Welcome Frigg, I too have been going slow and started to do a few things also related to being less hideous in general in my case. You have folks that completely understand you here, trust me. I have gotten great advice from many good people here at Susan's in a very short amount of time.
Thanks to my therapist and the Susan's gang, I have graduated from denial to acceptance, to being possibly the worst dressed, maligned makeup mistake, manNOcure to my fingers, male to female transfailure you ever did see.
Though I am now mostly hairless, thanks to getting my butt whipped by a bottle of Nair for Men (because I'm not ready to use the women's yet, but I have bought it as well lol.) Sure, it is temporary, but it made me feel better than anything else I have done to date. Unfortunately I look and sound like "Jake from State Farm", only heavier and less hairy.
Welcome to the neighborhood!