I don't mean to sound harsh, but it feels like if you think that telling people you slept together would be something that would piss him off or embarrass him, you should really not (likely unconsciously) put yourself down in that manner. You're a gorgeous girl, and telling everyone that you're trans and you slept together and all that might end up reflecting a lot more inwardly than you realize. This doesn't sound like someone treating you horribly and being humiliated because you were trans, it kinda sounds more like he treated you like he would any other girl. And for better or worse, isn't that what quite a few of us want?