Why do trans girls SEEM like such negative nancys?

[Violet Bloom]

 I sincerely appreciate the long-time members sticking around here, regardless of their age.  It helps greatly to retain the wealth of experience and it maintains the 'family feeling' that we're known for.  I don't want to end up a stranger on Susan's by the time my transition completes.  This forum is always much more than a support tool.  It often is and could be much more of a social network but at the very least is an extremely fun place to hang around and chat on without any kind of obligation.

  That said, the discussions I've had here and the resources available carried me through a long and anxious period in the early days of my journey.  I give Susan's most of the credit for me avoiding referral to long-winded one-on-one mental therapy because I was able to talk-out everything in my head before clearing the wait lists for an HRT prescribing doctor.  By the time I met my doctor I was almost perfectly at ease with my situation and presented female to them from day one.

  Wow - just noticed I'm reply #100 in this thread.  Us 'Nancies' are a prolific bunch, and on the whole, rather positive.

[evecrook]

I sincerely appreciate the long-time members sticking around here, regardless of their age.  It helps greatly to retain the wealth of experience and it maintains the 'family feeling' that we're known for.  I don't want to end up a stranger on Susan's by the time my transition completes.  This forum is always much more than a support tool.  It often is and could be much more of a social network but at the very least is an extremely fun place to hang around and chat on without any kind of obligation.

  That said, the discussions I've had here and the resources available carried me through a long and anxious period in the early days of my journey.  I give Susan's most of the credit for me avoiding referral to long-winded one-on-one mental therapy because I was able to talk-out everything in my head before clearing the wait lists for an HRT prescribing doctor.  By the time I met my doctor I was almost perfectly at ease with my situation and presented female to them from day one.

  Wow - just noticed I'm reply #100 in this thread.  Us 'Nancies' are a prolific bunch, and on the whole, rather positive   

Susan's has helped me with a lot of doubts and made the path smoother

[Miss_Bungle1991]

Us 'Nancies' are a prolific bunch, and on the whole, rather positive.

I'm not! I hate everything and I think that everything sucks!! GRRRRRR!!!

(Except for Harsh Noise, Ambient, Experimental, Metal, Rock, Jazz, Classical, music. Writing fics, A few sitcoms and cartoons, and a few comedians (some living, some dead) and certain comfort foods. And.....other stuff.

[Carrie Liz]

First of all, Carrie, I'm looking at your avatar and your change is incredible, amazing! That is sooo neat!!! I've done the same thing in going back years on this site and I've noticed that most of the girls here then aren't here now. On another site I can't even name here, it's like that too, and at one point in time I needed to vent, but there was lots and lots of BS there, plus I didn't need it anymore. Everything you just said is very true! With the progress you've made it seems you won't be on forever either.

Thank you very much. But I don't plan on going anywhere. My goal since day one has always been to help people. And if you ask me, just like the OP pointed out, the ratio of new girls asking for support to experienced girls who can actually give that support, is woefully low. If you ask me, more of us should stick around to pay it forward, show that transition really can be a positive experience, and give some actual constructive post-transition advice to people. Because while most of my best friendships have indeed come from girls who were at the same stage of hormones as me, and who basically said "I don't know, but we'll get through it together," like Heather and Zoe, most of the biggest help that I've received in terms of reassurance has been from long post-transition girls, who are unfortunately few and far between because they're mostly just out living their lives.

Hell, I'm kind of shocked to notice that now I'm actually considered one of the more experienced ones, because most of the girls asking questions are either pre-hormones or within the first 5 months or so of hormones. So on a lot of questions regarding HRT timelines in terms of breast growth, muscle atrophy, and a bunch of other things, I'm actually one of the voices of experience. Never saw that coming. But nonetheless, I greatly appreciate every person who is post-transition and yet sticks around to help people, and can inject some positivity into this site and show people that it doesn't have to be such a negative thing.

[KabitTarah]

I'm not! I hate everything and I think that everything sucks!! GRRRRRR!!!

(Except for Harsh Noise, Ambient, Experimental, Metal, Rock, Jazz, Classical, music. Writing fics, A few sitcoms and cartoons, and a few comedians (some living, some dead) and certain comfort foods. And.....other stuff.

Not to mention kabits... ♥

[LordKAT]

Not to mention kabits... ♥

and KATs!

[MiaOhMya!]

You can say I'm negative all you like, so long as you call me NANCY!   

I sincerely appreciate the long-time members sticking around here, regardless of their age.  It helps greatly to retain the wealth of experience and it maintains the 'family feeling' that we're known for.  I don't want to end up a stranger on Susan's by the time my transition completes.  This forum is always much more than a support tool.  It often is and could be much more of a social network but at the very least is an extremely fun place to hang around and chat on without any kind of obligation.

Nicely put. I agree...and it's those people who keep me hanging around. Also this site helped me to deal with reality, and the reality of our situation is that we currently face some obstacles and I definitely had my share of negative experiences coming out. However for every person who hated me and refused to accept me, there were 10 who accepted me or just didn't care...and obviously I didn't need help with the positive experiences.