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Why Transition Over the Age 50?

Started by TRyan, April 29, 2014, 10:11:43 PM

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sandrauk

Quote from: Ms Grace on April 30, 2014, 06:08:48 AM
"Why not??"

It's how I answer all "why?" questions. ;D

Good answer or, to take it further "Why don't you want to transition?"

I said much the same to my psychiatrist 30 years ago when his first question to me was "what's wrong with you?" I answered "nothing at all, I just don't understand why everyone else doesn't want to dress"
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Nero

Another thing is that for a long time transition in middle age was the norm. And maybe still is, even though people are transitioning younger and younger. Really not outside the norm at all. In fact, it is the norm. Or at least has been.
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Blue Rabbit

I'm the baby here at 20 years old xD And yea I do wanna be pretty and stunning I mean who doesn't?! But thats not why I want to transition. Just like everyone else I want to transition because I want to be whole.

I don't think anyone who transitions for the right reasons transitions to be this beautiful heart breaking female. 70, 50, 16 all of them ages you hear a similar answer when you ask "Why do you want to transition." the answer doesn't really change that much from age to age from what I've seen.
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Sephirah

Why transition over the age of 50?

Because you can live more of a lifetime in a single day if it's the life you want for yourself than in a hundred years if it isn't.
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mrs izzy

Guess because of age and wisdom you can never take steps to make ones life happy.

I am confused I guess.

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TRyan

Quote from: Sephirah on April 30, 2014, 11:51:31 AM
Why transition over the age of 50?

Because you can live more of a lifetime in a single day if it's the life you want for yourself than in a hundred years if it isn't.

I love this Sephira.
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TRyan

Quote from: Kade1985 on April 30, 2014, 12:11:36 AM
Like the others said. It's never too late. As long as you draw breath transitioning is possible. Even if it's late in life you can still be happy and feel accomplished, whole, and complete. I can imagine it might be scarier, but you will have the rest of your life to be the person you've always wanted to be.

=D I wish you well on your journey, I promise it'll be a good one even if rough at times.

Thanks Kade. I appreciate this. Some of the other comments that were made hit on my biggest fears such as "you'll never find a relationship because you don't have the right equipment plus you're over 50"  and other things. 

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Nero

Quote from: TRyan on April 30, 2014, 12:42:38 PM
"you'll never find a relationship because you don't have the right equipment plus you're over 50"  and other things.

This is ironically one of the reasons I'm not sorry I didn't transition earlier. I don't envy trans youth at all when it comes to emerging sexuality/relationships. It's hard enough for someone with the expected genitals. I'm glad I had a youth unencumbered by constant explanations/rejections over what's in my pants. I compare my relationship/sexual history to what it probably would have been if I'd transitioned as a teen/early 20s  (especially in that time and place). And I really wouldn't trade. There's a lot to be said for spontaneous, no explanations sex. The freedom to just pretty much ->-bleeped-<- anyone. No excuses. No fears. No explanations. No, I wouldn't trade.

It also gave me a confidence in sex and relationships that I otherwise probably wouldn't have.
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TRyan

Quote from: FA on April 30, 2014, 12:59:41 PM
This is ironically one of the reasons I'm not sorry I didn't transition earlier. I don't envy trans youth at all when it comes to emerging sexuality/relationships. It's hard enough for someone with the expected genitals. I'm glad I had a youth unencumbered by constant explanations/rejections over what's in my pants. I compare my relationship/sexual history to what it probably would have been if I'd transitioned as a teen/early 20s  (especially in that time and place). And I really wouldn't trade. There's a lot to be said for spontaneous, no explanations sex. The freedom to just pretty much ->-bleeped-<- anyone. No excuses. No fears. No explanations. No, I wouldn't trade.

It also gave me a confidence in sex and relationships that I otherwise probably wouldn't have.

Interesting FA. And good to hear.  My relationships all failed I think to some extent because I wasn't being myself. I wasn't in my body so eventually sex went out the window.  And I wasn't being related to in the correct gender (if that makes sense).

It would be great to have more confidence on both areas. I have to say that I'm glad this board is here. As everyone is aware it's not easy going through this stuff alone.  I'm encountering things I didn't anticipate so it's helping me from making bad decisions.

This morning though woke up in a panic about everything. I had to go on disability a few years ago due to a chronic illness so the financial/housing situation is a bit more difficult because I can't afford a lot due to my budget. 

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gennee

Quote from: TRyan on April 29, 2014, 10:11:43 PM
I'm 51. I came out to someone today and was asked this question:

"Why would you want to transition over 50? 

This was actually from another trans person so it threw me off a bit, lol. 

I thought it was a good question because I think there are different issues to be faced when transitioning and "older".

How would you answer this question?

My question is why not?
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Cassandra Hyacinth

I've literally seen people argue that no one over the age of thirty should transition. It makes no sense whatsoever to me.
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barbie

Quote from: warlockmaker on April 30, 2014, 07:55:21 AM
Because it was the right time in my life. I've had children, financially secure, fufilled my responsibility - its time to gve to myself!!! And i'm just so happy I did.

Yes. That is why I started feminizing my body and wearing women's dresses at my early 40s. I could have time to contemplate myself, and became confident that I can control of my life and family. Before that, I was too busy taking care of my two sons and pursuing my career.

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Satinjoy

Every time I fight against my body and my transition I get close to a nervous breakdown.

It isn't worth it to fight who you are.

1 year HRT here and started at 55.  Get the best therapist you can buy.

Why after 50? 

There are so many of us here that started late.  Why not indeed.  But you will need help dear this is far too much to handle by yourself, and with help you can preserve some or all of what you fear losing, if you handle it with an experienced therapist.  Dysphoria is blinding.  It takes a while to see clearly after being dazzled by the light.  :)  And how clearly you will see, how restored can you become, if you walk the paths of acceptance.  Just be careful it is a hard thing for our loved ones, most of my therapy has been about them.
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Mermaid

Because you're alive?

If you have to do it, then do it. Age shouldn't put you off from fulfilling your dreams. Whoever asked you that question's a bit rude and honestly... not very bright, but most people aren't, anyway.
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warlockmaker

We get to look 20 years younger. The gaunt face fills, skin glow, the butt takes a youful shape and we have teenage boobs. What coul be better lol
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@Diana

#35
imo , there is never too late to do anything, no matter how old you are ..

be yourself , do whatever you want , if it doesn't hurt anyone , then i will say go for it

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JustEmily

Inspiring.  This topic really makes me feel better and less scared.:-[
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aleon515

Why shouldn't I? Younger people may not know this, but there still is life after 50. (I get very amused when I see "I'm 25, I am too old to transition". )

--Jay
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TerriT

Because 50 is not dead! I swear up to my last breath not to let this thing own me because I won't die regretting not doing something, ANYTHING while I still have a chance.
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VeryGnawty

The question itself is flawed, because the question implies that there is no value to doing anything past the age of 50.  The argument is basically that because you get little benefit from transitioning at 50 in comparison to transitioning at, let's say, 20, that there is no value in it at all.  But, that way of thinking ignores the fact that there ARE benefits to transitioning at 50 compared to not transitioning at all.

I can use this same fallacy in a million ways, and it will still be flawed every single time.  For example, why work on your health at age 50 when you could die soon anyway?  Why take up a new hobby at age 50, when the best years of your life are already gone?  Why engage in a lifelong passion at age 50 that you never pursued, such as painting or writing?

The reason that these questions are all flawed is because they are comparing the benefit to doing something at an old age versus a young age.  The thing that is not being considered is doing something at an old age versus NEVER DOING IT AT ALL, which is what the question inevitably leads to when you follow its (non)logic to its conclusion.

In fact, if you follow the non-logic to its ultimate conclusion, everyone should commit suicide at age 50 because it is not worth doing anything past age 50.  That's basically what someone is implying when they ask that question.  The question is favoring compared doing an activity at a young age versus an old age while completely ignoring the consequences of not doing the activity at all.
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