Have any of You Been Inappropriately Touched, in Social Discourse?

[rhonda13000]

I had gone to a meeting tonight and one of the women at the same, had related an account of a guy [a married one, too] who pressed aggressively on with his advances, notwithstanding her repeated dissenting.

Eventually, he fondled her and at the meeting tonight, she radiated traumatization.

I asked her if she was seeing a therapist and she responded to the effect,

"No. Don't get me started on that subject.

I just shook my head and said,

"Clearly, you've been traumatized and I am asking because I am concerned."

Earlier when I had the floor, I related my own account of having been victimized by 'therapeutic incompetence', subsequently firing my therapist [I did mention the cell phone idiocy].

I quite understood, obviously, but she needs help in dealing with this kind of trauma.

And then [of course] I became angry and I thought two things,

--"How many of us have had to deal with this?"

--   "If some guy does that to me, EMS will need a mop and bucket to transport him to the hospital."

But satiate my curiosity my sisters: How many of you have been subjected to such puerile and unconscionable behavior?

[Buffy]

I was fondled  and touched inappropriately on several ocassions during transition. Both times I was out with a group of girls and a group of guys decided that they would be find out if I was male or female by fondling me and grabbing my crotch. Verbal abuse is something I could always handle, but physical abuse is different.

The girls I was with where great and basically stood up for me and forced the guys to stop (or in one case) get the bouncers involved.

I found it very degrading, mentally traumatizing and I did feel disgusted with myself (why is it that victims always feel this). All I wanted to do was go home, shower and cry.... One of the girls always came with me.

I quickly learned not to put myself into those kind of situations.

Now, I have a Brown Belt in Kick Boxing (Partly for keeping fit, the other part for self defense), God help any guy that acts innapropriately.

Buffy

Mean and Dangerous (when needed)

[katia]

a drunk attempted to touch my breasts once.  i literally kicked his balls. 

[Elizabeth]

Twice when I was 20 I had been touched inappropriately. Once standing in line at a convenience store the man in front of me reached behind himself and attempted to rub my crotch. I was really embarrassed and afraid. I just put my stuff down and left the store. A few months later I was in a very uncrowded theater, maybe 5 people in a theater that seated several hundred. A man sitting in the theater, came down my row and sat right next to me. Because the theater was not very full, I had centered myself in what I felt was the best seat in the house, so I was not surprised that someone else might want to sit there. I was surprised when the man sat right next to me.

As soon as he sat down I got a rush of adrenaline and I was very scared. I just looked ahead and tried to ignore him because I just didn't know what to do. Less than a minute after he sat down, he then placed his hand right on my thigh. I was absolutely terrified. I just grabbed his hand and moved it back to his lap and I said "I don't think so". Then he got up and went back to where he was sitting. I left the theater and kept looking behind me to make sure he was not following me.

Funny, I have not thought about that in a long time. I remember at the time worrying that I was giving signals to other men without realizing it. I thought it was related to my transsexuality, but was not sure how, since I was not attracted to men. That was a time in my life where I was really considering coming out of the closet, but living in Houston, with no support, I just couldn't see how I could. I didn't know at the time that Houston had what was at the time, the second largest gay community, only behind San Francisco.

All in all, they were not good experiences and I never told anyone because I was embarrassed. I knew if I told my friends or brothers I would be made fun of. I also didn't want to do anything that might start making anyone wonder why men were hitting on me.

Love always,
Elizabeth 

[Jeannette]

Oh yes.  It was a horrid experience.  It happened at the airport while waiting for my flight,  This elderly man approached the counter, leaned over and rubbed my buttocks with his disgusting hands.  I complained & airport security took care of him.

[rhonda13000]

Oh yes.  It was a horrid experience.  It happened at the airport while waiting for my flight,  This elderly man approached the counter, leaned over and rubbed my buttocks with his disgusting hands.  I complained & airport security took care of him.

The police did it to me, a number of months back.......I'd forgotten about that - or I was repressing the memory.

That was pretty horrible and I was in shock; it really messed me up. But I am [I think] pretty much past it - I think.

[melissa90299]

OMFG!!! I have been inappropriately touched countless times but I was always too drunk to care.

[debisl]

Dito to your responce Melissa. My exact sediments.

Deb

[Lisbeth]

Ya, me too.  It was at a bar, and I escaped him into the bathroom. 

I was shaking like a leaf and just couldn't walk back out that door.  I was very fortunate that a GG asked me what was wrong.  So she told me to stick with her, and we walked out arm-in-arm.  I spent the rest of the evening watching her play pool.

Then I was stupid and didn't pull out my keys before leaving.  I got out to my car and couldn't find them.  I was so scared that he would come looking for me.

Yes, I finally found my keys.