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BE CAREFUL WHAT YOU POST!

Started by boddi, December 01, 2013, 11:50:03 AM

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boddi

Hi all.  I just wanted to let you know how appalled and dismayed I was by the ease of access with which the average computer-goer can access these explicit forums!   You don't even need to be a member to read about dilation or sexual issues!  The average ignorant, bigoted transphobe can get into our posts on vaginal depth, say, within around 2 clicks direct from Google!   If you put in, say, 'transsexual lubrication' in Google, one of the first links is DIRECT to a forum post, talking about differences between  GGs and us!  Clearly this is a huge cause for concern, and not just with sexual issues, but all issues relating to us.   This will make it harder for us to live normal 'invisible' lives if people can just search on Google and then within 5 minutes know ALL about us, from our careers and family and hobbies to our  intimate sex lives!  Very bad people, and though I do respect this place for what it is - very useful for us - it is also very useful for non-trans people to read up on us and learn.  Then, before you know it, the whole world knows about us, making stealth more difficult.   Indeed, false beliefs will even be perpetuated and started by non-trans accessing these forums so startlingly easily!   I do think that there should be a very strict 'screening' process here for both members and guests and 'other' people who have come across us (whether deliberate or not) to read and post ANYTHING.    I mean: you don't even need to be a Guest to read the Forums in all their gory and candid detail!   
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Devlyn

That's how people find us, hon. We have private areas of the site as well that aren't searchable. Hugs, Devlyn
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Jenna Marie

It's generally wise to assume that ANYTHING you post on the internet has the potential to become public. Even in the private forums and with good privacy settings, you just never know.

(This is not my legal name, and while everything I say about my trans experiences is 100% true, details like location and identifying information have been obscured to protect the innocent. [there's a reason I've never specified precisely which date I had GRS, even.] I recommend it.)
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Nicolette

Erm, welcome to the net. Which is why I never post hard data, not even my age, and use a pseudonym. But there's still no escaping the powers that be.
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Jamie D

Quote from: boddi on December 01, 2013, 11:50:03 AM
Hi all.  I just wanted to let you know how appalled and dismayed I was by the ease of access with which the average computer-goer can access these explicit forums!   You don't even need to be a member to read about dilation or sexual issues!  The average ignorant, bigoted transphobe can get into our posts on vaginal depth, say, within around 2 clicks direct from Google!   If you put in, say, 'transsexual lubrication' in Google, one of the first links is DIRECT to a forum post, talking about differences between  GGs and us!  Clearly this is a huge cause for concern, and not just with sexual issues, but all issues relating to us.   This will make it harder for us to live normal 'invisible' lives if people can just search on Google and then within 5 minutes know ALL about us, from our careers and family and hobbies to our  intimate sex lives!  Very bad people, and though I do respect this place for what it is - very useful for us - it is also very useful for non-trans people to read up on us and learn.  Then, before you know it, the whole world knows about us, making stealth more difficult.   Indeed, false beliefs will even be perpetuated and started by non-trans accessing these forums so startlingly easily!   I do think that there should be a very strict 'screening' process here for both members and guests and 'other' people who have come across us (whether deliberate or not) to read and post ANYTHING.    I mean: you don't even need to be a Guest to read the Forums in all their gory and candid detail!

Boddi, the site has a two-tiered system for posts.  Prior to August of this year, we had a section called "Just for Us" which contained topics and discussions that were deemed private by the member who posted the topic, or by a moderator who moved the topic into the private area.

That section was not viewable by the general public or crawled by bot programming.

It has now been converted and is part of the subscription/donor section of the board.

I have made a suggestion to make a new board outside of the subscription area for "Private Conversations," which could include issues like you have mentioned.  I believe there is a need for that.

We must remember that the site serves several functions, one of which is education to both the trans and cis communities about the issues which affect us.

thank you for your observations.
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Flan

Congrats, you've discovered what a publicly accessible forum is. This remind me of one of the rules we have.

Quote6. You should not give out personal information which may lead to your being identified, or contacted in person, by email or other means. ...

In other words don't post anything you don't want to see on Google just like an open twitter or FB profile. Haters are going to hate anyways so information on vajayjay's isn't going to change their opinion that starts with denying gender identity.
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Tristan

very true. i once had a classmate find out about my ECT and ED trough google. just have to be ready to explain
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Miss_Bungle1991

Honestly, I don't care about stuff like that. It would be very naive to assume that what you say on the net can't be found out by someone. I had one dude that found that I was trans via some googling and connecting a few dots. My response was this: "Look, dude, if you have a problem with me then we can stop this convo right now. I don't have time for any crap, all right?"

They were shocked and told me that they didn't care that I was trans. We've been chatting as pen pals ever since and we have met a couple times in person. He knows I have no desire to be with any dudes so there is no crap with sexual this or attraction that. It's no big deal.

There are many forums where guests can see all kinds of things. I don't care about anyone finding out a single thing about me via the net.
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kariann330

Welcome to a public forum. I gotta say that if this was a closed forum and i actually had to join before i could have read any of the topics, i would still be the scared, confused and suicidal person i was when i thought i was the only person who actually felt this way instead of just doing it for more money in the porn industry.

Also the fact that its a public forum is why i NEVER state my last name, city, county or email address on any thread or in a pm.
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Nicolette

Also, anything written on the net might as well be written in stone. I have posts that are still on the internet since they were posted in '94.
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Tristan

Quote from: Nicolette on December 02, 2013, 06:31:29 AM
Also, anything written on the net might as well be written in stone. I have posts that are still on the internet since they were posted in '94.
gez dont remind me. the college admissions board quoted my myspace page for University of Vermont. needless to say i didnt get in haha
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Mirian

Boddi,
let me just tell you that I share the VERY SAME concerns as you, and I must underline you made the better
thing to remind us of that. Anyone can reconstruct somebody else's identity with so few data one couldn't
even expect ! If just one is actually so motivated (or perversed) who really wants to.
It happened to me once !!! It was related to other less personal issues, though, but it was enough to me to
write on a local vet forum to ask help anonymously for a serious health problem my dog had, that in few
days a friend of mine called me asking whether my dog was then dead or not. BE CAREFUL !
It's damned full of bad boys around searching our specific topics with google to have some nice time, or
even worst, in hope to finally discover whether the girl they dated recently was perhaps one who underwent
SRS, cos he suspected she was a bit 'strange' or so...
But we can't definitely blind all forums ! Since I, for example, who had serious issues and are often spending
times searching in the Internet for good reasons, could have not had access to most precious info. And
that is true for most of us also, I think.
So I think the better thing to do is just what your title sounds like: BE CAREFUL WHAT YOU POST, and don't
tell stories, not just personal info, or other things which could lead to you one who is detective enough!
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