Sexuality of MtFs?

[Andrea_LS]

Personally I was expecting a lot more people identifying as Androsexual, but it seems that a surprising number of us are into our girls!    This does make me wonder if the idea of sexuality really is something programmed into us at birth ('nature') or if there's actually at least something of a environmental / upbringing ('nurture') element to it?  I mean, most of us answering this poll have been brought up as guys and had it drummed into us by family / friends / society that we're *SUPPOSED* to like girls, so it seems interesting to me that - in spite of our predominantly female genders - the poll is skewed towards attraction to women rather than men.

Of course, having Bi/Pan sexual coming out on top (no pun intended ) isn't a surprise at all.  In fact this does make me start to wonder if in fact all human beings might actually be inherently bi/pan sexual and that sexuality is really a 'choice' we make based on experience and social factors, in much the same way that we 'chose' the kind of music we like.  What do people think of that idea?

I'd say those are very valid questions and some valid arguments as to the causality. I can't speak for everyone, so I'll explain my case briefly...

I'm MtF and attracted both sexually and romantically to women. I've liked other girls since preschool, and to be honest, until me and my older siblings got to be 18+, my parents didn't want us involved with anybody!

When I was mid-puberty at about 15/16 I was figuring out my gender and my orientation. I knew I was female inside but stuggled with what it'd mean to my orientation. I wasn't aware of transgender people so I was afraid of being feminine, and classified as a gay cisgender male. I had also felt a special connection to lesbians that I couldn't explain (at the time). To test all that I experimented a bit, and didn't 100% hate messing around with guys, but felt really nothing substantial for them either. I mainly liked how guys would describe me as "cute", something I think many girls like to hear, but I didn't feel the same back. The more I considered that I was a girl into other girls, the more it made sense, so that's how I say I'm oriented now.

[KabitTarah]

At this point, I might change my answer from "other" to bi/pan...
I have no question that I'm still interested in both after last night. We went to dinner at a bar/restaurant with some very interesting wait staff of both genders . The only real question is which side of bi I fall on...

[evecrook]

I think I've come to the conclusion that I'm hard wired bi since birth I became aware of my girl side at 4.

[missy1992]

I voted androsexual.
I have only been attracted to men/boys for the entirety of my life. I did have a girlfriend as a teenager (closet problems  ) but I did not find our sex life fulfilling. All of my fantasies involve men

I should also state, however, that I firmly believe that we are all bisexual to an extent. I am not labelling anyone here (only you have the power to give yourself one of any value) but I think that if the moons of saturn aligned, peace was achieved in the middle east, and I was trapped on a small island somewhere in the south pacific just me and some girl ... we could probably have some fun.

[Andrea_LS]

I voted androsexual.
I have only been attracted to men/boys for the entirety of my life. I did have a girlfriend as a teenager (closet problems  ) but I did not find our sex life fulfilling. All of my fantasies involve men

I should also state, however, that I firmly believe that we are all bisexual to an extent. I am not labelling anyone here (only you have the power to give yourself one of any value) but I think that if the moons of saturn aligned, peace was achieved in the middle east, and I was trapped on a small island somewhere in the south pacific just me and some girl ... we could probably have some fun.

My take on the "everyone's more than 0% bisexual" concept is that everyone is capable of being accepting of multiple genders, but not everyone prefers them. For me, when I experimented, I didn't find guys as revolting as I thought I would, but when I considered my attraction for girls, they were (for me anyway) incomparable. I know not everyone's like that. It's for this reason I don't consider myself bisexual. I'm more "tolerant" of men than "attracted", meanwhile I simply adore women .

[MadeleineG]

As a teenager, I considered myself "philosophically bisexual". I gave up when I realized that, not liking men at all made that somewhat absurd.

[FalseHybridPrincess]

Id rather be in a relationship with a girl, but I like guys too...so there you have it...I wish I didnt though , I wish I was a lesbian...wieeeeeeeeeeerd...cant help it though...maybe if I find a good girl someday who knows,,,

[Joanna Dark]

I always hoped I would be into girls since I have known I was trans or intersexed since forever but alas I got into a foot race with my best friend and he tackled me and then started straddling me like a mare and then I knew I was metaphorically fu=Ked. As well as being physically dry humped. He stopped when our other friends came around. He also thought I was intersexed but told me not to get a sex change even though never said a thing to him. I loved him. I still do in a way. But in any event I dated women afterwards and it just never worked. And I mean that quite literally. But with men...mmmm. It's so much different. Everything is so much different now. So I think you can try to make yourself liek something to fit into some role but nature sorts everything out and always wins. I don't know why but women just don't do it for me. And a big part of me still wants to make that work.

[evecrook]

I always hoped I would be into girls since I have known I was trans or intersexed since forever but alas I got into a foot race with my best friend and he tackled me and then started straddling me like a mare and then I knew I was metaphorically fu=Ked. As well as being physically dry humped. He stopped when our other friends came around. He also thought I was intersexed but told me not to get a sex change even though never said a thing to him. I loved him. I still do in a way. But in any event I dated women afterwards and it just never worked. And I mean that quite literally. But with men...mmmm. It's so much different. Everything is so much different now. So I think you can try to make yourself liek something to fit into some role but nature sorts everything out and always wins. I don't know why but women just don't do it for me. And a big part of me still wants to make that work.

I wouldn't try to figure it out men can be delicious

[Joanna Dark]

He once told me that I'd never had my heart broken until it was broken by a man.  Hmmmm.  I still don't get it, sorry.

it's because men can be oh so severe. but also oh so empathetic. But mainly oh so difficult.

I wouldn't try to figure it out men can be delicious

Yes they are yummy lol but I am really not used to how men treat me now. It's like I am not there sometimes and they will aks my BF questions about me, with me standing right next to him. Literally. They never eve shake my hand which is something that always happened upon meeting a guy pre-HRT. And they certainly never came up to me and started touching me. GAG. But I put a stop to that.

[evecrook]

there is definitely that other side to men

[FrancisAnn]

I'm a MtF nice woman & only sexually attracted to men & always have been my entire life.

[Andrea_LS]

Yes they are yummy lol but I am really not used to how men treat me now. It's like I am not there sometimes and they will aks my BF questions about me, with me standing right next to him. Literally. They never eve shake my hand which is something that always happened upon meeting a guy pre-HRT. And they certainly never came up to me and started touching me. GAG. But I put a stop to that.

The dark side of being accepted as a woman, perhaps

I'm thankful that there's guys out there that still manage to be considerate and sensitive despite a culture prodding them not to be.

[KabitTarah]

it's because men can be oh so severe. but also oh so empathetic. But mainly oh so difficult.

It sounds like women are just so much easier to relate to LOL

[Zeda]

Asexual, and married. It doesn't mean I have no sex drive (every few weeks or so I have a few bunny rabbit days, which my wifband appreciates ) However, sex rarely makes it onto my mind as there are usually more interesting things to do, like math, or staring at a wall (seriously, it provides for some neat meditation).

[Ashey]

sex rarely makes it onto my mind as there are usually more interesting things to do, like math

[KabitTarah]

Don't knock math! If you want a really good time, do more than one! (Maths).

[MadeleineG]

Don't knock math! If you want a really good time, do more than one! (Maths).

Would that make you a polymath?

[Violet Bloom]

Don't knock math! If you want a really good time, do more than one! (Maths).

  Maths are important to me.  I enjoy calculating my chances with a woman - this requires a number of complex equations.

eg. XX + XX = romp²

[Ashey]

I like math even less than my genitals.. >_<