Coming out to my parents..

[Temperance]

Hello! I am new here

I posted an introduction about my situation, you can find it here: https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,161867.0.html Please read it before continuing to read!

Anyways, as you already know, I am from Canada in college. I don't know if I should tell my parents this soon because they are very narrow-minded and they might take it very badly, resulting in something I don't know what will happen Should I take the risk and let them know now? Or I should wait until I'm done with studying and when I'll start working and be financially stable?

What are your guys' thoughts? Let me know please!

Again, thank you very much!

[FalseHybridPrincess]

Just tell them if you feel like it...
I know even the thought is scary , but rarely things go bad, your parents love you and even if they dont accept you at first they will later...

If you really wish to transition then you know that soon everyone who used to know you as a guy will know whats up,,,
so it wont make any difference

[Monique]

it s very difficult to come out to your parents, take it from me my dad still doesn't like it that I want to be a woman but that's not stopping me, my mom had a tough time at first but then accepted it once she knew more about the subject. I wouldn't worry too much about family mostly they will accept you because they love you which is what falseprincess said also but it might be hard on them at first, but you have be comfortable enough to tell them and if your not then I don't suggest letting them know yet. I myself waited too long to tell my parents but I didn't know something like this existed either so I had no choice at the time luckly u know who u are inside so you are defiantly ahead of me since your younger but I wouldn't wait too long so when u are comfortable then let them know. all I have to say.

[Temperance]

Thanks for all your input, it means alot to me!

I wish it was as simple as it sounds.. the problem is that I don't think my parents actually love me. They have never said it before, and they sure don't act like it. They have always made me live on my own with no support at all.

I would tell them in a heartbeat if I had money, or a job, but the truth be told, at my age, I am not ready to work a full time job to pay for everything. My parents are my only source of money for college, and my only potential source of money for transitioning. As selfish as that may sound, I don't know what I would do if it wasn't for them paying..
Even if they don't do anything bad, they may not want to pay for the transition and that would be almost just as bad.

So I don't know...I really want to tell them now but maybe I should just wait a few years


To Lavinia: How long did you wait? And how old are you now? Were you old enough to be able to pay for yourself? And how are you doing with it now? I'm just curious

[Monique]

im 32 years old now, I waited til I was 26 years old but had no choice my mom caught me when I ordered a full piece shapewear suit wwhen it came in the mail while I was at work, im paying mostly from Medicaid and medicare, most of my Medicaid insurance in Rhode Island where I live pays for a lot of it. I was living in florida and the state insurance down there sucks so im grateful to have moved back to this little state. I stil live with my parents though since there are no jobs here at the moment.

[Temperance]

That's an awkward way for your parents to know.. Oh well hey, it's good to know that your mom accepts it now! I'm happy for you And oh I see that's pretty nice to have it paid for you, even though you don't work and still live with your parents.

[Monique]

for now, I just moved here in November, had a job down in florida for 7 years but couldn't do anything down there since everything was too far or my insurance didn't pay for it, I noticed that you live in Canada too, I don't know what medical insurances they have there but you could always check it out and see if some medical insurance in there pays for it.

[HumanBeing]

I genuinely think you should wait until you are financially stable.

In life I always prepare for the worst case scenario so I'm always prepared.

In the intro it says you're living with them and they are paying for tuition? Now worst case scenario is that you'll be homeless and unable to continue study. I didn't want to be negative and bring the vibe down but it is a very real possibility.

I know it will hurt not to tell them and feel like you're living a double life etc.

I hope I have helped in some way.

Congrats on finding yourself and I wish you all the best for your transition!