Transition MtF HELP?

[ScottieC23]

Hi my names scottie i'm 23 and uhm i'm not really sure how to even write it but i know i am woman trapped in a mans body and i want to change it, but i honestly have not a single clue of how to even begin the process, not to mention i am incredibly scared. I know there are like a million help threads but i really need it

[Jessica Merriman]

A big warm welcome to the family Scottie! I am so glad you found us and decided to join us here. You will find in no time you have a ton of people who understand you in your corner now. We all care and want to see you succeed in life and be happy in your own skin. If you are in the U.S. you have two ways of starting on the road to transition. First is by finding a Therapist with gender experience and get a diagnosis of yourself. Therapist's can provide letters of HRT which will begin your hormone therapy. They can also collaborate with others for letters for SRS. I think this is the best way in my opinion and is what I did myself because it also provides someone to talk to and help guide you. the other option is called "Informed Consent". This means you have to have a thorough knowledge of the HRT process, medications, administration routes and other important information. However, if you go this route and cant convince them of your knowledge of the subject it could possibly delay further efforts as providers share information these days. You should read and understand thoroughly the WPATH Standards of Care. A copy can be found here at Susan's. Get to know it very well if you choose "Informed Consent" because right now it is THE procedural guide for Transgender care. Here is a BIG HUG  to welcome you and make you feel right at home!

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[Veronica M]

Hi Scottie, and welcome to Susan's... As to beginning, you came to the right place. So you just took your first step. Congrats! Yes it is a very scary thing to start accepting ones self as they really are. So your not alone. As you are just starting this adventure my suggestion would be to seek out a therapist who specializes on gender therapy. He or she will most likely be very helpful, accepting and understanding as to what you are feeling. But be honest with yourself and your therapist. Otherwise it is wasting both of your time.

There is a ton of great information here and we are always willing to help. So again, welcome, and ask away... Your not alone, remember that one for sure.

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[ScottieC23]

Thank you so much! you have no idea how much this means to me

[Jessica Merriman]

Thank you so much! you have no idea how much this means to me

We have all been where you are today! Ask anything you need to if it helps you out. After 15 postings you can use the Personal Message feature to contact any of us directly. You will find more than plenty of us to help you out. Relax and as Veronica said you are not alone and you have found the right place. This IS a family, so don't be shy and dig right in!

[ScottieC23]

My biggest worry is i don't know how to tell my father, he's a pretty old fashioned person and a bit of a control freak....I have so far only told one person of what i want to do.

[Jessica Merriman]

My biggest worry is i don't know how to tell my father, he's a pretty old fashioned person and a bit of a control freak....I have so far only told one person of what i want to do.

Welcome to the hardest step of all. We can give you ideas and suggestions, but only you know how they take news of this kind and how much tact to use. I will say not to pre judge how someone will respond. I have been pleasantly surprised in my situation. I was not expecting near the support I received at all. Another biggie is not to let it consume you and get bigger than it really is. A lot of people worry so much about the perceived response that they keep putting it off and the cycle builds. True gender Dysphoria only gets much worse as time goes by. Some of us actually hit a live or die moment it can be so powerful. There really is no easy way to come out, but it has to be done before you can heal and go on. Just read, understand and be able to clearly explain exactly why and how you are doing what you are doing and do it with conviction. I lost a lot, but what I gained far exceeded and losses.

[Allyda]

Hi Scotty, Welcome to Susan's. You'll find alot of help here. Just be patient, transition takes time.

[ScottieC23]

Thank you

I just finished reading the Standards of Care document and i think i have it understood but my god that was a lot to take in lol

[Rachel]

Hugs Scottie,

Welcome to Susan's. You have had a lot of progress by coming here, so congratulations.

Seeing a gender therapist is a great start. When you are ready to come out you will but 1st you should build agency (self acceptance and embracing your gender and truth). When you are ready what seams impossible now will then be able to be done.

When seeing a gender therapist you can figure out what you want and ways to achieve aligning your gender and sex.

You are young and as you age GD will most likely get worse. When time goes by the need to be yourself will become consuming. Some do things they think will exercise the desires and impulses to find their decisions have now affected not only them but now several people. Point being address your fears, be yourself and embrace who you are.