Marc,
Perhaps your parents really do believe that you are a woman, and because they love you, they want to protect you from making mistakes. However, if that is true, then they should seek some better explanation for their feelings than "it is God's will" (because they cannot know God's will with certainty) or "it is against Catholicism" (because, in truth, the Catholic Church's position has yet to be fully formed and presented).
You may wish to consider the possibility of taking the initiative to seek out your priest and your mother in a friendly way asking for a constructive and loving conversation, to speak with them as follows.
First, to ask, "How do you know for certain that transexualism is against the will of God?" Isn't it true that many, many times, we think we know what is God's will, when we really do not?
The Bible does not make a definitive statement *against* transexualism. The Old Testament does make certain statements against cross-dressing. However: (1) in the New Testament, St. Paul makes it very clear that Christians are not bound by the legalistic restrictions of the Old Law; and (2) we have to consider what is a 'man' and what is a 'woman'. If someone has a man's soul in a woman's body, then is this a woman dressing like a man? Or a man dressing like a man?
In Genesis, God is said to make the first person both male and female.
Genesis 1:27. So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.
Genesis 5:2. Male and female created he them; and blessed them, and called their name Adam, in the day when they were created.
These passages might be understood to mean that a person's soul is *both* male and female; if so, which gender a person prefers to present to others is somewhat arbitrary.
If it were me, I would ask the priest in a friendly way: I know you care about my soul, and that is appreciated. However, may we make this agreement: that you and I both pray, "God, may *your* will be done." And then to humbly await guidance. Humility here means *not* presupposing in advance that the priest or you know what the answer is. Right? That is, true Christian humility before God means that the priest should not automatically assume that God is opposed to f2m.
You see, the devil is not so much worried about making people think they are transexuals; his business is instead to turn people into enemies, creating tensions and divisions in families, producing anger and hatred. The way to beat the devil, then, is for everybody to use this 'problem' as an opportunity to grow in love, understanding, patience, and humility.
Also, there are many priests in Belgium. You might find that some other priest has a more open-minded attitude towards transexualism.
As far as your father is concerned, in Iran, a very Muslim country, m2f transexualism is permitted (I don't know about f2m). So the possibility that a person's soul and body may have different genders is accepted.
Cathy
