Recently a lot of my thoughts regarding my husbands 'coming out' have been 'why now?'
The last year or so has been a very challenging one for our family.
Last September my daughter at the age of 2 and a half was diagnosed with a rare form of cancer, this resulted in an operation to remove a tumour from her pelvis, the operation was successful but another tumour formed in her skull in February so she started on an 18 month course of chemotherapy and steroid treatment. Thankfully, other than the complications of a low immune system, she is doing well.
I suffer from a condition called M.E, and in march the government decided to alter out disability benefits system, they took my sick money from me which led to huge financial difficulty, our out goings went up much more than we were used to, and our income went down drastically.
To top off our year in September my husband was diagnosed with bi polar.
Add that to the usual stresses of being a wife with 2 young children lol, things were pretty rough.
So when my husband told him he was going to transition into a woman my first thoughts were 'what else is life going to through at me?!' Which led to the 'why now' thoughts.
But, now I'm thinking more clearly, why not now? Not just including trans issues, any life changing problem, can never come at a right time.
Yes I had a lot of crap going on when the 3 bombshells hit, but would it have been better or easier to deal with if life had been going great? No.
I would have been sailing through life blissfully thinking everything was fine and bam, my world gets turned upside down.
We have to take each day as it comes, be thankful for the good and learn to take the bad as it comes.
