Thanks, now I can't get Cher out of my head.

I wouldn't waste so many years with that ridiculous homophobic, transphobic, cishet loser I married. Sure, he's a nice guy in many ways, but most of those ways were directed outside of our home. He's kind, chivalrous and generous...
but only to friends and strangers; excellent at DIY...
as long as it's to improve his parents' house; helpful, supportive and co-operative...
but only to his parents; hard-working, dedicated and trustworthy...
but only to his parents and his employers.But to us, his immediate family? Sod us, we've always been at the bottom of his priority list. We made the sacrifices that gave him the time to be such a 'great guy' to everyone else.
So I would've - and should've - divorced him whilst my kids were little. My life would be far more on track now, and my kids would probably find it easier to cope with my transition if I'd done it when they were little.