Transwoman, transgender, transsexual for me. Not BSBDS. I can't get any self esteem out of that, but I certainly can by identifying as Trans. The other thing sounds like I was some kind of birth defect. Which I am not.
I don't like it personally. For me, Transgender works for public understanding and privacy, even while stealth, transwoman works here or when I am totally in transition moments, and mtf preop transexual works medically for me.
BSBDS sounds like I want someone to tie me up or something.
No disrespect intended. Just how I feel about it all.