Hi! From a proud mom

[TonysMom]

Hi all!
I'm the proud mom of a transexual young adult.   I love my son and have known literally since he was 2 years old that my daughter was gay and was not at all surprised when she asked to be referred to as Tony and publically announced her preference.   

I love him and I have always supported him throughout his life, however; even with all that understanding and love I still struggle with his transition.   I struggle with what he goes through daily; I struggle with my day to day references of him as I slip up and use words like "her" and "she" often and still find myself using his birth name when I am not concentrating.  Those slip ups make me instantly guilty and correcting myslef seems to make it worse.   He tries to be patient but I can't help but think I hurt him with every slip up.

I started searching for a place or forum that had a support system for parents.  I came upon this site and hope that I can not only find some nice folks that I can relate to but also learn about my childs transitions and learn more about how I can help.

So that's a little bit about me! I look forward to meeting you all and hope to be able to contribute and learn.

[Jamie D]

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[Jennygirl]

Welcome to the site, you sound like a great mom to have!!

For me with my parents it wasn't until I had spent some real time with them that they stopped mixing up pronouns (this was when I was mostly done with transition). But then recently a weird thing happened when I went home last... They started slipping up a lot!

They are extremely comfortable with my transition and I know they support me just as you support your son. I think they became so relaxed around me in my new gender that they stopped thinking about it entirely, which made them forget about the whole pronoun thing from time to time.

I say give it time and you'll be fine! As long as Tony knows you support him (with pride) and if you can show even the slightest bit of humility upon a slip-up, he will love you back just as much as you love him.

Welcome to Susan's!

[LordKAT]

Hello Tony's mom, I hope we can call you something else soon. I take that back instead of something else, how about...Elsie. jk

Welcome to Susan's. There are some other parents around here and a lot to read. There are many parents who try to use the wrong pronouns and name. It is wonderful to find some who are really supportive.

The best way to deal with pronouns slips if others are around is to say nothing  but correct yourself in anything else you say, or say sorry my brain is off today. Making a deal out of correcting yourself is more embarrassment than the slip. At least that is how I feel.

I'm glad you found us and if you feel comfortable, perhaps Tony could join us also.

[peky]

Welcome, proud Mom of Tony.  Good to have you here.  It is always a pleasure to meet supportive parents of transkids.   

Yeah, you are a gooood Mama!

[Hayley]

Welcome Tony's mom. It is awesome that you're so supportive of your son. We need more parents like you. Slip ups are bound to happen and I'm sure as long as you're trying Tony will understand. I hoped mom is half as supportive as you are towards your son.

[TonysMom]

Hello Tony's mom, I hope we can call you something else soon. I take that back instead of something else, how about...Elsie. jk

So sorry...my name is Danielle

Thank you all for the warm welcome and kind words.

[Jamie D]

Danielle is a lovely name!

I was starting to have flashbacks to high school and reading Beowulf. 

[Cindy]

Hi Danielle,

Really nice to have you on board.

From an extremely warm South Australia!

Cindy

[EllieM]

Hi Danielle,
Welcome to Susan's
Tony's really lucky to have you as his mother. I must commend you on your unwavering support. I know how difficult the journey is from the TG perspective (well at least for me, someone born in the 1950s).  After all, you are transitioning as well.
I know you will adjust, there is nothing in this universe stronger than the love of a mother for her child.
You will find what you are looking for here, in the forums, in the wiki... you are not alone, and neither is Tony  

[bunnymom]

Hi Danielle, again. I have been welcomed by the wonderful folks at Susan's. They help me understand a few things that are usually left unsaid between mother and child. I hope to offer some support as we explore new territory in parenting.  It's so good to hear from parents that go the extra mile to build a support network.  Thanks for being here with us.

[Catherine Sarah]

Hi Tony's Mum,

A big Aussie welcome to Susan's family. It's good of you to drop in and say "Hi". Hope you like it here, and you stay for a while.

There is a mountain of information, resources and friendship waiting for you here, you just need to jump in start talking and ask any question you like. You're quite safe here and we are very accepting.

It's been my long held belief, the compassionate supporting parent(s) of our community are the true unsung heroes. Although, luckily for you, you have known for some time, but still, this won't eleviate the the feelings you experience. I thank you for embracing such a powerful challenge. For your son to see you trying is all he needs.

Looking forward to hearing more of your story in time to come, but in the meantime, be safe, well and happy.

Lotsa huggs
Catherine

[bunnymom]

I'm fairly "new" here so I'm somewhat unsure of the correctness of posting links.
But This was shared with me and I could not help but think of you, Danielle, as a hardworking and loving Mom.
https://fbcdn-video-a.akamaihd.net/hvideo-ak-prn1/v/t42/758111_110452222494611_1437239375_n.mp4?oh=2874af48cc1ba73d0865fa11ffa57ff7&oe=52E7C8A4&__gda__=1390922295_7717ddb572ae2a836525074faa28f8eb
I will try to find it on YouTube if this link doesn't work.

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(I've forgotten how to use bbcode to pretty up the link -sorry)

[ana]

I am new to the forum and your introduction give us all hope and courage to come out to our families and not hide in the shadows of our lives. For that I am sooo grateful. I am also glad I am able to welcome you to our community as Danielle, instead of Tonysmom. Although I am sure its appropriate, just not as personal.

Kindest Regards,

Ana

[TonysMom]

Thank you all for the warm welcome and kind words.  I haven't been able to jump into the forum with both feet yet but I will..no worries

I am very excited to read posts from both sides of the story so to speak.  My son has always been open with me but there are things that obviously are difficult to discuss for him.  I'm all ears with any input you all may have or advice. I love him so much and just want things to go as smooth as possible for him. 

Hugs to you all!