"No, my son's not gay. He wants to alter his body to be a woman!"

[Fae]

I was washing dishes the other night and I was standing there in just my nighties and I was sort of day dreaming that some guy was coming up from behind and snuggling up to me while I was fixing dinner.  Wow!  I never had thoughts like that before.

I often daydream like that also, though more often than not I imagine another woman coming up from behind me.

Anyway, I don't see myself doing it (sex) before SRS though but it's nice to think about.  Never the less, I still don't like men.
I mean I don't like being around them because I can't relate to them.  I think they are crude barbarians
and most of them are usually disrespectful towards women.  There are some rare exceptions though.

I am becoming less and less attracted to men.  As much as part of me would like to end up with a really sexy hunk who would love me and take care of me and treat me like a Goddess (yeah, that's gonna happen)...

I'm pretty much a lesbian.

~Fae

Oh yes, I agree, that's my first preference.  I LOVE women, a lot.  I can totally see myself in a lesbian relationship, and would prefer it.  But that's not to say that I still don't think about getting a little (or big) d*ck on occasion. 
My sexual preference(s) have evolved over time.  Estrogen does trippy things to your head and heart.

Last week, my mom had the nerve to also ask me who my partner would be in the future.  I was flabbergasted.  I told her "I don't care if they have a penis, a vagina, or a six-foot tail, if they love me that's all that matters!"

Man or woman, someone will find me...

~Fae

[Karla B]

     I told her "I don't care if they have a penis, a vagina, or a six-foot tail, if they love me that's all that matters!"

Man or woman, someone will find me...

~Fae
[/quote]                                                                                                                                                                             OK, now I'm back to square one! ( confused)  If we as genetic males transform to women and then date women, that would make us lesbian, which is gay, which is another word for homosexual. Phew!
But being genetic males, that have transformed to female and are still attracted to females, would actually,really make us strait.
Now , If a transwoman is attracted to another transwoman, that would make them Lesbian and gay..If a strait male is attracted to transwomen and he knows that they used to be a G.male, I would believe that would make him also gay.. So, no matter how we look at it, in the end we're probably gay!
Gee! I need to take a break and give my head a bit of a shake!

[Aeyra]

     I told her "I don't care if they have a penis, a vagina, or a six-foot tail, if they love me that's all that matters!"

Man or woman, someone will find me...

~Fae
OK, now I'm back to square one! ( confused)  If we as genetic males transform to women and then date women, that would make us lesbian, which is gay, which is another word for homosexual. Phew!
But being genetic males, that have transformed to female and are still attracted to females, would actually,really make us strait.
Now , If a transwoman is attracted to another transwoman, that would make them Lesbian and gay..If a strait male is attracted to transwomen and he knows that they used to be a G.male, I would believe that would make him also gay.. So, no matter how we look at it, in the end we're probably gay!
Gee! I need to take a break and give my head a bit of a shake!

LOL!!  Yeah, it's pretty trippy.  But don't try to look at it from an outsider's point of view.
Just go with what works for you and to hell with what the rest of the world thinks.

Yep. Go with what you want and tell off anyone who disagrees.

[Rachael]

yes, but not all m2fs when transitioned date women, so can be non gay.... i think the point of the topic is that the mother is afirming that her child is a girl, not a gay male...

[Melissa]

                                             OK, now I'm back to square one! ( confused)  If we as genetic males transform to women and then date women, that would make us lesbian, which is gay, which is another word for homosexual. Phew!

That's the only part you got right.

The rest is not right.  It would not matter what the person was born as.  Most importantly, it depends on what the person identifies as and what their partner sees them as.  Here's a breakdown:

1. If a transwoman is only attracted to women, that would make them lesbian.
2. If a transwoman is only attracted to men, that would make them straight.
3. If a transwoman is attracted to both men and women, that would make them bisexual.
4. If a transwoman is attracted to another transwoman (assuming the first saw the second as a woman), that would be the same as #1.
5. If a transwoman is attracted to a transman (assuming she saw him as a man), that would be the same as #2.

Personally, I'm #3 myself.

It gets even more complex though.  For instance if a transwoman is attracted to men and women, but is in a relationship with another woman, then she is still bisexual, but the relationship is a lesbian relationship.

But being genetic males, that have transformed to female and are still attracted to females...

Been there, done that.

Now , If a transwoman is attracted to another transwoman

Been there, done that too.  In fact I'm currently in a relationship with one.

If a strait male is attracted to transwomen and he knows that they used to be a G.male, I would believe that would make him also gay..

That one depends on what he attracted to.  If he's attracted to the fact that you have male genitalia, then yes, it would make him gay.  If he's attracted to your femininity, then he would be straight.  And yes, I've been with a straight male who knew I had transitioned before.

So, no matter how we look at it, in the end we're probably gay!

Not necessarily, unless you identify as both male and female.

I've also been with an FTM before, several men who didn't know I transitioned, and GGs who knew I transitioned and ones that didn't.  That's why I seem well versed on the orientations.  I've even had gay guys who read me and were seriously hitting on me, which pissed me off because I knew they were not seeing me as a woman.  Oh, and all these experiences have occurred within just over this past year. 

[Karla B]

Thank you Melissa, for shedding some light on this subject. I realize that we veered of the origanal question with this subject, but someone had started by saying, that often transwomen end up getting a gay label. Now, reading the posts that followed that, they raised alot of questions in my mind about my own sexuality.
Like I mentioned in an earlier post, I've seen some of the gay life style and I couldn't really see anything that we had in common with them, that would cause people to put a gay label on us.
I geuss that's why I'm here, to learn from others like yourself that have been through these kind of issues and are experienced.
I geuss the others are right when they say "don't worry about it,just go with the flow"

[Fae]

i think the point of the topic is that the mother is afirming that her child is a girl, not a gay male...

Sorry, but my mom has yet to see me as a woman, and when she made that statement she was flabbergasted, as if she was suggesting that it would be easier for everyone (except for me  ) if I was gay.

                                             OK, now I'm back to square one! ( confused)  If we as genetic males transform to women and then date women, that would make us lesbian, which is gay, which is another word for homosexual. Phew!

That's the only part you got right.

The rest is not right.  It would not matter what the person was born as.  Most importantly, it depends on what the person identifies as and what their partner sees them as.  Here's a breakdown:

1. If a transwoman is only attracted to women, that would make them lesbian.
2. If a transwoman is only attracted to men, that would make them straight.
3. If a transwoman is attracted to both men and women, that would make them bisexual.
4. If a transwoman is attracted to another transwoman (assuming the first saw the second as a woman), that would be the same as #1.
5. If a transwoman is attracted to a transman (assuming she saw him as a man), that would be the same as #2.

Personally, I'm #3 myself.

It gets even more complex though.  For instance if a transwoman is attracted to men and women, but is in a relationship with another woman, then she is still bisexual, but the relationship is a lesbian relationship.

But being genetic males, that have transformed to female and are still attracted to females...

Been there, done that.

Now , If a transwoman is attracted to another transwoman

Been there, done that too.  In fact I'm currently in a relationship with one.

If a strait male is attracted to transwomen and he knows that they used to be a G.male, I would believe that would make him also gay..

That one depends on what he attracted to.  If he's attracted to the fact that you have male genitalia, then yes, it would make him gay.  If he's attracted to your femininity, then he would be straight.  And yes, I've been with a straight male who knew I had transitioned before.

So, no matter how we look at it, in the end we're probably gay!

Not necessarily, unless you identify as both male and female.

I've also been with an FTM before, several men who didn't know I transitioned, and GGs who knew I transitioned and ones that didn't.  That's why I seem well versed on the orientations.  I've even had gay guys who read me and were seriously hitting on me, which pissed me off because I knew they were not seeing me as a woman.  Oh, and all these experiences have occurred within just over this past year. 

It does depend on the people involved, but as transgendered individuals, I read somewhere that when we are with another person sexually, we are committing both a heterosexual act, and a homosexual act at the same time.

I'm leaning more towards #1 myself Melissa 

~Fae

[Melissa]

I think the mention of the gay label is more referring to that some people are under the misconception that we are really gay men who are only transitioning so we can be with other men in a way that is acceptable to society.  In reality, those people are really just straight women who are trapped in a male role/body.  I actually had somebody say this about me when I first started transitioning.  The irony is that I was pretty much exclusively attracted to women at that time.  Once on hormones, I started noticing guys more and decided I was bisexual.  I did have some bi tendencies before transition, like an urge to kiss certain guys, but I never acted on it or let anybody know.

After being on hormones for over a year and a half now, my interests go back and forth between being more attracted to men and being more attracted to women.  At this point in time, I'm more attracted to women, which is good because I have a girlfriend.   It may change within the next couple of weeks, but then will probably go back again.  It's very unpredictable.

[Rachael]

african american teenager who buys into the british gangland culture, who cooks food at the place of my employment for serving to customers. = yardie boy chef.

battygirl=gayboi (battyboy) but the guy cant call me a boy, try as he might

[Fae]

As for women, I don't care what's in your panties.  If you're a woman then you're a woman, I don't care if you're pre-op, non-op, post-op or GG,  any of those options is fine with me.

Hormones have expanded my mind and allowed me to see more options in life than the  yes/no, 1/0 binary world.  There's a large rainbow between one and zero and somewhere in there, I fit in.

Pretty much how I see things too.  I've actually gotten sort of comfortable with what's in my panties, though at some point the testicles have to go.

~Fae

[Rachael]

As for women, I don't care what's in your panties.  If you're a woman then you're a woman, I don't care if you're pre-op, non-op, post-op or GG,  any of those options is fine with me.

Hormones have expanded my mind and allowed me to see more options in life than the  yes/no, 1/0 binary world.  There's a large rainbow between one and zero and somewhere in there, I fit in.

Pretty much how I see things too.  I've actually gotten sort of comfortable with what's in my panties, though at some point the testicles have to go.

~Fae

What's in *my panties* causes me physical discomfort and emotional distress.  It has to go.  And the sooner the better.
I try not to be disgusted with it because I may be stuck with it for a long time yet.  But that doesn't mean I can't hate what down there.  What I was really alluding to was that it's not a big deal to me what's in *your panties* as long as you're a woman and happy with it.  If it doesn't bother you then it doesn't bother me.  I just like women.  Period.  All women.

* Rachael runs

yeah same, since hrt has given me a female body, whats in my knickers REALLY doesnt fit, and causes me great discomfort... even more so when it looks like someone superglued it on as a sick joke...

[Fae]

As for women, I don't care what's in your panties.  If you're a woman then you're a woman, I don't care if you're pre-op, non-op, post-op or GG,  any of those options is fine with me.

Hormones have expanded my mind and allowed me to see more options in life than the  yes/no, 1/0 binary world.  There's a large rainbow between one and zero and somewhere in there, I fit in.

Pretty much how I see things too.  I've actually gotten sort of comfortable with what's in my panties, though at some point the testicles have to go.

~Fae

What's in *my panties* causes me physical discomfort and emotional distress.  It has to go.  And the sooner the better.
I try not to be disgusted with it because I may be stuck with it for a long time yet.  But that doesn't mean I can't hate what down there.  What I was really alluding to was that it's not a big deal to me what's in *your panties* as long as you're a woman and happy with it.  If it doesn't bother you then it doesn't bother me.  I just like women.  Period.  All women.

* Rachael runs

yeah same, since hrt has given me a female body, whats in my knickers REALLY doesnt fit, and causes me great discomfort... even more so when it looks like someone superglued it on as a sick joke...

But wouldn't you agree that what's between your legs doesn't define you as a woman?  For myself, yes, there are some days when I really *hate* the damn thing...but it's there, and right now the only real alternative is to get an Orchi, have both testicles and the scrotal tissue removed, and live with the rest.

~Fae

[Rachael]

oh no, its got no bearing on me... i COULD live with it if i had to... (will get callled non trans now) i mean, i socialise as female, live work everything, i just cant wear skinny jeans

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