Hi from Dan, just joined:

[Cindy]

Dan,

I won't apologize for my comments but would like to provide some perspective why I made it so pointed. Transgender people suffer highly disproportionate rates of domestic violence, sexual assault and exploitation when compared with gender normative populations. Outing a member before they are truly ready(intentional or accidental) can have devastating effects on families, employment and housing. Our guards are up not because we are afraid of emotional vulnerability rather real issues of life and limb (in particular our sisters of color.) That said I am not calling for you to leave the site just understand why some of us may have a heightened sense of alert. It's survival instinct.

This is not to dissuade you from making comments, remarking on opinion posts(including offering opinions on member photos when solicited) or from making friends on the forum. Just be aware some of us will need a little more convincing and see consistency in your actions and other cisnormative ally's behaviours before installing trust. (No offence to significant others/family/proven allies meant)

That is very clear to mods BTW
Cindy

[EllieM]

That was cute Ellie, made me smile....Dreams come true!! I bet you are more attractive than you might think. 

I think when I am able to post an Avatar that I will simply post a real pic of myself...people here do not seem to judge, as best as I can tell

Thank you for making me feel welcome as well. From what I can tell so far, including reading other threads, I have no doubt as to what you said regarding open mindedness, intellectual stimulation, etc.

moving on a bit...
So, Dan... I changed my avatar, sorry... it's not blue.
This is me, more than a few years ago. I don't look much like that anymore ***sigh***

[str8_softhearted]

moving on a bit...
So, Dan... I changed my avatar, sorry... it's not blue.
This is me, more than a few years ago. I don't look much like that anymore ***sigh***

You look very nice Ellie, do not stress over it. You can count on comfort, support, and friendship from me, no worries I send you a virtual glass of wine....cheers....

[EllieM]

Thanks, Dan.

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Red red wine you make me feel so fine
You keep me rocking all of the time...