im thinking of putting a guy i had intercourse wit last week on blast....

[Angélique LaCava]

im thinking of telling people he had sex with a transgender last saturday cause everyone on my facebook knows him cause we all went to high school together reason im wanting to do this is cause hes ignoring me now. I made a status about the guy but didn't say names and then a girl msged me and said this "Who is the guy? I overheard one my friends saying they had sex with a transgender and was wanting advice on if it would make him look bad or not if he actually asked the person out. It might have been you" but to make a long story short I described the guy to her and she said yep that's my friends and I asked her wat his name was and she said his name and yep that's him, but  im really confused cause if she is telling the truth and he was concidering dating me then why is he ignoring me now like he reads my msgs but never replys? like I msged him last nite and asked why hes not talking to me and he read it never replied so I msged him again and told him I deserve an explanation cause me and him did have sex. well he read that too and didn't reply. im so confused now.

[Danielle Emmalee]

What benefit will come of what you are planning to do?  The only thing that will come from it is it will make trans people look bad and possibly put you in danger if the guy gets upset.

[Angélique LaCava]

well this is wat I just msged him to see maybe that it would persuade him to tell me why hes ignoring me. "ok well this is going to be my last msg to u. u can read it and not reply like ur already doing or u can tell why ur ignoring me. so u can stop being a dick and eather tell me or ill just start telling people wat we did. i havnt told anyone except my best friend katelyne, but since ur being a dick i should start being  one too."

[Ruthven]

What Caysee said. You're throwin trans peeps under the bus basically if you do that, and as if it's bad to have sex with them, y'know?

[Angélique LaCava]

What Caysee said. You're throwin trans peeps under the bus basically if you do that, and as if it's bad to have sex with them, y'know?

I said I was thinking bout it, but instead ima just try to scare him by saying wat I just said to him

[Lady_Oracle]

Please don't be that person who tries to get revenge towards the person you have feelings for because they're ignoring you. Keep it between you and him don't involve others in this. You'll just come off as looking like a terrible person. I get that you're in a state of confusion over him ignoring you but be patient, stop messaging for a bit. See if he comes around within a week or so. If he still hasn't by then just move on and let it go. Who knows he might message you back when you least expect it. But you gotta keep a clear head. Trust me I've been where you are. It really sucks when people ignore you, especially someone you've been intimate with. But the last thing you wanna do is make the situation even worst. Like the fact that you just basically threatened him looks pretty bad. Using "scare tactics" just makes the chances of you guys actually working things out that much less. Let alone him speaking to you.

Please stay safe!!

[Angélique LaCava]

Please don't be that person who tries to get revenge towards the person you have feelings for because they're ignoring you. Keep it between you and him don't involve others in this. You'll just come off as looking like a terrible person. I get that you're in a state of confusion over him ignoring you but be patient, stop messaging for a bit. See if he comes around within a week or so. If he still hasn't by then just move on and let it go. Who knows he might message you back when you least expect it. But you gotta keep a clear head. Trust me I've been where you are. It really sucks when people ignore you, especially someone you've been intimate with. But the last thing you wanna do is make the situation even worst. Like the fact that you just basically threatened him looks pretty bad. Using "scare tactics" just makes the chances of you guys actually working things out that much less. Let alone him speaking to you.

Please stay safe!!

well now im regretting ever msging him that. I wish I could take it back :/

[Lady_Oracle]

Sorry you could send him another message apologizing for the last one? It can't hurt to try. Just wish I had seen this thread sooner. 

[Angélique LaCava]

Sorry you could send him another message apologizing for the last one? It can't hurt to try. Just wish I had seen this thread sooner.

I did just now. this is wat I told him "im sorry that i said wat i said... after awhile of sending it i started feeling bad. i only sent it cause im  mad cause i feel used, but u will never hear from me again. im sorry for bugging u."

[crowcrow223]

You wrote "you'll never hear from me again" as a kind of way to trigger a response from him. You're hoping for that, you have feelings, which is fine.

Threatening a guy into relationship is just so immature and just terrible. Wouldn't you want to be with someone who truly cares for you, would never use you, and would support you in every difficult situation you may have in life? Why would you want to humiliate yourself that way JUST to get a boyfriend? it's not worth it

Just cut it out, don't message him again, refrain from meeting him in person, forget about it, and take a lesson out of it: just because a guy wants to sleep with you, it does NOT mean he has any feelings for you, it does not mean something serious could come out of it.

Be careful, take care, and don't do stupid things

[Lady_Oracle]

aww I know you're hurting but I'm glad you told him how you felt about the situation and apologized. Hope you're feeling a bit better about this since you got your feelings across. It's the most you can do. HUGGS!! <3

[Angélique LaCava]

You wrote "you'll never hear from me again" as a kind of way to trigger a response from him. You're hoping for that, you have feelings, which is fine.

Threatening a guy into relationship is just so immature and just terrible. Wouldn't you want to be with someone who truly cares for you, would never use you, and would support you in every difficult situation you may have in life? Why would you want to humiliate yourself that way JUST to get a boyfriend? it's not worth it

Just cut it out, don't message him again, refrain from meeting him in person, forget about it, and take a lesson out of it: just because a guy wants to sleep with you, it does NOT mean he has any feelings for you, it does not mean something serious could come out of it.

Be careful, take care, and don't do stupid things

I wrote "you'll never hear from me again" cause after wat I said im sure he will never want to talk to me and I didn't threaten him like that to get him to talk to me I did it so he would get mad enough tell me the truth about why he was ignoring me cause we did hav sex and he just like stopped talking to me which made me insecure and I just want piece of mind of the reason cause I was only expecting atleast a friendship out of this not a relationship and since hes not even talking to me as a friend I feel used.

[LivingTheDream]

Sorry but from the looks of it, it does seem like he just used you for sex. I know you want answers and all and you definitely deserve some but that is something that is outside of your control; you can't force him to give you answers. I'm saying this because I been in relationships before too and they fall apart and I wanted answers as well and I wanted to try to make things ok and still be friends etc just like you do. It really upset and hurt me because I really cared for these people and I wanted them in my life and I wanted to be part of theirs. I texted them and facebook messaged them but they didn't reply and I know they got the message. If they were true friends or wanted to be friends they wouldn't do that now would they? I know it sucks and it's hard but sometimes you just gotta move on though. I wish I could've found out what happened too and it still upsets me but there's nothing else I can do about it besides letting them go.

As for putting them on blast, I think that's a bad idea. Does he deserve it? Maybe. He sounds like a douche and probably used you but idk, I believe some things are best kept private. Putting it out there might make you feel a lil bit better but I'm sure it will prolly end up bringing a ton of drama with it as well. He'll prolly be super pissed and any chance, if there is any, of friendship or future relations will be lost and he could become violent as well. So if I were you, I would def not put it out there like that.

[VickyMI]

He's not into you. Stop messaging and move on.

[Angélique LaCava]

He's not into you. Stop messaging and move on.

at this point im aware hes not into me, but he still had sex wit me and he never gave me the impression that he wouldn't still talk to me afterwards. I have never had a one night stand and I didn't plan for that to be a one night stand cause I would have really liked to hav sex again with him, but I deserve to know why he dosnt want to talk as friends cause wen me and him was talking for 2 hours we seemed to get along great.

[Jessica Merriman]

Ok so this post is fine, but my post telling her to grow up was deleted why?

Please review TOS 2,7 and 20.

[mac1]

at this point im aware hes not into me, but he still had sex wit me and he never gave me the impression that he wouldn't still talk to me afterwards. I have never had a one night stand and I didn't plan for that to be a one night stand cause I would have really liked to hav sex again with him, but I deserve to know why he dosnt want to talk as friends cause wen me and him was talking for 2 hours we seemed to get along great.

You are being way too easy. Sex after only 2 hours is just plain old sex. What did you expect?

[Angélique LaCava]

You are being way too easy. Sex after only 2 hours is just plain old sex. What did you expect?

i didn't expect for him to never talk to me again. I atleast thought me n him would end up friends cause we got along so well

[Sarah Louise]

Its really no one else's business who you did or didn't have sex with.  Sharing that on Facebook is just wrong, giving out his name would be really wrong.  Leave him alone and get on with your life.

[stephaniec]

Its really no one else's business who you did or didn't have sex with.  Sharing that on Facebook is just wrong, giving out his name would be really wrong.  Leave him alone and get on with your life.

ditto