Prevalence of virginity on MTFs

[xchristine]

I'm beginning to think that I was the only ts that
Attracted men as a teen. I didn't mean to. Just men noticed me
Around 15 and chased me. They probably seen exactly what I am.
It is something else to have a man dominate you sexually
As first experience.  Quite natural in my view points.
The trademark of a child transsexual ...wishes to have
Relationship with a normal male as a female.
Completely passive homosexual sexuality .

I thought this was normal as any ts transitioned or not
Really stands out from the crowd.  Guys chased us....
As they said the best peice of a#$ they ever had was from
A young tgirl

[Carrie Liz]

Kind of surprised that this apparently is a thing, but you can count me a member of the club. 28 years old now, and never done it. Nor do I plan to, at least until the surgery. And it's not like the opportunity hasn't presented itself. Both of my high school girlfriends were extremely forward, but I always backed off. And my long-time girlfriend, who I was together with for 6 years, ALWAYS asked me to do it, and yet I never felt comfortable going any further than hand-to-genital touching. And even then, it was always me touching her. I was frankly embarrassed of my own anatomy, and didn't even feel comfortable showing it, let alone using it.

[Tristan]

I know for me it was true. My first time was post op

[Natalia]

So far, after 45 votes, we have 66.7% of virgins amongst MTFs, with the biggest group ranging from 20-30 years old. Only 33.3% are not virgin to this date and even on this group the majority don't make sex quite often.

I think we already have a significant number of votes and we can conclude that indeed the prevalence of virgins are greater here than with cisgender people. I don't know the rate for cisgender males, but I am quite sure it is much lower than the one we got.

Thanks everyone for voting and commenting

Fell free to post any more comments or vote if you haven't voted yet!

[Sandra_Dickinson]

Over 30 years old, only one sexual partner - who I met and lost my virginity to at 25. Was never really that interested in sex before, still not that interested now really. Just thought I had a low sex drive...

[ganjina]

[Became kind of a long ramble, but I had to let it out]
Same here with the 13 YO virginity loss and the cringing, I remember I had never even touched myself before or thought about it then some 15yo really cute girl was hitting on me on and on and I just kind of let things happen, lacking any real consciousness of what was going on or where it was going, except that it was sort of exiting but sort of awkward.

Then with other people it would be roughly the same thing for years, I would always find sex kind of awkward no matter who I was with, wether female or male, hot or not, for sex or for romance... and they (my partners) constistently did not find it awkward and would say things like it's ok and come back for more: why everyone was pretty OK (everyone meaning about 15-20ish people total) with it and I, always I and always me, noone else, felt awkward?  That was odd, I felt guilty about it and did not want to make my partner feel down by always refusing sex because it was not like there was anything wrong with them, they were not "pressuring" me or forcing for it or anything, I just did not want to let someone I cared about down because of some silly unexplainable "awkwardness" issue I, and always and only me, had in the relationship. So I tried to kind of give in and compromise and just try to be a good partner!

Then after many years I realized I did not feel at all confortable with my male role and body then purposefully decided to stop playing into that, after which everything became much better, even "OK to good" sometimes instead of just "awkward"! Hopefully after I get this "male body" thing fixed, it will be even better. I suspect it will be better in spite of the drop in T and that I am not talking myself into believing into a nice but unrealistic situation. If anyone has had a similar experience about feeling weird first then after HRT and physical changes getting into sex, I'd love to hear about it.

I've seen a few comments going that way and it's been incredibly relieving, I would not want sex to become even more of a turn off after getting low T levels, but making it exiting by just not having male equipment, face, voice, etc. When you manage to get your mind/body into it can feel really great and blow off tons of steam and create connection and intimacy with your partner and all that, I would not want to give it up :l.

Cheers!

[LizMarie]

I am 56 years old, have fathered 3 children (all adults now) and been married most of my life. My wife knew something was wrong with me because I would go through long periods of being unable to be intimate. My ability to be intimate rose and fell like a sine wave through the course of my life. And that sine wave matched how well I was able to try to be male. There were periods were I was very gung ho male, including 8 years in the Army. But even while in the service I had periods of celibacy because I loathed myself. My periods of celibacy would last from weeks, often to months, and in a few cases, over a year. My spouse responded by having affairs, not because she wanted to leave me (at least at that point) but to try to make me jealous and want her.

And of course now we will eventually divorce, when she has completed some school refresher work and can get back into the job market on her own.

Since beginning my transition there's been no need for intimacy and for that I am thankful. I don't want to be with anyone until I am right with myself down there and that's a ways off yet.

[Tristan]

I'm beginning to think that I was the only ts that
Attracted men as a teen. I didn't mean to. Just men noticed me
Around 15 and chased me. They probably seen exactly what I am.
It is something else to have a man dominate you sexually
As first experience.  Quite natural in my view points.
The trademark of a child transsexual ...wishes to have
Relationship with a normal male as a female.
Completely passive homosexual sexuality .

I thought this was normal as any ts transitioned or not
Really stands out from the crowd.  Guys chased us....
As they said the best peice of a#$ they ever had was from
A young tgirl

your not the only one. i actually had a crush on my gym coach/history teacher in 7th grade. he transferred me out of his class when he figured it out. the man was hot 

[peky]

I started having sex in my first teen (13Y).

It has never been about just the sex but about the emotional connection, the gender or sexual orientation of my partners was secondary.

My penis was there, and while there was no love between us, no hate either, and I figure while it was there I may as well put it to some use, and get and give some pleasure...also it helped me conceived 5 kids...

I am eagerly waiting to turn it into a velvet purse 

[Nicolette]

I was a virgin until SRS. Although I had dated and slept with women, I never did 'it'. I always thought genitals were gross. I think viewing a porn mag put me off for life. Talk about acquired tastes.