I need some help

[Crazy4Cyn]

Well, you've told all of us!  That is a huge step forward.  The more people you tell, the easier it gets to deal with this problem.  Don't be afraid to tell your counselor.  That is a giant step in solving this issue in your life.

Now dude, you say God doesn't make mistakes.  Don't tell that to any of the people born with other birth defects!  Perhaps you might be able to admit that God lets mistakes happen when you consider all the people that have been born without limbs or coherent minds.  I don't want you to change your beliefs, but you must admit that there are many things that we don't understand.  Don't put your faith in the hands of those who think in absolute terms.[/i]

Take care.  I'm glad that you have shared your feelings with us.

Cindi

People born with birth defects I always though it was maybe what the mother did during her pregnancy?  But I do believe God made them that way for a reason, and i guess God made me this way for a reason, but right now I do not understand why, and this whole religion thing gets in the way too. I don't believe God would send anyone to hell because of how they feel, but I'm afraid because of what other people say and what's in the bible and I don't want to go to hell. Ya know what I mean?  I don't believe it myself that God would ever do that, however there are other people who argue that subject. I know a woman who is a Christian and into the bible and she says God loves everyone no matter what, but if you are gay you are still going to hell. Although I am not Gay,there was no way I could convince her that it's not true. I know everyone has their beliefs, but that's where I get scared because I want to follow God's laws and not go to hell. But I don't believe that God would do that to anyone who was Gay, bi, or trans. It doesn't make sense to me.

Yeah, sometimes I feel like I am confident enough to tell her, but then i chicken out, because I wanna tell her so bad, i'm just scared too. Next time I see my counsler I'll let you  if I told her or not. This place has been a big help to me. Even if I never come out to my friends and Family I have more confidences then i did in the beginning to go out and actually to try be male. My problem is I'm sometimes afraid of what people think and I know I shouldn't, and that gets in the way sometimes. But other times I don't care at all.

[RebeccaFog]

just remember, it doesn't all have to be done in one day.

[Crazy4Cyn]

just remember, it doesn't all have to be done in one day.

Thanks. I am trying to take baby steps into being the real me. I'm even thinking about male names. I have a few in mind. For the people who changed your name, do you officially change it, or just call yourself by another name?

[Kat]

what i had to do was fill out some forms with the local courthouse, then I had to announce it in a newspaper type thing once a week (went with cheapest possible) for a few weeks, then i got a court date.  judge just asked me who it was for and after that, how old I was. then he signed it and i had the fun task of changing my id, social security, banks, etc.

[Dennis]

If you get to the point where you know for sure that you're transitioning, it makes sense to legally change it. Nothing like being pulled over after you grow a beard and having to show a drivers licence that says Tiffany Marie.

In the meantime though you could just use it if you're comfortable getting your friends to.

Dennis

[Kat]

Indeed, getting your friends to always use your preferred name is important.  Slip ups on their part can cause uncomfortable situations if you are around people you don't really know.  Trust me, its happened before at a party.

[RebeccaFog]

I use the name Rebecca here on this site and some of my friends call me Becky or Becca.

I am a male bodied person, but an androgyne. I'm okay with using my female name informally. Someday, maybe I'll change it legally just to stick a finger in the eye of convention, or I'll come up with a nongendered name for my legal self.

[cindianna_jones]

I know a woman who is a Christian and into the bible and she says God loves everyone no matter what, but if you are gay you are still going to hell. Although I am not Gay,there was no way I could convince her that it's not true. I know everyone has their beliefs, but that's where I get scared because I want to follow God's laws and not go to hell. But I don't believe that God would do that to anyone who was Gay, bi, or trans. It doesn't make sense to me.

You know Crazy, that doesn't make sense to me either!  What would that women think if you were to tell her that SHE is gay and you won't believe otherwise? She is gay and going to hell and that is all there is to it because it says so in the Bible.  You tell her that.

Do you have the option to attend another church?  If you can, visit a service of the Metropolitan Community Church.  It will blow your mind.  I know you are not gay.  The MCC is a church that is mostly gay but they accept everyone.  You will come to know a more loving and accepting God with this organization.  There are others out there as well.

By all means, check out our spirituality section here in the forum.  Post your question there.  David Sheldon, our resident pastor, will be happy to help set your mind at ease.

Now before you go any further, I have this to ask of you:  We are God's children are we not?  Can you think of any mortal parent who would cast their child, who they love, into hell regardless of what they have done?  Is God any less compassionate than that man or woman you see in your mind?  I think not. We tend to humanize God with our imperfect vengeful and humanistic traits.  God, the creator and our eternal parent, could never be that imperfect.

Set your mind at ease.  Post in the spirituality form here where David Sheldon, one of the most decent people I know on line, will help out.

And remember this, my friend.  You are a loved and cherished child of God.  You are perfect... you just don't know it yet.

Your druish princess,

Cindi

[Crazy4Cyn]

You know Crazy, that doesn't make sense to me either!  What would that women think if you were to tell her that SHE is gay and you won't believe otherwise? She is gay and going to hell and that is all there is to it because it says so in the Bible.  You tell her that. [/i][/b]

ok

Do you have the option to attend another church?  If you can, visit a service of the Metropolitan Community Church.  It will blow your mind.  I know you are not gay.  The MCC is a church that is mostly gay but they accept everyone.  You will come to know a more loving and accepting God with this organization.  There are others out there as well.

I'm not sure what churches are around here where I live. The one i got to is going to be shut down soon.


Now before you go any further, I have this to ask of you:  We are God's children are we not?  Can you think of any mortal parent who would cast their child, who they love, into hell regardless of what they have done?  Is God any less compassionate than that man or woman you see in your mind?  I think not. We tend to humanize God with our imperfect vengeful and humanistic traits.  God, the creator and our eternal parent, could never be that imperfect.

I agree with you here on this.


By all means, check out our spirituality section here in the forum.  Post your question there.  David Sheldon, our resident pastor, will be happy to help set your mind at ease.

Thanks. i will check this out.

Posted on: July 09, 2007, 10:02:06 PM

Indeed, getting your friends to always use your preferred name is important.  Slip ups on their part can cause uncomfortable situations if you are around people you don't really know.  Trust me, its happened before at a party.

You mean using my real given name? I don't think I'd have the money to change my name and go through all that paper work and stuff. I could use my last name which is a unisex type name. Am I able to use my last name? Their's some people at my work who call me by my last name as a nickname.

Posted on: July 09, 2007, 10:08:00 PM

If you get to the point where you know for sure that you're transitioning, it makes sense to legally change it. Nothing like being pulled over after you grow a beard and having to show a drivers licence that says Tiffany Marie.

In the meantime though you could just use it if you're comfortable getting your friends to.

Dennis

Cool thanks, i'll keep that in mind.

Posted on: July 09, 2007, 10:09:37 PMI use the name Rebecca here on this site and some of my friends call me Becky or Becca.

I am a male bodied person, but an androgyne. I'm okay with using my female name informally. Someday, maybe I'll change it legally just to stick a finger in the eye of convention, or I'll come up with a nongendered name for my legal self

That's cool.