The "it" Question

[Natkat]

if you don't mind you shouldn't mind, if you do you should.

I wouldn't want to be called "it" I prefern he or something gender neutal like "ze" could do.
I do however know people who prefern the pronounce "it" I asked one of my friends, who said that it liked the prononce because its not only genderneutral of men and women but it also as some say "dehumanizing"
some people find that very offensive like there not humans at all, but my friend things its cool because it kinda critical of the whole human vs animals, like why we should be so much better than anyone ells.
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for the question on what I been called, I may have been called it before but I dont remember,
I been called a tomboy a couple of times, and various boysnames which wasnt my name.
as I passed as a male I got to be called prettyboy which is kinda offensive.

[Adam (birkin)]

Very early on in my transition, my kids decided to combine she, he and it into a well-known expletive, and call me that. 

Good lord! That is terrible. I'm so sorry.

[Rayne]

I was also bullied a lot, and much of it came from my "friends," but I feel your more deserving of better treatment than you think. You shouldn't have to just cope and make light of being degraded.

I never thought I was worthy of bad treatment. And no in an ideal world coping and making light of such things would not be something to do, nor should it be helpful. I understand that. But... This isn't an ideal world. Anyway, it's just that I can let them control my emotions. I can give someone the power to upset me, or to hurt me or anger me. Or I can take control and stop that. Should I give you the power to hurt me or anger me? Or should I make light of your attempt? In addition, I hate anger. Anger is most often a retreat. A person doesn't want to feel hurt, so they resort to anger. I won't retreat from any pain just to hurt someone else back. Anger may have some kind of twisted power but it makes you close minded and unwilling to accept. This also helps me avoid getting angry.

No one should have to make light or cope. But what is worse? making light and maintaining a somewhat happy attitude? Or getting angry or depressed? This is just my way of not letting others control my emotions, or hurt me. ^~^ I was hoping to make a topic to raise spirits and be silly and remove the power from hurtful things for others... And it saddens me a little that the topic just became kinda angry and depressing. =( Instead of focusing on the bad, let's use the bad to do some good, and feel better about things others might say. ^~^

[Li]

well i take ->-bleeped-<- from my fam all the time...and right now things got harder but i know they are just being bias and stupid and i know that if i retaliate it will just cause more ->-bleeped-<-. but now sense a few of them are targeting my girl....oh no no. i told them not to say another word and they just stopped. (mostly cause i looked like i was about to slam someones head into a wall lol). (and that just happened today when my girl left for a bit)

[Rachel]

S H IT is terrible. It is the meaning that is so hurtful, hugs.

->-bleeped-<- has been associated with the sex trade and was used in a negative and degrading way. This is usually a MTF slur. Most people who use it just do not know the history and think it is correct. I would not call someone a cissy.

Some trans* use it now and some are offended and some are not. Some use it with friends or as a term of endearment.

There are some FTM mostly and some MTF who want to use the word and change the meaning. They want to take a slur and transform it into a word that has positive power and description.

If my lover was being intimate with me and whispered "I love my ->-bleeped-<-" in a loving caring way I would not be offended. If a coworker said tyranny's should be physically harmed (was actually said and I put him in his place) then I would be offended. 

[makipu]

I actually very much rather be called an "it" than anything female.

[StirfriedKraut]

Story of my life. I am not a man, I am a thing. Just like paris hilton isn't a person, she is a thing. No. Get out people. I'm not a Kardashian, I am a boy with a deformed body, get over it. Hahaha.

One of these days i'd really like to not be asked "are you a boy or a girl?". I hate that question, lol. Can it instead be "hey handsome, care to buy me a drink?".