No I'm not in the closet, but I'm sort of new to this city, and all of my friends know I'm trans* but they're cisgendered and we don't really ever talk about it. I have as yet to find any trans* people in the area, and then one just popped in next door to me. Good luck on finding a trans* friend, I imagine it would be nice to talk about the kinds of ideas discussed on this site in person.