leads to me shutting down for a few hours but I always tired because I was in a relationship and spent many of those years trying to be a man.

[pebbles]

Never used my boy bits so "Technical Virgin" however I definitely wouldn't classify myself as a virgin, As with partners subsequent I've pretty much done everything else you can imagine that doesn't involve using my Bits.

[Jessica Rush]

28 and don't see myself having sex till post op. I just don't care for what's down there.

[Miyuki]

I just turned 27 last month, and yes, I am a virgin. Despite years of sexual frustration and desiring to have a relationship with a girl, I couldn't overcome how turned off I was by my own body and by the idea of being the "man" in a relationship. It just didn't work for me. The closest I ever got to dating a girl was when a girl had to tell her friend to tell me to ask her out. He really tried to talk me into it too, and when he finally asked me directly why I didn't want to do it, the best answer I could come up with was "It's complicated."

Right now I don't think I'm even going to worry about sex until I get further into the transition process. I need to be able to accept myself before I can accept being in a relationship with another human being. Getting into dating is going to be rough though, since I have absolutely zero experience. I just hope that it comes more naturally when the gender I'm presenting myself with isn't in such conflict with my internal identity.

[LittleV]

26 and still a virgin... (JK, I'm not really ashamed)
I just could never make advance to or interract with a girl as a guy would. It didn't feel right somehow. So I desisted, thinking I was somehow inadequate to succeed doing what I thought I was supposed to, from the society's standards point of view.

[Natalia]

Thank you everyone for the answers

Indeed I am surprised (and very happy at the same time, because I discovered one more thing that unites us all)

I am a virgin for almost the same reasons of everyone here, plus an extra of being too shy and hating my male body.

Not that I feel ashamed for being virgin. I actually don't care... But before, when I could still see me as a man (or a project of man), I was ashamed, and a bit revolted of not fitting in this world, for not being able to fulfill all the expectancies of me being a man.

Luckily I will not need to feel this way ever again!

I am really happy now!! =D

[KabitTarah]

35... and only ever one sexual partner (my x2b-wife). I also gravitated toward a female style... but I won't say more in the public forums

I had one other girlfriend where we came close... and only one other girlfriend aside from that. So yea...

[JillSter]

I'm 37. I stopped having sex at 26. It had become more frustrating than pleasurable.

So I'm not a virgin, but I am celibate.

[Sammy]

I was virgin till 23 y.o., but not because I found sex to be disgusting or hated my male bits. In fact, I was very curious about it, but I just could not figure out what I am supposed to do to get there... (You might not believe me, but I did not masturbate until I actually had sex either - I could not understand how to...). When I was 23 y.o. I just decided that it had been enough and made a deliberate choice - which I regretted very soon afterwards... I remember having that thought in my mind oh so clearly - "Now... I am in trouble...". And it was, unfortunately, truth. My libido just skyrocketed afterwards and had no exit for it, so I started to do crazier and crazier things to sublimate (I believe that was the term) my sexual energy. Now, on T-blockers, I finally feel free again...

[Sammy]

At the risk of TMI, I didn't discover how to satisfy myself when I was alone until I was 28.  I think that's entirely due to the frustration and confusion I found with sex and typical gender roles.  At the risk of far more TMI, once I discovered self-pleasure, I made up for lost time and then some!

It is so ironic... And I used to be ashamed of that...

[Zoe Louise Taylor]

im 25 and im a virgin! It used to get me really down, however i just dont feel that i can be intimate with anyone whilst being in a boys body!

I just dont have any confidence, and i dont feel attractive! Also i dont really know how to use the bits, and i dont really want too :/

[Magnolia88]

I am 25 and a virgin. It's not like I haven't have had urges because trust me I have. At one point, they were so strong that I put out profiles on hookup sites but I could never go through with the deed. I just couldn't let my first time happen that way and I agree i wouldn't feel comfortable being with someone else that way in this body. I've always wanted a boyfriend but I wouldn't know how to be in a gay relationship as a man since that isn't who I am. It really sucks being a heterosexual woman in a man's body. You're not into the women that are into you. You can't really connect with gay guys and the guys you want don't want you because they see a man in front of them. I really can't wait for everything to match and all this confusion can end.

[eerie]

I am 28, technically a virgin, because I only have had non-penetrative sex so far, so I guess unless you put your penis into someone's vagina, one should call himself a virgin 
Although I don't mind using it, it is not the best form of sex I can imagine.

[Natalia]

I am 25 and a virgin. It's not like I haven't have had urges because trust me I have. At one point, they were so strong that I put out profiles on hookup sites but I could never go through with the deed. I just couldn't let my first time happen that way and I agree i wouldn't feel comfortable being with someone else that way in this body. I've always wanted a boyfriend but I wouldn't know how to be in a gay relationship as a man since that isn't who I am. It really sucks being a heterosexual woman in a man's body. You're not into the women that are into you. You can't really connect with gay guys and the guys you want don't want you because they see a man in front of them. I really can't wait for everything to match and all this confusion can end.

This is exactly how I feel about men. I feel attracted to men, but not in a gay way. I am not gay...I am just a heterossexual woman on a male body...

I am sure people will see me as a gay when I tell that I am a MTF but that is not right.