Sex and climaxing

[Heilotes]

I'm on a fairly regular regiment of hormones, but I'm having a problem with the fact that my ability to orgasm has nearly disappeared. Yet all the sexual tension and arousal is still present.

Is that normal?

Sometimes I stop taking my spirono for a week so I can at long last have a pleasant sexual encounter. But as soon as I start taking the spirono again, it's back to lame town.

It's frustrating. Is it normal for someone in transition to lose all sexual ability to climax, yet retain all arousal and sexual tension?

[stephaniec]

I don't know ,but for me it can take a lot of work . The process to finally get to the top of the mountain can be just as much fun mentally and physically.

[Randi]

Remember how women need lots of foreplay and the mood must be right for things to happen?

Well you belong to that club now.  40 minutes of foreplay works for me.

[suzifrommd]

I can still O, but it is a totally different mechanism.

I can't do it physically. I need to be intensely aroused - to the point of amazement - before I will climax. It's a lot longer process. It took a couple of false starts before I figured it out, but now I pretty much O every time I try.

[Heilotes]

Remember how women need lots of foreplay and the mood must be right for things to happen?

Well you belong to that club now.  40 minutes of foreplay works for me.

In that club now... really? On one hand that's awesome, on the other hand it sucks I can't just get in and drive to the finish line whenever.

Thanks for all the advice ladies, these are the best answers I've gotten anywhere. I'm so glad to finally get some answers. I've been going crazy!

[Tori]

I have discovered for me, practice makes perfect. I just do not NEED to practice all that often.

I found it took me a couple months of Spiro before my orgasms started to regain intensity like I had on  testosterone. Now, it is similar, but different. The intensity level is about the same though.

Some of the ladies here kept singing the praises of the Hitachi Magic wand, so I got one for my wife for. Valentines Day, and then promptly stole it from her. That thing is relentless. It is no joke. Just apply where it feels good and think fun thoughts. I would not invest in anything less. The ladies were right.

Adjusting to HRT can be tough for someone with a highly sexual mind, but like I said, practice makes perfect. And practice is fun!

[veritatemfurto]

it could also be how you are doing it. the traditional male "polishing the rod" technique can become more tedious to accomplish with the effects of HRT for many mtf's, so try doing it in a more feminine way. Try direct stimulation to the glans and/or breasts, or pillow or ledge humping while tucked (which actually turns out to be a very feminine and fairly common thing among natals), while also letting your imagination run wild. I'm not saying that you need to go all autogynephilic, but hey if it helps...

As the other posts say, address your needs as a female would, since after all, you are one!

[Randi]

I hope you will enjoy being horny without necessarily needing to do anything about it.

It's rather delightful really.  Eventually you will realize that erections and arousal are two separate things.  An erection is not needed to achieve orgasm.  In all likelihood you will find several additional erogenous zones. 

Randi

In that club now... really? On one hand that's awesome, on the other hand it sucks I can't just get in and drive to the finish line whenever.

Thanks for all the advice ladies, these are the best answers I've gotten anywhere. I'm so glad to finally get some answers. I've been going crazy!

[Janae]

I like to describe it as a plane taking off, not quite getting off the ground, falling and then bursting into flames.

It's almost not even worth the effort and it's frustrating.

It really makes me wonder if all the post srs tales of amazing sex are all lies, something just doesn't add up.

[Joanna Dark]

I don't do it, but everytime I do the immense feeling of shame and self-hatred overwhelms me for about an hour after. The last time, it only lasted a couple of minutes.