QuoteWhat about the rights of the parents?
I'm not a parent, but hopefully my perspective as a relatively recently emancipated adult will be beneficial.
Shelley, in your particular case, I think you have a right to be upset. However, there are parents who don't recognize that their children become adults at some point, even if their children start making decisions that the parents don't like. The parental relationship becomes an adult friendship, and the parents are no longer in charge. I've seen this fly over so many parents' heads, and they spend the next five years baffled and angry because they can't control their "kids" anymore. You're probably thinking that this doesn't apply in any way to a 17 year old... I would humbly ask you to reconsider, bearing in mind that this transition doesn't happen all at once.
I think Charlene knows best what her parents should and shouldn't know about her sexual orientation. Charlene's mother agrees: "The person to decide when and how to talk with our family about this should have been my daughter, not her principal." If Charlene were caught smoking crack, this would be a different story. But Charlene was "caught" expressing something that she has every right to express, regardless of what her parents think.