Facebook question.

[kariann330]

So this is gonna be one of those super short questions.

If you already created a new Facebook account, when did you decide to close the old one, and if you haven't, does visiting the old profile ever cause that 50/50 mix of depression and dysphoria to hit?

[Katie]

I never had a boys facebook. I just have a woman one and I am 100 percent non trans there.

[Caitlyn]

I haven't created a new FB account yet, but I've been thinking about doing it lately. I'm pretty sure I'd hold onto my old one for quite awhile. It might be kind of a hard thing to do though, having two FB pages, since I'd have to be on a constant watch to make sure I don't accidentally out myself on my old page (I'm out to most of my friends, but my family doesn't know at all).

But yes, I completely understand what you mean by "that 50/50 mix of depression and dysphoria." I'd much rather be on some other site (Susan's, tumblr, etc.) where I don't have to hide my true self from the world.

[latoya fox]

i had two accounts, male mode,and female mode, deleted the male one over the summer and made the female one over 2 years ago, moved all my friends  and family to my fem account

[kariann330]

I haven't created a new FB account yet, but I've been thinking about doing it lately. I'm pretty sure I'd hold onto my old one for quite awhile. It might be kind of a hard thing to do though, having two FB pages, since I'd have to be on a constant watch to make sure I don't accidentally out myself on my old page (I'm out to most of my friends, but my family doesn't know at all).

But yes, I completely understand what you mean by "that 50/50 mix of depression and dysphoria." I'd much rather be on some other site (Susan's, tumblr, etc.) where I don't have to hide my true self from the world.

Don't have a tumblr....all i ever see when i go there is amateur porn, or professional porn attempting to look like amateur porn....as far as my new fb, im myself on there 100% of the time. My old fb tho has been neglected a lot recently. I have my Kari account logged into the Android app 24/7 but only get on my old one with the mobile browser....but yeah, it might be going bye bye soon.

[Missy~rmdlm]

It seems I'm a rare one that I transitioned my Facebook account. I changed the name on Facebook on the same day as my legal name change. The vast majority of family and friends had received a letter in advance, everyone else got the same legal notice that was in the newspaper published to my Facebook account.
I occasionally post activism topics. I very rarely talk about my own transition, the last certifiably trans post was last April.

[FinallyMe84]

I made my new account after I came out to most of my family and friends. I pretty much only use my new fem account now, and will get rid of my old account after I've told a few remaining people. I have a lot less "friends" on my new account than before, but most of the people I really care about have been very accepting and positive

[kathyk]

Had a joint account with my wife, then opened a new one under my chosen name and stopped using the joint account a few days before I came out to my sisters and brothers.  Now I have two accounts so my 6 sisters and brothers don't read the things I say in private to other transwomen.

[Lauren5]

I simply changed my name and gender on facebook.

[sam79]

This was very simple for me, I had no male facebook account. And my female facebook is trans-free, although all friends already know.

[Misato]

I didn't have Facebook at the time I went full time but I did have LinkedIn. There I told a few of the people I was closer to what was about to happen in advance then, changed my name and updated the picture because I didn't want to lose my network by creating a new account. Ended up being no big deal really.

[suzifrommd]

So this is gonna be one of those super short questions.

If you already created a new Facebook account, when did you decide to close the old one, and if you haven't, does visiting the old profile ever cause that 50/50 mix of depression and dysphoria to hit?

I changed over when I went fulltime. I used the invitation to friend my new account as  a way to come out. About half my old friends came over to the new account.

I hardly ever visit the old account. Not sure if I even remember the password. No, no dysphoria there. Happiness actually, reminding me how far I've come.

[Paulagirl]

Same here. Revisiting my old FB page only reinforces me that I'm not that person anymore, and I get a sense of contentment. I never post on my old page. Even tho' everyone knows about my transition, even they don't need that reminder.

[ganjina]

I was wondering what to do myself. What would be so problematic about just changing name and gender on your current FB account? I do not want to spend months with 2 accounts or gradual process of anything, either make a new one move everyone in quickly and close the old one, or just change name and gender, which are the pros and cons?

[FalseHybridPrincess]

I m actually wandering about that too ganjina...

[Anna++]

I transitioned my facebook about a week after full time, as my announcement to everybody who I hadn't talked to since college (or even high school!).  The profile picture I put up was  my most "liked" post ever!  I try not to talk about trans things on there since the only reason I joined twitter was to post my transition updates.

[KittyKat]

I'm just waiting till I go full time to switch name and gender on my facebook, by then I'll have told everyone that warrants hearing it directly and the rest of the pieces will fall where they may. If it weren't for the Army I would just go full time now but I'm waiting for my discharge and plan on going to school as myself.

[Misato]

I don't talk about trans things much on the FB but I do from time to time. I don't think I'll ever talk about things like pondering SRS there (out of personal desire for informed opinions and I don't want to see others talking about their colonoscopy or something), but mentioning trans issues from time to time seems to be outright welcomed.

Those who don't like seeing those things can unfriend or hide my posts.

Anyway I take a stance of being trans is a normal everyday thing cause, well, it is. We're out there everyday living our boring everyday lives. But I'm aware my level of dysphoria lets me handle it that way. I suspect we all know some trans people who are so traumatized from being born with the wrong body the very idea of them treating it like no big thing is unthinkable. So, they have to create new accounts as part of their healing process. That's what the name of this game is all about: healing.

[Jenna Marie]

I changed my original account to new name and gender, and I did it as soon as 100% of close family and friends knew. It was surprisingly easy, except that occasionally now distant acquaintances (who didn't interact with me much/at all before) will have no idea who this person on their friends list is.

[Sheala]

I actually have 2 one that still base my male persona due to some friends and family that do not know yet. And I have a transwoman account and all that are friends there are fully await. Once every one knows I will probably keep them both but will share on both.