Sounds like you are making some good progress girl! I know all the feelings you talked about. Change is always hard, but most of the time well worth it. If you really look at it though you are not making any changes as you have already been a woman inside your whole life. You are really only revealing the REAL you. It feels good, scary and confusing, but natural, doesn't it? My personality has not really changed, but has been released from a really long imprisonment. I do things and feel things now I used to repress and feel great about it. I am so happy for you now. I hope things work out with you and the wife. Just as it was hard to accept yourself though it is going to be hard for her to really accept this new dynamic. I hope she can transition along with you an find acceptance. I know where she is coming from though. Just like some trans people worry about passing she has to worry about public perception and how it will impact HER life. She is probably questioning her ideas about gender and what people will think about her if she stays. Give her time to deal with it and support her like she is you and maybe things will work out for the both of you. We worry about family, job and friends acceptance and now she will as well. Just remember she is transitioning as well and hers was not about choice so be compassionate, supportive and do not allow anger or hate to establish itself if she decides she can not stay, OK? It would probably help her to see a counselor or therapist as well. Has she expressed any interest in reading the posting section for significant others here? That might be a good starting point so she can see how other S.O.s have dealt with this issue and the emotions that come with it. Good luck baby! 🙂
