Orgasm-Post op...Help.!

[Julo]

It took me 13 months after grs if I remember correct. That was with a vibrator by myself. And I would say it was intense. Different but definitely intense. My first O with someone else was just last December that being 22 months post op. And that orgasm...that was out of this world. I was all shaken up by it for three days... But it is definitely harder to get there and I must agree on that you should not try too hard to get it. For me at least it will for sure not come when I want it and try to get it. I am actually not very lucky with my nerves. I don´t have a lot of sensation, but it still it´s possible. Mental training!

[Agent_J]

Agent_J, good to hear you have finally had your first, hopefully they will come easier and be more joyful for you as you learn more about your new parts.

Sadly, it doesn't seem to be working out that way. By my count I've had around 30 now and they're all exactly like that. It saddens me, really, because it feels like all of the work and none of the fun - I get everything but the pleasure.

I do try toys every so often, but they have yet to do anything for me.

[msrobyn-alice]

It took me 11 months post-SRS to have my first orgasm.  When I did, it was in my sleep.  I woke up from a "wet dream" -- wish I remember what the dream was about -- in full orgasm.  What a relief!  I had begun to think it would never happen.  My O happened after going on vacation and long talks with a girlfriend who had her surgery at the same time I did.  Her reassurance + vacation relaxation + dream ==> O. 

Since then I invested in a lelo vibrator.  I highly recommend it.  Combined with a wandering mind, it's wonderful!

BTW, that first wake-from-sleep in full orgasm happened, of all places, in Chisinau, Moldova.  Will wonders never cease. . . .

[Mirian]

My first O was just some 15 days after surgery, including squirt, by stimulating the labia/clitoral area.
I've always been orgasmic since then.
It just took me as long as 10 years before being able to reach my first vaginal orgasm! But that was just
because I got a short vagina and I never felt to experiment enough with it before (I didn't love it and
I didn't believe it could have ever worked!)

[Missy~rmdlm]

Just a superficial observation. 2 1/2 months is awfully early to expect normal response. I expect improvement with nerves reconnecting over the next year for you.

[Vicky]

Just a superficial observation. 2 1/2 months is awfully early to expect normal response. I expect improvement with nerves reconnecting over the next year for you.

Spot on Missy!!  As I think I said above (or elsewhere) 6 months gets the feelings in the right spot, and between 11 & 12 gets the really sensitive stuff sensitized.  That from experience!!!

[Agent_J]

Just a superficial observation. 2 1/2 months is awfully early to expect normal response. I expect improvement with nerves reconnecting over the next year for you.

It is. Unfortunately, some of our providers really like to setup unrealistic expectations in the misguided effort to assuage our fears.

[Jenna Marie]

I agree that 2.5 months is awfully early. I was fully sensate the moment I woke up, and it still took me about three months to be orgasmic in my sleep... and closer to a year to manage it while awake.  Also, that was by myself. It's important to relearn your new body and responses before expecting much out of partnered sex - as the women's magazines always say, if YOU don't know what you want, you can't expect a partner to.

(Brassard's materials did warn about the risks of nerve damage and numbness, and said it'd take up to two years for everything to reconnect, so I was actually rather surprised that it all came online so quickly.)

[Nicolette]

I agree that 2.5 months is awfully early. I was fully sensate the moment I woke up, and it still took me about three months to be orgasmic in my sleep... and closer to a year to manage it while awake.  Also, that was by myself. It's important to relearn your new body and responses before expecting much out of partnered sex - as the women's magazines always say, if YOU don't know what you want, you can't expect a partner to.

(Brassard's materials did warn about the risks of nerve damage and numbness, and said it'd take up to two years for everything to reconnect, so I was actually rather surprised that it all came online so quickly.)

Jenna, when I woke up, I couldn't feel my legs, let alone my crotch. After sensation returned to my legs, all I could feel was the huge nappy (diaper) filled with bags of ice. Were you getting full sensation when they were changing dressing?

At the moment, I've only attempted vaginal orgasms, as these seem relatively easy to obtain. As I've mentioned, I got these from day 71 or so.

[Jenna Marie]

Nicolette : Yes, I was (and yeah, it was about as much fun as you'd expect). I did have the usual nerve remapping issues for a couple days - it felt like the dressing was on my scrotum, that sort of thing - but definitely full input. And while I appreciated it later, I could've done without it early on!

I don't really notice much difference between vaginal and other orgasms personally. Anything happening down there for me involves both vagina and clit to *some* degree, and it's hard for me to distinguish. Enjoyable, though!

[Nicolette]

Jenna, in the last month I got a sudden new intense sensation along the labia minora. It actually feels like I'm touching the corona of the glans. I don't know if Brassard has spread the glans about a bit, beyond the clitoris. The clitoris itself feels like I'm poking the top of the glans. The labia majora feels simply like the scrotum.

[Jenna Marie]

Nicolette : The neat but confusing thing about this surgery is that the nerves don't necessarily all go where the old skin did... so it's entirely possible that's a stray nerve from the glans even though the skin used for the labia is generally scrotal. (I get the impression that sometimes the nerves reconnect where *they* want to instead of somewhere predictable, too.) The good news is that your brain will eventually remap things, and that weirdness of feeling like the old anatomy will go away. That took only a day or two for me, but that's likely b/c my nerves were [I assume?] mostly not cut or injured during surgery. I've certainly heard of women who took a year or more to be 100% accurate in the brain-body map.