what age did you know someone was wrong?

[kg85621]

most people I talk to or read about say they always knew or they knew from a very young age IE 4yr-6yr. I myself think I started to feel different around 11 or 12. Is this age kind of late to have these thoughts?

[jussmoi4nao]

It's just been my whole life. Ever since my earliest memory. There's never been a time where it wasn't a constant thing I dealt with.

Everybody's different and figures things out at different times, tho.

[Joanna Dark]

It's just been my whole life. Ever since my earliest memory. There's never been a time where it wasn't a constant thing I dealt with.

Everybody's different and figures things out at different times, tho.

^This. There was never a time I was not like this. One of my earleist memories is asking my mom when she was freshening her lipstick if I could use it. I was 4. Things just got worse from there. I also remember I had a dream at age 5, maybe earlier, cause the dream took place in Philly, before I moved to the burbs, and I got a dress for a present and I ripped it up and said I didnt want it. Not sure what taht means. Maybe the dress was ugly lol at age 6 I was corss dressing. At age 7, I only played with girls. At age 8, i was kicked out the girls room and made a mockery of. At age 9, my teacher wanted to call the police, because I was so depressed all the time that she thought I must be getting beaten at home and even made my parents come in for a conference. i could go on and on...

[Kim 526]

I knew when I was 4.

[Anastasia E]

I honestly don't remember much from my childhood.. but I think I was 13 or 14 when I first searched online for "gender change". I don't know what triggered it, but I don't think there was much sign of it before then.

[LittleEmily24]

Sometime in my middle school years ~ I had the misfortune of being bullied on a daily basis so my mind and body took on a defensive/predatorial survival mode and all other things got pushed to the side until I had some alone time or peaceful time to let my guard down; I'd say maybe age 12 or 13, I realized that everything just felt wrong, and i was severely depressed but no one could figure out why ~ I went to 3 different psychologists who hypnotized me, dosed me up, diagnosed me. I took anti-depressants for a while but it didn't help (it helped to some degree but the depression always came back). No matter what i did, the depression remained, so I knew something was "off" around my middle school years, and it wasnt until around September 2012 that I started making a closer connection (once I was already an adult living on my own, with no friends or people I felt I needed to "impress" or "hide from", so I was officially no longer in survival mode because I had no one to fear... other than my wife lol)

So while I made the true discovery not too long ago, my life never made sense as far back as i can recall the confusion setting in, which was about 6th or 7th grade ( 12-13)

[kaylagirl0806]

In my middle school years around age  12 or 13

[carrie359]

Looking back at when I was 4 I know something was wrong just felt different with the gender thing but really was strong in Second third grade for sure and really hard when I was 12 or 13.. puberty really hurt but in those days no internet and I did not know what was wrong. My dad would say I was standing like a girl.. and things like boys don't do  that... so I learned early on to be a guy and we were well known in sports.. so then I put my whole identity into athletics.. I thought I was the only one in the world like me until I was at a library and brave enough to pick up a book.. at 30ish years old and I cried...
Carrie

[allisonsteph]

I didn't acknowledge it until I was in my forties (even though I began cross dressing at twelve), but looking back on my life it is very clear that the signs were there from about the time I was five years old. When I start therapy my therapist had me fill out a form that chronicled my gender history. The form asked specific enough questions that forced me to take a deep look at myself and my past. One of my earliest memories was tucking my genitals between my legs because I liked the smooth look rather than something dangling there. I don't think I was even old enough to understand that girls had different parts down there than boys did, but I clearly remember not liking what I had and wishing it wasn't there.

[suzifrommd]

most people I talk to or read about say they always knew or they knew from a very young age IE 4yr-6yr. I myself think I started to feel different around 11 or 12. Is this age kind of late to have these thoughts?

I first knew I wanted to be female in my mid teens, probably around 14 or 15.

Of course it took another 35 years before I realized that I was transgender.

[Eris]

I started feeling this way when I was about 13, I started looking online soon after and by the time I was 15 I knew.
I was just too scared to do anything about it

[big kim]

When I was 9 I was at an all boy's school.Our teacher Miss Bennett made boy's play a girl's part in plays,all the boy's were terrified of being picked(no one said no to Miss Bennett!).I wondered what the fuss was and hoped she'd pick me

[stephaniec]

4

[petunia]

I think I was three when I first realized someone was wrong. They tried to tell me I was wrong, but nope, I'm never wrong, it was them.

[Jill F]

I wanted to wear girls' things when I was 4.  I also preferred to play with girls instead of boys.  Never dressed until I was 43 (except for the school xmas pageant in 2nd grade when I got randomly selected to be one of the "9 ladies dancing"- OMG, did the kids let me have it.  That incident alone may have kept me closeted for an extra decade or so).  Once I took the estrogen it was only a matter of weeks before I was finally able to admit to myself that I am truly, undeniably a transsexual and in need of a full transition. 

[Kaydee]

I don't remember those really young years.  But in early high school I was cross dressing and spent a lot of time looking at the women's clothing in the Sears catalog.   It wasn't until a few months ago that it all made sense and I admitted I was trangender at 56.

[stephaniec]

I don't remember those really young years.  But in early high school I was cross dressing and spent a lot of time looking at the women's clothing in the Sears catalog.   It wasn't until a few months ago that it all made sense and I admitted I was trangender at 56.

yes, the sears catalog

[victoria n]

 I myself knew at 14 there was something different about me .   I would not say there was something wrong.
Maybe if I was born with fish gills  then I would say something was wrong.
There is nothing wrong with us !

[Ltl89]

I was a very weird kid in the sense that I did a lot of gender bending and dressing up and got the sense that I was different in some way.  However, I didn't come to the conclusion that I was meant to be a girl until I was around ten or so. 

[Jenna Marie]

32. Seriously. I consider myself to have been a cis boy who grew up into a trans woman; it happens.

(And yes, I'm fully transitioned including GRS, and beyond thrilled with that.)