Still, if you're wearing androgynous clothes, you're leaving the door wide open for people to gender you male. And if your appearance is androgynous too, you've got to expect that some people aren't going to be able to tell, and therefore they're going to make mistakes.
It's hard when some people are gendering you female while others are still gendering you male. I know. You want to be gendered female all the time. But you've got to give people clues if you expect to be gendered correctly all the time. When I was at this stage myself, and complaining about people gendering me male, I realized, I was still wearing a large unfitted jacket, men's shoes, and men's pants. So even though I believed that my appearance was more female than male, or at least androgynous, and I felt like I should be gendered female all the time, was the fault of me being gendered male really theirs for misreading my appearance, or was it mine for dressing in clothes that left the option of gendering me male wide open?
Save the hatred for people who are actually disrespecting you, gendering you male while you're actively trying to present as female. Other times, people can't be expected to read your mind.
