Ughh i'm attracting men like flys. Anything I can wear to signal I'm a lesbian?

[Evelyn K]

I ride a major city subway. Even the queer men sit around me. I can tell they are in an attraction state, caught one who was wearing tight white pants, red shoes (totally gay) giving me the gay sultry stare.

Ughhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!

I present as androgynous conservatively dressed attire. Nothing flaming at all.

Anyway to change this vibe?

[Tori]

Crop your hair, wear flannel and drive a Subaru?

[Evelyn K]

I know gay men wear an earring on their right ear.

What to the lesbians do? Or is it tattoo's? I'm admittingly new to this. lol.

[Tori]

Evelyn, you are a lipstick lesbian. It just comes with the territory. Forced androgyny can draw all types.

Wear a wedding ring?

[Jill F]

Aww, men aren't so bad...  OK, the creepy ones have to go, but if you give off a gay guy vibe, that's what you will attract.  I remember my andro phase on the train...

The best thing to "wear" to signal that you are a lesbian is a girlfriend.

If you present female in public, you will likely stop attracting gay guys.  OK, they won't leave me alone now, but they are seemingly no longer interested in me as a potential lover.

[Jill F]

I know gay men wear an earring on their right ear.

What to the lesbians do? Or is it tattoo's? I'm admittingly new to this. lol.

Yeah, the right ear thing was so 70s and 80s.

I have "dyke" tattooed on my forehead. *facepalm*

[Evelyn K]

Evelyn, you are a lipstick lesbian. It just comes with the territory. Forced androgyny can draw all types.

Wear a wedding ring?

I don't know... I want to show I'm single

Maybe a mouth piercing? or a lip ring? I see lots of queer gals doing this. Or I think they are queer. They sit around me also. One gal had a silver ball stud piercing on both sides of her cheeks. That was something i never saw before. Another was dressed like a gothic Suicide Girl, lots of tattooo's. She was hot But a piercing would be totally 'new' for even me.

[Evelyn K]

Yeah, the right ear thing was so 70s and 80s.

I have "dyke" tattooed on my forehead. *facepalm*

Yeah that goes to show how much of a sexuality noobie creature I am. I must look like a nerdy virgin

[Tori]

Yeah, I have not had an issue with gay guys since I came out. Now we are able to be friends without any of the unwanted sexual attention which I used to attract. My wife indeed helps. So does dressing female. I am not exactly beating the straight men off like flies either. My bi and lesbian friends however, have become a little frisky. Sigh, my wife would kill me if I entertained any of that.

[L00T]

Wear turquoise jewelry while holding a caulking gun!

I mean if you really want an outward display of lesbianisms, you could always go for a cute double female sign necklace or bracelet and just make sure other people can see it if you are feeling uncomfortable with the manly leering. 

I'm such a loser. You don't even want the manly leering and I couldn't even get a guy to leer at me to save my life, ha! But women don't leer at me either. So I just draw no attention. *sigh*

[greypeacock]

A rainbow bracelet can work wonders. I call mine 'cougar repellent'

[Evelyn K]

Wear turquoise jewelry while holding a caulking gun!

I mean if you really want an outward display of lesbianisms, you could always go for a cute double female sign necklace or bracelet and just make sure other people can see it if you are feeling uncomfortable with the manly leering. 

I'm such a loser. You don't even want the manly leering and I couldn't even get a guy to leer at me to save my life, ha! But women don't leer at me either. So I just draw no attention. *sigh*

^^ That's an interesting idea. I quick perusal on ebay for double female sign charms and they sort of look okay. But I was thinking given how stupid the population is in general they probably would assume it's the male sign when not presenting as female.

[Evelyn K]

A rainbow bracelet can work wonders. I call mine 'cougar repellent'

Nooo...!!! I want cougars too!

[Umiko]

is there a way to make men repellent? cuz i'm having the same issue to. lol

[Tori]

Air horn?

[Evelyn K]

lol.

Hey L00T where you kidding about the turquoise jewelry?

[Umiko]

turquoise is my birth stone so if that works, imma so try it o.o 

[Jill F]

is there a way to make men repellent? cuz i'm having the same issue to. lol

Just try to talk with them about your feelings, how badly you need to take a dump or how they'd make a great baby daddy.

[Umiko]

Just try to talk with them about your feelings, how badly you need to take a dump or how they'd make a great baby daddy.

tried it, it only turns those jerks on even more -.-

[Heather]

Well if your presenting as a feminine looking male what do you expect really? Just tell them no thanks and be done with it. Actually I'm flattered when anybody finds me attractive enough to take time to hit on me. I really don't get the omg I'm a lesbian attitude it's feels good to be attractive and have people want to date you. And to be honest lesbians do get hit on by men too just because a man knows your a lesbian doesn't mean he will be like omg she's a lesbian I can't be attracted to her. Being hit on by men is part of being a woman better get used to it because it will happen more often.