Sexuality of MtFs?

[jussmoi4nao]

I'm not sure if I'm allowed to ask this, but I figured it was okay cuz its an open poll and m not asking anyone specific, and people can feel free to respond or not and share as much or as little as they like. Also, this poll is more for those who identify either wholly or partially on the female/femme spectrum of transgender (whether MtF, andrigynous, genderqueer, etc) but anyone can answer if they want

Also, to keep things non-complicated for those who may not consider themselves totally one gender, I avoided terms like homo/heterosexual and instead used andro/gynosexual.

Feel free to state your gender identity and any labels you may identify with (straight, gay/lesbian, etc) in your response, as well

I'll start, I am completely androsexual (attracted to men) and get all silly if a cute guy so much as looks in my direction. My view on gender and my gender identity is complicated...I kinda have both an androgynous identity and presentation at the moment. Really, for me, I don't care either way, atm, people can see me as a girl or a boy, idgaf, either way I'm very femme.

Also, I consider myself gay because it's apart of my identity. And actually, even when I was fulltime in transition, I considered myself to be both gay and straight...but again, that has to do with my complicated view on gender..I guess you could say I see it that way cuz no matter how female I look, I'm still gay by biology, no matter what.

[Lauren5]

I'm currently asexual, mostly due to dysphoria though. I find sex with this body to be disgusting. But I suspect on hormones it'll change. Likely to bi or pan, but that's because I'm just a loving person, and don't really care about the package of my potential partner. That being said though, I find myself in fantasies to be sexually submissive, usually to men, so I think that'll be the way it'll go after HRT starts.

[Alainaluvsu]

I like men. I consider myself a straight female with a defect.

[Aina]

I am attracted to girls, however as I said in another topic similar to this one. I'd be lying if I haven't fantasized about becoming female and being with a guy. Not sure if that classifies me as Bi....

[noleen111]

I consider myself bi

I have had girl friends and a boyfriend in the past.

When I started HRT, i considered myself lesbian, and I still am attracted to women. I do sometimes go to lesbian bars. I am a real lipstick lesbian.

The boyfriend.. well he was guy I met and we clicked and that developed into something. We dated for almost 9 months. He was cool that I was a pre-op transexual. We did have a sexual relationship. I really enjoyed being the submissive woman in the bedroom. I actually enjoyed being the woman in the relationship. During I time together he bought me flowers, perfume and even something sexy to wear for him in the bedroom 

I enjoyed the experience of having a boyfriend and yes I will want another one, but after SRS.. Maybe I will end up been a straight woman. The idea of being a mans wife is not a bad one in my head these days.

[Miyah48]

hello jussmoi4nao! I just wanted to say you are incredibly pretty in your profile pic!! I suppose pansexual. i thought i was just kind of strictly attracted to girls, then I did the same thing you do when a cute guy even so much as looks my way. And then i realized gender, or sexual preference i really dont care. if I like you then I like you. Trans, bi, straight. I just tell people i love everyone :p

[Heather]

I'm bi but I lean heavily towards men as far as attraction goes but I do women appealing too but it's more an emotional attraction with women than a physical one. But really a persons gender doesn't really matter with me as long as we click and enjoy spending time with each other.

[Bea]

I like men, but I still notice a nice woman's behind.

[Heather]

@Heather,

Just wanted to say, haven't seen you in a bit, but woww you're looking fabb!

Thanks I'm still around the site everyday I don't get to post as much but I'm here. Btw your looking quite fabb yourself! 

[Isabelle]

It would be interesting to include the age of transition into the question.

[Janae]

I like men. I consider myself a straight female with a defect.

What she said...lol

[Yukari-sensei]

Lesbian. Very femme lesbian. I think that made the dysphoria even more confusing in all honesty...

That being said, I really believe "love looks not with the eyes, but with the mind. And therefore is winged cupid painted blind." Meaning if circumstances rendered me single (God I hope not!),  I could not rule out being with a gentleman... but I sure wouldn't be looking there if you get what I mean. 

[Jessica Merriman]

I think the real mind blowing question is this: In the case of MtFs such as me did we prefer females because that is what parents and society demanded or does HRT break down the walls of what was suppressed and we really preferred men all along? I do agree with Heather on her point that I like females for the emotional attractiveness and men for the physical and protective aspects. (hope I got that right Heather)? Anyway, makes you stop and think, doesn't it? 

[suzifrommd]

My sexuality is really complicated.

I've never found a male attractive, before or after transition. I still cringe at the idea of sharing a house with or waking up next to a male.

OTOH, being in bed with a male doesn't seem so icky, now that I've started thinking of myself as softer and feminine.

Nowadays I don't feel attracted to much of anyone. Spiro has brought my chemical libido way down.

But I still have a VERY STRONG interest in sex. The wonder and curiosity of the human sexual experience still intensely fascinates me. I hope that intimacy is in my future.

I voted that I'm interested in women, because that's what mainly turns me on now, but that definitely doesn't tell the whole story.

It kind of sucks to go from the pinnacle of society's ideal person to one of the least admired members, but, hey, it is what it is. 

Yeah. This.

[pebbles]

I think the real mind blowing question is this: In the case of MtFs such as me did we prefer females because that is what parents and society demanded or does HRT break down the walls of what was suppressed and we really preferred men all along? I do agree with Heather on her point that I like females for the emotional attractiveness and men for the physical and protective aspects. (hope I got that right Heather)? Anyway, makes you stop and think, doesn't it? 

It is possible, In my case some of it simply has to do with availability, guys are more interested in me now I look female so I tend to end up dating men more.

As for me I'm Bi I was Bi before and Bi afterwards. Although my preference did shift at the time (towards men) since then it has shifted back abit (Towards women) So I'm thinking it's not really related.

I don't like thinking of myself as girly or tomboyish I'm abit of both. But this is because most of my interests are Geeky Technical/Mechanical and sciency and the insinuation that it's less feminine doesn't sit with me because it implies that a "Good Feminine girl" is a Vapid lump curves.

[Nicolette]

Until 9 months ago I fancied myself as a cis hetero male.  Now I've acknowledged that I am in fact a lesbian transgender!

Wow!

It kind of sucks to go from the pinnacle of society's ideal person to one of the least admired members, but, hey, it is what it is.

That must be hard. 

My sexuality: whatever.

[Northern Jane]

I was, from the beginning (puberty), very much attracted to boys. That made it difficult in the early 1960s because shrinks wanted to label me homosexual even though I was insistent that I wasn't/shouldn't be a male, that I liked guys AS a woman!

With transition and SRS (1974) I was totally straight (as a woman) and pretty wild and the idea of being with a woman never occurred to me .... until it happened. (Alcohol was involved LOL!) At that point I had to acknowledge that there were certain advantages of being with a woman.

After all these years I still consider myself 98% straight and a handsome man still gets my heart racing and makes me wet but I am not exclusively straight.

[~RoadToTrista~]

Idk how anyone couldn't perfer men, well, good-looking men anyways. Good-looking men are so good-looking. <3

Plus their voices ohmahgawd

[HelloKitty]

I'm not sure anymore but right now I'm in a 3 way relationship with another girl and a guy.

This is new and they both say they love me, so who knows how it will turn out. O.O

Especially since they are both 17 years younger than me, am not expecting a lot of maturity out of them. :/

[pretty pauline]

I'm a completely straight woman, as Northern Jane says ''a handsome man gets my heart racing''

Maybe I will end up been a straight woman. The idea of being a mans wife is not a bad one in my head these days.

Its a good life Noleen, I'm now 3 years married to a man, a man's wife these days. He does buy me flowers, perfume, jewellery and sexy nightwear to wear for him in our bedroom. He likes taking care of me, I like it too, its nice, he knows my history, he spoils me, most important of all, he completely and fully excepts me as a woman.