Transgender Liftime of Self Hate NO MORE!

[JaimeD]

oh yeah, that'd help with the dysphoria alright...

[Lara the Lover and the Fighter]

I hope all of us can have our NO MORE moment!  I'm FINALLY having mine.  I look in the mirror and instead of getting down I use my broad shoulders to shrug and move on.  I'm not a CIS female and I never will be and SO WHAT!?!?!  No more getting down about that.  No more guilt.  No more shame.  NO MORE SELF HATE!


and I hope you all join me.

[Lara the Lover and the Fighter]

Wow, this has really been genuinely helpful.  I feel great right now. 

[kaylagirl0806]

I wish this worked for me but it's not that easy lol

[Samantha]

 I love your idea of no more   What amazes me is an entire group of people share almost the exact same feelings.   How does this happen? I read a lot of posts and I find it uncanny how so many go through the same problems  and yet there is only one cure once again how does this happen makes me wonder   Anyways I agree month of March    NO MORE   Thanks to all of u I think I can make it   

[Ltl89]

Well, I'll try joining you in my own way.  I think there is merit in looking out for the positives.  Everyone that is struggling to say "no more", try to think of 2 things about your appearance that makes you happy.  I know we all have things we hate, but let's focus on the positives things here.  For me, I love how my hair looks and feels.  Believe me, I spend an insane time on that hair, so I'm proud of it.  The other feature I'll remark on is that my facial skin is very smooth/soft and I've got no wrinkles. Thank god for my daily moisterizing, hormones, and my mother's skin lol. Come on, I'm sure we all can at least think of two things.  It might not be a "no more" moment, but maybe it will get some of us on the track to it.

[JaimeD]

Well, in my little world, this is the month that Jaime turns 51. Woot!  Getting old!!!   


*jumps off high rise bridge*

[Lara the Lover and the Fighter]

I wish this worked for me but it's not that easy lol

I wish this worked for me but it's not that easy lol

No worries Kayla!  Nothing worth it is easy.

I love your idea of no more   What amazes me is an entire group of people share almost the exact same feelings.   How does this happen? I read a lot of posts and I find it uncanny how so many go through the same problems  and yet there is only one cure once again how does this happen makes me wonder   Anyways I agree month of March    NO MORE   Thanks to all of u I think I can make it   

There are so many of us!  Its such a difficult problem too.  I mean with the inside being completely opposite from the outside (male inside;female outside or female inside;male outside).  Still, we are here.  Fighting together.

Well, I'll try joining you in my own way.  I think there is merit in looking out for the positives.  Everyone that is struggling to say "no more", try to think of 2 things about your appearance that makes you happy.  I know we all have things we hate, but let's focus on the positives things here.  For me, I love how my hair looks and feels.  Believe me, I spend an insane time on that hair, so I'm proud of it.  The other feature I'll remark on is that my facial skin is very smooth/soft and I've got no wrinkles. Thank god for my daily moisterizing, hormones, and my mother's skin lol. Come on, I'm sure we all can at least think of two things.  It might not be a "no more" moment, but maybe it will get some of us on the track to it.

Thats a great idea!  I am also NUTS about my hair.  I feel like the female version of Uncle Jessie from Full House.  Aunt Jessie I guess. lol

Two things.  Will do!

Well, in my little world, this is the month that Jaime turns 51. Woot!  Getting old!!!   


*jumps off high rise bridge*

*catches JamieD at the bottom*

Sigh now we have to climb back to the top. ^.^

[Jamie D]

Well, in my little world, this is the month that Jaime turns 51. Woot!  Getting old!!!   


*jumps off high rise bridge*

I'll meet you at the Tallahatchie Bridge 

[Ms Grace]

Well, in my little world, this is the month that Jaime turns 51. Woot!  Getting old!!!   


*jumps off high rise bridge*

I turn 48 this week. I have the next half of my life to look forward to and intend to live it to the fullest! Might try jumping out of a plane - with a parachute - when I hit 100!

[Allyda]

I love the attetude of this thread, thank you to the OP!

My actual age right now is 49. I'll turn 50 this coming Halloween. I've been living full time for 5 years now though I've only been on hrt 2 months. One reason (not the main one mind you) I began living full time 5 years ago was despite my not seeing it, I could no longer pass for male. I still for some reason don't see myself as others see me so sometimes I dress down in sweats with no makeup and am sure I'll get clocked. I was doing this to assure myself I'm passing. I still have been trying this despite having no luck. So therefore I can only assume (hate that word assume), that I'm overly critical of myself and I'm not seeing myself as others see me -that or everyone where I live needs glasses, lol! From reading other posts I'm not the only girl going through this. So I'm going to take a cue from the OP and from now on I say no more, I will no more worry about how I see myself, only how others see me. Besides, even just 2 months of hrt has made changes that even I am noticing for the better.

[V M]

Vyx!  "I'm mad as hell and I'm not going to take it anymore!"  Damn right!

Really, ladies, let's stop wallowing in self pity.  Some of you are non-stop 24/7/365 Debbie Downers.  I don't even want to look at your posts, because they are always the same:  "Oh woe is me.  I'm so ugly.  I'm so poor.  I'll never be a hot babe."

Here is the best support you will ever get on this site:  Get over it!  You have a future, if you are brave enough to grab it with both hands.  I've seen amazing transformations - but none of them happened by sitting in their rooms and crying about it.

Get off your asses.  Take some chances.  Do what you have to do to survive until you can do what you need to do to become your authentic selves.

Support comes to those who are willing to help themselves.

LOL... Yeah, don't come to a 'support site' and discuss any of your issues... Riiiight, sure 

[Jill F]

Can I suggest the month should be "self hate no more"...there is nothing inherently wrong with being transgender, just how we view it.

Just this month?  Pffft.  Every month!

[Ms Grace]

Just this month?  Pffft.  Every month!

Agreed!

[kaylagirl0806]

Agreed!

I promise to try my hardest from now on

[Lara the Lover and the Fighter]

I promise to try my hardest from now on

Heck yeah!  Me too!  I'm trying my hardest as we speak!

Just this month?  Pffft.  Every month!

YES!!  I'm with that!  Should I change it to "Transgender Year" or "Transgender Lifetime"?

[Allyda]

YES!!  I'm with that!  Should I change it to "Transgender Year" or "Transgender Lifetime"?

Transgender lifetime all the way!

[FalseHybridPrincess]

Well...

I failed this...
Even though I said Id try...

I think im trying though...
Im sure that if I wasnt trying Id be dead already...

I think that crying and having all these sad feelings is the best thing I can do right now...

sorry , I didnt mean to crush the possitive energy that comes from this thread...
Id better speak with my therapist...

[Allyda]

Well...

I failed this...
Even though I said Id try...

I think im trying though...
Im sure that if I wasnt trying Id be dead already...

I think that crying and having all these sad feelings is the best thing I can do right now...

sorry , I didnt mean to crush the possitive energy that comes from this thread...
Id better speak with my therapist...

FP that's what we're here for, to help if we can. While I realize we may not be able to help with every issue and for those yes please contact your therapist. If you need someone to talk or "vent" to you can pm me if you like.

[Lara the Lover and the Fighter]

Well...

I failed this...
Even though I said Id try...

I think im trying though...
Im sure that if I wasnt trying Id be dead already...

I think that crying and having all these sad feelings is the best thing I can do right now...

sorry , I didnt mean to crush the possitive energy that comes from this thread...
Id better speak with my therapist...

No need for apologies, this thread is for negative energy as well as positive energy.  Keep trying! I know I am.  Even though it seems like every five friggin minutes I have to start over again.  No more...No more....No more...No more....No more.  Talk to us, talk to your therapist, keep trying, keep moving.  We are all worth the effort. 

I am and I know you are.