Unsure to tell work friend

[Jessi Lee 1970]

Last year I had been working with the same man for a year and a half straight (we work in teams of two). We got along, I'd bring in boardgames to play at lunch, and we'd have talks about books and spiritually and just life. He was a good guy having problems with his wife and I was his sounding board and listener. He changed over to day shift to have a better schedule and now we only see each other maybe once a week for like 5 minutes.
Three weeks ago, I told him that I was needing a change (I am not out yet, btw) and that I was gonna grow my hair out long, dye it and shave off my goatee off 9 years... he was a lil shocked but smiled that change is good.
Two weeks ago we were talking about an accident that happened at work that he was lucky to not have been hurt by, and the conversation turned to the two transgendered women we have at my job. He basically said that he thought one of them was pretty. I had on my male mask and armor, but he said it a couple of times and I know my face may have broken down when I agreed that she is pretty and that I wouldn't know unless a co-worker hadn't told me. So, I left quickly.
A few days ago I ran into him again, the day before my first therapy session, and said hi to the other two guys in the room who had their backs to us and I told my friend hi, and I think I sashayed around him to sit down. I saw out of the corner of my eye he was still looking at me with an intense assumed look, and he said he was going to talk to me later. I swear it felt like he knew everything going on in my head, and I turned away. I looked back a couple of times and he just kept looking at me and I just started blushing, I mean really really red. So I deflected the conversation to boardgames (a nice neutral topic) and I haven't seen him since.
Any ideas?
Am I just reading my emotions into this or is my friend psychic?

[E-Brennan]

I think you're right to proceed cautiously.  Since this is a work friend (and not a friend friend?), and since any gossip might lead to you being outed to everyone - possibly losing your job in the process, which would be a disaster - I'd be inclined to keep it quiet unless there's a compelling reason to tell him.

We often think that people know things about us, but in reality they have no idea.  I've experienced the same feelings - should I tell such-and-such a trusted co-worker? - but I've always erred on the side of caution and kept it to myself, even if I was 90% sure the co-worker in question would understand and keep it to himself or herself.  In the cold light of day, it just never seemed like the rational thing to do.

[Ms Grace]

You should avoid reading anything into his actions or words. I agree with ____, it would be a rapid path to being outed at work. Believe me, unless that person is highly trusted and there is total mutual respect you cannot expect that kind of thing to stay a secret. And that kind of gossip spreads very quickly through the grapevine. Even if the guy is fairly circumspect all it would take is for him to say one small thing to the wrong person and it's off like wildfire. Speak to your counsellor instead, sort things out with them, work out what you want to do, that's the safer course.

[Jessi Lee 1970]

You're both right of course. Thank you for getting my feet back on the ground. I've just been so bubbly the past few days I feel like I'm going to burst. Being outed at this job could be dangerous I don't know how the two girls that are transitioning do it. I need to find a safer job.
Thanks, Jessi