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loneliness

Started by latoya fox, January 14, 2014, 11:58:36 PM

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Lauren5

Quote from: Malachite on January 15, 2014, 09:43:13 AMThat's true!  I could go for one right now.   ;D
Maybe tonight, I'm full from breakfast (shouldn't be, only had a cup of coffee, a glass of milk, and a bagel) so until then ;)
Quote from: latoya fox on January 15, 2014, 09:45:26 AMjust glad i'm not the only one who feels this way, thank you ladies.
If I lived near you, I think we could totally hang at the mall or something. I need to get my brows waxed anyways, why not do it and then shop?
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Full time: 12/12/13
Started hormones: 26/3/14
FFS: No clue, winter/spring 2014/15 maybe?
SRS: winter/spring 2014/15?
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stephaniec

an old fashioned greasy restaurant pizza. sounds great
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kathyk

I wish there was a way to lift all those feelings off your shoulders.  And not just you, but all the girls who've opened up in this tread.  Building friendships and not pushing away those who've started to become friends is incredibly difficult.  Id say at least 80% of us are introverts, and we build self issolated lives as a way to avoid close friendships.  We don't want others to know our secrets, and yet we don't realize those potential close friends may be feeling issolated also.  They may not be trans, or gay, or bi ... but they're probably alone.

Last year there were a few girls on Susan's who got together out on the west coast in Portland or Seattle or someplace (?).  Not sure axactly how it worked out, but I actually think it'd be nice to get a small group of girls from Susan's together for a lunch or dinner.  Maybe some of the members here should plan something like that again.

Anyway, I'm going to an issolated area of Michigan on Friday, and it's a bit scarry to leave the girls I made friends with behind.  Especially the girls in the therapy groups because our dinners after group sessions are filled with wonderful, open, and girly kinds of talk about our lives, transitions, and bodies.  And now I'm going to look once again for the same types of friendships in a little place called Houghton, and God is that gonna be difficult.   :P






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Lauren5

Quote from: stephaniec on January 15, 2014, 09:56:54 AMan old fashioned greasy restaurant pizza. sounds great
The one pizza I had in New York (in JFK's Terminal 8) was just how I thought it would be; big, floppy, kinda burnt on the bottom, and some greasy cheese.

I actually enjoyed the one Chicago style pizza I had in Lansing over the one in Chicago :D
Could have been because Gino's East was mega busy that night.
Quote from: kathyk on January 15, 2014, 10:02:49 AMAnyway, I'm going to an issolated area of Michigan on Friday, and it's a bit scarry to leave the girls I made friends with behind.  Especially the girls in the therapy groups because our dinners after group sessions are filled with wonderful, open, and girly kinds of talk about our lives, transitions, and bodies.  And now I'm going to look once again for the same types of friendships in a little place called Houghton, and God is that gonna be difficult.   :P
Have fun in the UP. Or whatever fun you can have. If you end up going to Winter Carnival next month, take pictures!

Don't forget, you have me nearby, born to a family of Yoopers, so I'm not so far :)
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Started hormones: 26/3/14
FFS: No clue, winter/spring 2014/15 maybe?
SRS: winter/spring 2014/15?
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amber1964

Being lonely is not a conditon unique to trans people. So, the answer to it always lies with yourself. Sometimes its easy to correct your own behaviour and other times its difficult. I moved when I transitioned and did not have one single friend. I have made a number of friends, all cis sexual females, it is not hard for me but I also went out of my way to engage people.

My point is that there is no need to be lonely if you dont want to be. But if you intentionally isolate yourself then you likely will be. This is an issue of personality and our situation can emphasize this issue. But like may things with some effort it can be overcome.

So yes, I know how you feel and have had that feeling myself. But no, it is not something that naturally goes along with being trans and not all trans people feel that way.
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stephaniec

Quote from: Willow on January 15, 2014, 10:06:14 AM
The one pizza I had in New York (in JFK's Terminal 8) was just how I thought it would be; big, floppy, kinda burnt on the bottom, and some greasy cheese.

I actually enjoyed the one Chicago style pizza I had in Lansing over the one in Chicago :D
Could have been because Gino's East was mega busy that night.Have fun in the UP. Or whatever fun you can have. If you end up going to Winter Carnival next month, take pictures!

Don't forget, you have me nearby, born to a family of Yoopers, so I'm not so far :)
Lauries  pizza in Chicago is possibly the best greasy pizza around been at the same spot for at least 60 years.
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Lauren5

Quote from: stephaniec on January 15, 2014, 10:25:52 AMLauries  pizza in Chicago is possibly the best greasy pizza around been at the same spot for at least 60 years.
I'll keep that in mind for next time I visit Chicago.
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Full time: 12/12/13
Started hormones: 26/3/14
FFS: No clue, winter/spring 2014/15 maybe?
SRS: winter/spring 2014/15?
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Trisha

I am only a loner because that is what others decided I should be.
The way I see it, they were judging themselves unworthy to be my friends.
Where then does the pain really come from? From being alone? Or from forgiving and loving those who reject me?
Perhaps both.
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latoya fox

i agree trisha. people in my town are rude and close minded so i get treated like "the town tr***y" so i try to stay away from them
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