Sex, seriously, who really needs it?

[kariann330]

Need it...no....like it tho...yes, yes yes oh god yes!!!

[Miss_Bungle1991]

i think it is kind of weird that so many people are so blase' about sex. I almost want to say your doing it wrong, but if you aren't doing it, well then I just don't know. I will say sex is much better as a woman. But it is still pretty awesome...

<3 Liv

It's just a personal preference on my part. It doesn't really have anything to do with gender dysphoria. If were a genetic male, genetic female, etc, I would still feel the same way. Yeah, I've engaged in self-stimulation but I don't want to elaborate on that too much.

[Adam (birkin)]

What's funny is that I often very consciously think about the fact that sex is gross and I'd rather have nothing to do with it. But physically it seems to be a very necessary evil. If I could become asexual I'd jump on that (lol) opportunity so fast.

[vlmitchell]

Sex. Gross? I'm totally not on board. I need sex like I need air, water, food, and love. While I completely support your rights to do what you will with your life and time, I have no idea what you're talking about.

I love everything about sex with whomever I have sex with be it my partner, a long time lover, or a new fling, poised to burn out in a moment. I like sweet, fast, slow, kinky, vanilla, straight, not, multiple partners at once or just one to dote on, whatever. Orgasms are a joy and making a partner climax is one of my favorite things to do in life. The tension before you kiss for the first time. The thrill as your body responds to their desire and theirs does likewise. The sharing of pleasure and desire mixed in a cauldron of bodies, friction, and sensations. The power that you hold over them and they over you.

Exploring sex is a fascinating pastime. Finding new ways to excite and arouse, pleasure and be pleasured. Finding new kinks that you didn't know that you had or finding a partner who shares one of your favorites. Introducing them to your own private world of sensuality is one of the most openly trusting and sharing things that you can do in this world.

Ahh, I completely need sex and cannot imagine life without it. Maybe when I'm old and too frail to want things like that but... no, no I don't think I'll ever get tired of it.

[Miss_Bungle1991]

Yeah, but it's totally different when you have always been an outcast, hate the idea of one night stands, and can be painfully shy in a situation that involves looking for a romantic encounter. If I am just talking to someone in terms of a normal conversation, I can blab all night as long as I feel comfortable around them. But when it comes to sex?

Nah. I'll pass.

I just don't find it to be all that important in that regard. Self stimulation for the purpose of maintaining healthy tissues and prostate? Sure. But to me, that's like a "diagnostic" thing, really.

[suzifrommd]

When I'm post-op and healed, I think I'll be curious as to how it feels.

But really, at this point, I'd just like to be held.

[Rachel]

I love the feel of another body next to on or over me. I love the feel of skin, hot and sweaty. The desire went from very low to very very low on HRT. But when started sex is fantastic, IMHO. After sex is perhaps best, the bond and cuddling are fantastic. 

[vlmitchell]

I must be the only girl on the planet who had her sex drive increase (from high to insanely high) on HRT.

[Shawn Sunshine]

As someone who has a micro penis, the act of missionary sex has been sadly, all too anti climatic, but everything else has been enjoyable!

[Jessica Merriman]

I love it! I did notice a change after HRT though. Before it was get it and move on, then repeat. Now, I want to spend more of what I would call quality time and making the experience last much longer. Cuddling, canoodling (whatever that is) and getting more out of it on an emotional level as well as physical. Of course there are times when the universe is aligned and you just want it NOW! I mean, NOW! 

[Shantel]

I'm seventy and my spouse is sixty six, we still love each other more than anything and sex is still an expression of our feelings for each other. Sex just for the sake of f**King is shallow and frankly repulsive.

[Rachel]

Urban dictionary:

Canoodling. snuggling, kissing, heavy petting, making out. After laying in bed talking and flirting for a while, we started canoodling. mark as favorite buy ...

[LordKAT]

canoodling was thought to be sward fights with those styrofoam noodles they use in swim pools.

[Jessica Merriman]

It doesn't mean floating down a river in a two person craft? *giggles* 

[vlmitchell]

I'm seventy and my spouse is sixty six, we still love each other more than anything and sex is still an expression of our feelings for each other. Sex just for the sake of f**King is shallow and frankly repulsive.

As you like it. If he's/she/they are beautiful to me, think I am, and we'd like to deepen our experience of each other through shared pleasure/lust/desire/orgasm then, personally I'm very happy to take them up on that offer. I even like it when *gasp* my partner wants that kind of thing (and she does... lots). If you think it's repulsive, that's fine and your opinion but please don't slut-shame.

Personally, I find that loyalty, commitment, love, and a desire for a shared future and family make my primary relationship as special as it is. Orgasms and sexual play are just what they are and if anyone wants to judge me for that distinction, I probably don't want to know them. I won't make exception in that regard.

[Jessica Merriman]

Personally, I find that loyalty, commitment, love, and a desire for a shared future and family make my primary relationship as special as it is. Orgasms and sexual play are just what they are and if anyone wants to judge me for that distinction, I probably don't want to know them. I won't make exception in that regard.

I can totally relate baby! Why are we here if we can't enjoy each other and live, feel and love.

[vlmitchell]

I can totally relate baby! Why are we here if we can't enjoy each other and live, feel and love.

** Highfive **

[Tori]

Who needs it?

Me!

The physical need has greatly reduced, I often say my sex drive has dropped like a rock, and it has, my male sex drive has. It is being replaced with something else, perhaps that something else was always there but my male drive was so intense, I never had a chance to notice it. I really don't know.

What I do know is I still think about sex a lot. I just don't get as turned on by those thoughts right now. I do however feel, sorta' sexy, sexual, erogenous. The woman in me is emerging and she is not a nun.

I think it funny and telling, that I have spent a good deal of my posts here, since starting HRT, talking about sex, enjoyment of sex, pleasure, and happiness. I am enjoying this journey, and it is liberating. I have talked more openly about these things here than I have anywhere else in my life.

So yup Big Head, I need sex. It is a means of expression. It is intimacy with another human. It is very fun and, for me, wildly important.

[vlmitchell]

The physical need has greatly reduced, I often say my sex drive has dropped like a rock, and it has, my male sex drive has. It is being replaced with something else, perhaps that something else was always there but my male drive was so intense, I never had a chance to notice it. I really don't know.

What I do know is I still think about sex a lot. I just don't get as turned on by those thoughts right now. I do however feel, sorta' sexy, sexual, erogenous. The woman in me is emerging and she is not a nun.

Wait 'till you get to experience what it's like to actually let her out and play. Best. Thing. Ever.

[JLT1]

I need sex like I need air.  I don't mind my penis either.  Really hate everything else about being male including my testicles.  (OK, weird but that's me.)  I think the reason I accept my penis is because of what I can do with it for my wife.  One of the best aspects of sex is what it does for my partner.  Seeing them wiggle in orgasm is fun.  I also like my orgasms better now than I did before HRT.  Hot and sweaty, rough and tumble, slow and gentle or playful (to name but a few): it's all good.  Messy – yep.  But crowded showers are fun as well and everything else can be washed.



Jen