Coming out on Facebook.

[Hayley]

Congrats on the interwebs coming out!

[Shodan]

Shodan eyes the post nervously for thirty minutes to see what kind of response she gets...

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Random Person likes this. 

[JamesG]

Like I said, most people don't care. 

[Hayley]

Try not to stress over it. People will see it and most people won't say anything but there will be people who do. May be good comment or it may be bad. Out of the 62 friends I had I ended up with 13 likes and a hand full if comments. Some people sent PMs congratulating me on being "brave" but yeah it shouldn't be a stressful time. Be happy you get that weight off and enjoy your new found Facebook openness.

Side note: Facebook for me decided after I changed the gender on there to show me tons of ads for clothing and shoes. Which I am fine with but that is awfully sexist considering before it was like some shave club and video game stuff for the most part.

[JamesG]

It's "marketing" when they do it to make money. 

[JaneNicole2013]

I currently have two accounts and my plan is to come out on my male persona's Facebook page when I transition at work on Aug 4th. I plan to come out on a limited basis as I'm Facebook friends with several of my kids' friends and their parents and while my kids know, I want their circles to hear it from them.

Also, my youngest is still in scouts and working toward his Eagle and since I was heavily involved in scouts a few years ago (one of the reasons I didn't transition then) many of my Facebook friends are scouters, so I won't be coming out to them.

The good thing about Facebook is that you can set who sees what posts.

Jane

[Shodan]

Indeed. So far the response has been overwhelmingly positive, even from the friends that I have that are very religious. It's just nice to have it out in the open, now (except for where I'm currently working but that's a whole nother bag of worms.)

[JessikaBlackMage]

when I came out I told a bunch of my friends individually, I wish I hadn't told so many people I wish I had just done it quietly so people would not have noticed. It was extremely hard coming out at first on facebook. but after a while it got easier.

[FalseHybridPrincess]

yeap it wasnt that big deal

most people wont say anything and those who will will only say good things

[MacG]

And to be honest, its your business.  No one really should care or want to know beyond those you know/know you.  I know that gets into the whole "visibility" and activism thing, but why do you even care if the whole Facebookiverse knows you are trans?  (I've never gotten the whole narcissism thing that FB facilitates)

Yes work WILL find out and it it will follow you around for the rest of your life (or until the apocalypse).

I agree somewhat. But I also wanted to ask people to use my preferred pronouns.
And I wanted to make it not be a secret, where people would wonder what was happening but not feel like they could ask me.
I wanted it clear that my friends could ask me for info. I'd rather have that.

So I came out on Facebook (after coming out to close family and friends). I've had only positive response. But I do have great family and friends.

I am transitioning in place, so... It's no secret anyway.

[muffinpants]

What an awesome post!! That's so great how so many of yall are open to talking to your friends about transition and educating them when they have questions. That is the key to acceptance, helping people to understand. My gf decided just recently to 'officially' come out on facebook. Most people already knew and she had already been making random posts that could lead people to assume.. but she said she was tired of being in the closet, like it was something to be ashamed of. I'm so proud of her and yall, too! Her reasoning was that once people realize they know a trans person, it will be a lot harder to hate them... puts a real face and emotions on the word 'trans'. It's been so great, she has even had an old friend from highschool ask her about her journey... turns out she is trans as well and will soon start therapy to get her letter! Again, bravo!

[pianoforte]

Muffinpants, I'm proud of your gf too I'm working toward that. For now...

I just appreciate that there are many ways to come out on social media these days.

I am currently "out" on Facebook to the extent that my profile's Gender is listed as "Gender Fluid, Gender Nonconforming, Gender Questioning, Gender Variant, Genderqueer, Non-binary, Other, Pangender and Trans*" and I set my pronouns to they/them/theirs.

And to the extent that I repost trans* related articles an average of 3-5 times a day.

And to the extent that I'm in open public trans* groups...

But no official coming out post or note (yet?). This way is more subtle, and for me it feels really smooth and natural this way. Perhaps later I will swap out Pangender for Trans Man. Or start dropping the excessive labels (I had a little too much fun with the new ones when they came out, I'll admit it).

Anyway sorry for the long post... I just find this topic so interesting!

~ pf

[Mariah]

I have been letting them know individually on my account as well and then moving them over to the new account. I found as I have let more and more of my friends know that it has gotten a lot easier. Once I have finished letting everyone that I want to know I will leave one last post behind for those that remain. The response has been extremely positive as I move from my inner circle to those a bit further out. Starting with a fresh account really has been liberating to me and is what was best in my case.

when I came out I told a bunch of my friends individually, I wish I hadn't told so many people I wish I had just done it quietly so people would not have noticed. It was extremely hard coming out at first on facebook. but after a while it got easier.

[Shodan]

Yeah, I'd debated on whether or not I wanted to create a new account and handle it that way. At the end of the day I decided that it's too much hassle, and it's better to just rip the bandaid off (so to speak) and find out who's in my court. Being able to talk about it openly in my private life has taken a lot of stress out of my life and I'm glad I did it the way I did. I'm still fretting about how I'm going to handle work, but I'm trying to put aside my worries until they become relevant, in that I want to start presenting full time. That's not going to be for a while yet.