Who do you think is responsible for being born in the wrong body?

[av1]

Don't wanna offend anyone.
My vote for my father-he couldn't pass his Y onto me.
Grave mistake. I have to live with it forever.

[piglet smith]

You can't really assign blame to anyone. It happened and you have to deal with it. Assigning blame can just leave you bitter and that's not a good place to be.

[Kreuzfidel]

I also think that blaming someone is just unhealthy - not to mention unfair.  Excluding all of the possible biological factors that could be to "blame" for being born into the wrong body, I think it's rather ignorant to blame your father for not "passing his Y to you", as if he had a choice - seriously? 

Blaming "God" makes a lot more sense if one was to blame anyone, not that I believe in God - but even then, you still have to live with it - what good does blame even do?  Just unhealthy.

[FTMDiaries]

Nobody is responsible. Because nobody did this to me deliberately. Sometimes, stuff just happens.

I strongly suspect that I may have been born trans* because of the high-dose contraceptive pills my mother used to take back in the 1960s & 1970s. With all that extra-strong oestrogen in her system, it makes sense that some of it might have converted to testosterone and it could have affected my brain.

But do I blame her for it? Absolutely not. She had no way of knowing what might happen, and the contraceptive pill was still very new in those days, so nobody could've known.

[Northern Jane]

I didn't vote because I think it is a biological malfunction.

When someone asked me if I believe in God, I said "If there is a God, he has a LOT of explaining to do when I get to the other side!!!" 

[Ayden]

No one. I do blame my neighbor for keeping me up all night with his coughing though...

Seriously. I can't blame anyone. Blame and regret are two things I try to keep to a minimum, otherwise they become toxic. And really, life is too short and too amazing for that.

[rexyrex]

No one, it just happens. Not with the gender but also there is other things me/you/others have to put up with. No one perfect.

[Nygeel]

I think my body is the right body for me.

[Ryan55]

no one is to blame, I think it might be a biological thing, but no one is to blame, can't blame the fathers for giving the wrong chromosome, not their fault, it is what it is, you know

[Erik Ezrin]

I'd not go as far as 'blame' other circumstances. Either I just pulled a short straw in the genetic lottery and it's all a coincidence, or maybe... do things like reincarnation exist and have we actually chosen it ourselves before we were born, to learn and grow, or maybe help others grow.
I don't know, but I prefer to ASSUME the latter for the time being. Why? Because it keeps me from falling for self pity and/or depression. Just to assume I am trans for a REASON, and not just as a punishment or bad luck, but that it means I have to learn something in this life, gives me a lot of peace.

[Tossu-sama]

It's really no one's fault. I consider it to be nature's mishap. Fortunately we're provided with the means to correct that said mishap.

[Jason C]

I think no-one. I know there's some evidence to support the idea that it's biological, but I don't believe that's necessarily the case all of the time. I think it can be a number of factors, both genetic and environmental. But maybe it's also just random, one of those things, it's just how we've developed, with no real reason. I don't know, but I don't blame anyone. In fact, I'm making it a point to tell my parents, once I tell them, that it's not their fault and it's nothing they've done or haven't done. Because I've seen a lot of parents of trans people ask if it was something they did. And I think it must suck to realise your child is unhappy with who they were their whole life, and to think it might've been something you did wrong.

[aleon515]

No one, but I believe I am normal. It isn't as common but it's still normal. I think blaming a father for not passing on a Y chromosome, implies that he had some kind of choice or say in the matter. It is not going to lead to anything good ever. It won't lead to your father accepting this, if he ever does nor will it lead to you forgiving or going on without his approval.

--Jay

[King Malachite]

Like you, I blame my father for giving me the x chromosome (along with some horrible genes).  I actually told him when I was young that I hated him for making me a girl. 

I also blame my my mother too.


I blame both of them for having sex and bringing me into this earth.   I blame my mom for not aborting me.  I'd much rather be a cis-man than what I am not, but if I had my way, I would have never been born.  I wish I would have died in the womb.

Is it healthy to blame them?  Probably not.

Is it immature?  Perhaps

Will I continue to do so?  Yup

That's just the type of person I am. 

[jonjon]

Why isn't 'your mother' on the list of options? ... i mean, what dad did he couldn't have done on his own 

lol

no but seriously, no one is to blame. Fact of science. It happens. Things sometimes go wrong during manufacturing. You can either discard it, or try to fix the end product Lets try not to discard it though, that would be such a waste!

[AdamMLP]

I don't blame anyone.  Maybe it's because of one of them, maybe it's because my mother was taking "The Pill" when I was conceived, maybe it was the stress they were under at that time, I have no idea.  I don't really care.  There's nothing they intentionally did, and knowing doesn't make it any better.  I'd only care if that knowledge could be used to prevent other people having to deal with this.

[CursedFireDean]

I believe God is responsible. But I don't mean that in a bad way. I think God did it on purpose and I don't feel angry at that because it means it'll make me a better person.
I definitely don't BLAME anyone. I think God has a reason for it, and I always wonder, if I had been born male, maybe God would have made me MTF. It's teaching me to be a more confident person, so maybe that was the reason, I shall never know.

[Frank]

I don't blame anyone. It's not like our parents got together and said "Let's f-k up this kid for life!" How is anyone to know if their kid is going to be trans? Autistic? A psychopath? It's nature. It happens.

[stephaniec]

as Nicholas Cage said in the movie Knowing " sh--  happens".

[wheat thins are delicious]

A biological cause is the most likely reason for transsexualism.