Quote from: ThePhoenix on February 26, 2014, 09:09:17 AM
If there really is such a statute, I'd really like to see it. It would be very useful info.
Lawyer here too. I'd like to see it as well because I can't find it.
The "carry letter" has very little legal weight (as do doctor's orders in general, to be honest - they aren't judges, they aren't legislators, and they don't make the law regardless of what they might like to think). In fact, I'd advise my clients that a carry letter has absolutely no legal weight absent statutes, regulations, or established legal precedent to the contrary. If I can't show them a law on paper, then it's wise to tread very, very carefully. The law is the law, and a doc or therapist can't exempt someone from complying with the law except in very few limited circumstances - an example being some states allowing drivers to not use a seatbelt if a doctor says that it will interfere with a medical condition. (This goes for notarized documents too - the notarization process is only there to verify the signatures on the document, not to give the content of the document any legal force whatsoever. I could get my shopping list notarized if I wanted to, and all the notary would be attesting to is that I was the person who signed it at the bottom of the page. It wouldn't suddenly give me legal authority to go shopping.)
If you have to show a carry letter to someone - a cop, for instance - then something has gone very wrong long before that. In many cases, and you all might not like to hear this, it's because you personally did things that escalated the situation. Think about it. If the cops are there, I would say it's already been a fifteen minute verbal confrontation with somebody about a frickin' toilet. The cops don't just show up, and they aren't going to rush there with lights and sirens for this kind of issue either.
Me? I'd strongly advise using the bathroom that most closely reflects your external gender presentation at that time, and if you're looking ambiguous or androgynous, use caution and find a bathroom more secluded or plan ahead accordingly. And if confronted, back down. Apologize, explain, then leave. (Unless you're an activist trying to push boundaries - but most of us aren't.)
But in jurisdictions where a "carry letter" is actually defined - if there are any - then that'll help. It won't stop the underlying problem though, which is people getting offended and feeling threatened or violated because they perceive someone unauthorized intruding into their private space.