Breakup Sadness

[kaylagirl0806]

Hey ladies,
My girlfriend broke up with me this Tuesday and I'm really sad I'm really trying to get over her and cheer myself up but I'm not sure how.
Love,
Kayla

[sam79]

Aww I'm so sorry for you Kayla. I know it hurts and can dull life, but it will get better in time, believe me.

I too lost my girlfriend during transition. It was over year ago now, and while it doesn't hurt any more, I still think about her on occasion.

[Cindy]

Hugs to both of you

[Danniella]

I lost my wife last month

Been together for 9 years, we were everything to each other, but she couldn't stay with me during transition, and I honestly feel like I will never find anybody like her ever again...

Wait that's not supportive...that's just further depressing...I'm not very good at this ^^;

Erhm ok...supportive...right...here goes

-deep breath-

We will get through this, even if there is only an infinitesimal chance of attaining the same or similar degree of happiness later in our lives, we owe it to ourselves to keep striving for that.

Because if we wont, nobody else will do it for us.

Pick yourself up, focus your attention inwards, do what you need to do to make yourself feel happier, and when you feel strong enough again, start afresh.

The world is huge, and full of amazing people and wonderful experiences just waiting for you to step out your door and discover.

Never give up. <3

[KittyKat]

Think of it as an opportunity to be with someone who will love you as you want to be.

[kathyk]

Hey ladies,
My girlfriend broke up with me this Tuesday and I'm really sad I'm really trying to get over her and cheer myself up but I'm not sure how.
Love,
Kayla

I too lost my girlfriend during transition. It was over year ago now, and while it doesn't hurt any more, I still think about her on occasion.

I lost my wife last month

Been together for 9 years, we were everything to each other, but she couldn't stay with me during transition, and I honestly feel like I will never find anybody like her ever again...

And my 35 year marriage ended two weeks ago today.  When it hits home we suddenly know how to hug each other. 

So hugs girls. 

[Tristan]

I'm sorry she broke up with you . It takes time to get over people . But look at it this way. It's a chance to date and find someone new who will treat you even better

[King Malachite]

Sorry to intrude, but can a guy join in the thread?

Add me to the list as well: my girlfriend made it apparent to me earlier this month that she no longer wanted to be with me so I feel your pain. -HUGS-

It can take a long time to get over someone and to cheer yourself up.  I'm still trying to figure out how to do that myself. 

If you are in a financial position to do so, you could go treat yourself and maybe a friend/family member or two out to lunch.  That way, you can be around people you love and maybe even feel happy that you are treating others out, even when your sad.

The next idea would cost a bit more money, but you could plan to really treat yourself and go on a vacation.  I know when my second-to-last ex broke up with me, I had planned on going to Anime Expo and cosplay because I wanted to cheer myself up.  I did what I could to save up the money.  Well sadly, a little thing called transition got in the way so that money I saved up has to go towards, surgery, but I still plan on taking that trip eventually.  Maybe you can plan a vacation to a place you always wanted to go to and save up whatever money you need.  I found that saving/making extra money to fund towards my trip actually cheered me up quicker because I was working towards something I really wanted.

If that isn't in your financial power either, then give yourself a small treat if you can that's around $5 if you can do that.  If not, then just verbally ranting to yourself can do wonders.

Feel free to let everything out and cry if you feel the need to for a couple of days.  I know I did.  After that, then try your best to pick yourself up and strive towards your future like others said, because if you don't do it, no one else will, and nothing will ever get done.

I feel your pain, sister.  I know it hurts, but you don't have to go through this alone.  You have Susans and from what it seems like in the other comments, plenty of people that has gone through/ is going through what you are right now.  You will get throgh this.

To you and all of the other ladies going through this right now: hang in there.  I think you are all special, wonderful, beautiful strong women.

**hugs for all**

[stephaniec]

I sorry, I know it hurts. I think you mentioned your in high school and I can tell you it happens quite a lot in those years. I even think you mention you still have a year to go. Those are the times people search for there paths in life and its quite complicated and confusing . a lot of dating and figuring out what path to take. Your so not a lone with this phenomena .

[Oriah]

It gets better......that's all I can say.

A few years ago, my girlfriend of three years broke up with me...not ten seconds after I told her I wanted to transition....I never thought I'd find another like her.....and I was right......

It took me a year to get past her, but eventually I found someone else, someone much more supporting and loving....now we have a kid and a farm and are happier than we've ever been.

The previous girlfriend wasn't a good person for me, despite the good times we had......but I couldn't find someone right for me without loving myself, and I couldn't love myself without transitioning.  Transition is the road to something better.....if you let it be

[Jerri]

maybe it is something in the wind, i just placed a call to a divorce attorney for some advice as my marraige of 26 years is falling apart at a rapid pace so sign me up on the here is a hug list.
very sad for sure for all of us but it is also a new beginning with endless boundries or restraints

hugz to all
Jerri

[Sarah leah]

Know its not your fault first and foremost, that is the important thing here. I lost my first love when I was 20 years old, I told her I wished I was a girl one night when we were cuddled on the couch. She went nuts and called me an abomination and refused to speak to me again. It took a while, but I know now that I was honest and she treated my honesty as a bad thing. In the end she did not deserve me if she could not see me for who I am. So like I said its not your fault that it happened and things will hurt, this is normal as we are human, but it will improve with time 

[kaylagirl0806]

I didn't even tell her that I wished I was a girl I was really into making the relationship work because she lives in Blue Springs, about 25 minutes from Lee's Summit where I live. Somewhere between the beginning of school and the end of second hour, she was taking longer than usual to answer my messages. I got a text later saying that she was really busy but that she was at lunch so she could talk for like 20 minutes, she said she had to go 3 minutes later. I asked her sometime after that if we were ok and she said yes. Then at about 4:00 that afternoon, she called and told me that she didn't think she was ready for a boyfriend, and oh yea, that dance we were going to go to together...she wouldn't be going to that either. On top of that, I think she may have blocked my number so I can't apologize because I feel like it's totally my fault
Love,
Kayla

[stephaniec]

At this stage in life, I guessing your 16 or 17, it's no ones fault it just happens. I was dating this girl when I was 18 and I thought things were strong , then one day her x came to the door and she wanted me to hide.

[kaylagirl0806]

Ouch, Stephanie. That would be horrible

[stephaniec]

yes it was . It hurt a long time

[Kyra553]

I honestly dont understand that mindset of fake liking someone then lieing to their face that everything is fine. Just to turn around deny everything you ever did or said. Im sick of this mindset of people thinking this is the "nice" way of breaking up. Well reality check to them because this is called being fake and a big fat lier. So hopefully they roll down a hill of broken glass.

Ive had this happen to me and my person couldn't understand why I didn't get the "hints" that they didn't like me. Aka not responding to me in any way beyond face to face. It was always fun and smiles then bam I'm a creeper for messaging them one day... Tired of school children drama..

That's my rant for the day 

[kaylagirl0806]

Broken glass is a bit extreme. Thank you so much for encouraging me Natallie. I wish I didn't have to deal with school drama either but I'm in high school so I really can't get away from it....
Love,
Kayla

[Kyra553]

Broken glass is a bit extreme. Thank you so much for encouraging me Natallie. I wish I didn't have to deal with school drama either but I'm in high school so I really can't get away from it....
Love,
Kayla

If people would just be honest and not abuse peoples emotion then it would be extreme. But since this is using someone then I dont find it extreme at all. Hehe

Your welcome Kayla, I hope you find someone more true to you than what's cropped up. No one deserves a person like that holding them down.

[kaylagirl0806]

How would you recommend finding someone like that? I just want to feel loved and taken care of. What do you mean cropped up?