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I'm having a "I'm Ugly" day

Started by Genzen, January 22, 2014, 08:53:10 AM

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Genzen

Does anyone else have these days? If I look at my head from the side I feel extremely ugly. The overall shape of my head is ugly. My nose is ugly, my face is ugly. I remember the last time I seriously considered transition I reached this point of feeling so ugly that it made me change my mind because life is easier being an ugly guy than an ugly woman.
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LordKAT

Eye of the beholder thing. Your opinion is colored by many things and is often not quite the same to anyone else. I think everyone has those days.
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Jill F

Objects in the mirror may be sexier than they appear...
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Genzen

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LordKAT

Quote from: Jill F on January 22, 2014, 09:20:13 AM
Objects in the mirror may be sexier than they appear...

That is going on my bathroom mirror. Good one!
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Lauren5

Yep, today is one of those days. I've only had 2 "beauty" days, one of which is in my profile pic. The other was last wednesday.
I feel beautiful, until I see a mirror, and all my masculine features are brought out and make me look super ugly.
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Oriah

I used to have these days all the time....I would get up, take care of facial hair, do my hair, do my makeup, get ready to go to work, then look in the mirror and this terrible realization would hit me 'this is the BEST I'm going to look all day.....and I'm already barely passing at a quick glance"

Now that the hormones have had longer to work, I pretty much constantly.  I still have remnants of facial hair, and some days I look like a hirsute woman, but that's okay, it's a pretty common condition...and I always look dog tired and don't spend much time on beautification anymore but that's okay too....I'm a mommy now, and when you're carrying a four month old the world seems to give you a free pass for looking like crap.

I still have days where I feel really unattractive, but I've given myself permission to look bad.....some days it's just not worth it to try to impress the world
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FalseHybridPrincess

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Sephirah

Occasionally I have an "I'm not ugly" day. But they're few, far between, and usually involve some amount of sleep deprivation and/or minor hallucination.
Natura nihil frustra facit.

"You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection." ~ Buddha.

If you're dealing with self esteem issues, maybe click here. There may be something you find useful. :)
Above all... remember: you are beautiful, you are valuable, and you have a shining spark of magnificence within you. Don't let anyone take that from you. Embrace who you are. <3
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Nero

Quote from: Sephirah on January 22, 2014, 10:06:44 AM
Occasionally I have an "I'm not ugly" day. But they're few, far between, and usually involve some amount of sleep deprivation and/or minor hallucination.

Even if you looked like this



you'd still be the most beautiful thing ever.

And i'm sure you look fine too Gerzen.  :)
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Ms Grace

Quote from: Oriah on January 22, 2014, 09:59:41 AM
I still have days where I feel really unattractive, but I've given myself permission to look bad.....some days it's just not worth it to try to impress the world

As do all cis women, even the ones generally regarded as drop dead gorgeous. It's a sad fact of being human that we are our own worst critics. When I have days like that I'll either force myself to find something I can admit is attractive or avoid the mirror altogether that day!
Grace
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Transition 1.0 (Julie): HRT 1989-91
Self-denial: 1991-2013
Transition 2.0 (Grace): HRT June 24 2013
Full-time: March 24, 2014 :D
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Genzen

I'm wondering if maybe I'm too critical of everyone. Even in my own head I think things about others looks. Perhaps it could help to reduce this thought process of evaluation. Also, one wouldn't tell others that they are ugly, so why would I say it to myself. It's about giving ones self the same respect that we give others.

http://becoming-beautiful.com/2011/04/i-feel-ugly-how-to-say-no-to-ugly-days/
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Carrie Liz

Welcome to womanhood...

EVERY girl has "ugly" days where they feel hideous, so they just put their hair up in a ponytail, glob their faces with concealer, hope that nobody can see it, and spend all day hiding from everyone.

If I had a dollar for every single time a trans woman on this site had a bad day where all they could see was a guy in the mirror, and they totally flipped out, I'd be one rich b****.

Welcome to the club!
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Lauren5

Quote from: Carrie Liz on January 22, 2014, 12:16:49 PM
Welcome to womanhood...

EVERY girl has "ugly" days where they feel hideous, so they just put their hair up in a ponytail, glob their faces with concealer, hope that nobody can see it, and spend all day hiding from everyone.

If I had a dollar for every single time a trans woman on this site had a bad day where all they could see was a guy in the mirror, and they totally flipped out, I'd be one rich b****.

Welcome to the club!
Congrats, you'd have $6966 from me alone.
Hey, you've reached Lauren's signature! If you have any questions, want to talk, or just need a shoulder to cry on, leave me a message, and I'll get back to you.
*beep*

Full time: 12/12/13
Started hormones: 26/3/14
FFS: No clue, winter/spring 2014/15 maybe?
SRS: winter/spring 2014/15?
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Ms Grace

Quote from: Genzen on January 22, 2014, 12:04:08 PM
I'm wondering if maybe I'm too critical of everyone. Even in my own head I think things about others looks. Perhaps it could help to reduce this thought process of evaluation. Also, one wouldn't tell others that they are ugly, so why would I say it to myself. It's about giving ones self the same respect that we give others.

Absolutely!
Grace
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Transition 1.0 (Julie): HRT 1989-91
Self-denial: 1991-2013
Transition 2.0 (Grace): HRT June 24 2013
Full-time: March 24, 2014 :D
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Jamie D

Mirrors are liars!  I know that I am a 19-year old hard-body beach babe.
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JRD

Yeah, I have those days a lot. But then sometimes later on while I am at work, I'll check myself out in the bathroom mirror and tell myself that I'm not all that ugly. Thank goodness the lighting in there sucks...
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