So pretty much last month I was arrested after my boyfriend and I got into a little episode and I ended up getting charged with misdemeanor domestic violence. He never touched me, I attacked him. This is my first charge. Pretty much my experience in jail was humiliating and I felt judged by everyone there except one cop who got along with me. Pretty much my experience being arrested is like this there was 4 cops that night, 3 men, one woman. The men took Brandon into another room and spoke to him, and I was with the female cop. Not once did they ask me what happened. I felt like I was arrested because they figured I'd play the whole battered woman thing and they'd take my side. But I didn't, Brandon has never hit me because he doesn't put his hands on women. What provoked me to attack him was him ripping the necklace he gave me off my neck so I beat his ass. There was no signs of attack on him other than a few scratches from me slapping his face. It was scary for me to go to jail as a transgender woman because I was worried they'd put me with men. But the cop called in and asked but what pissed me off was she referred to me as a ->-bleeped-<-. So I corrected her and said transgender woman. They looked at me and saw I look female and at first out me in a female
envioroment before they were gonna put me in the female ward ( I never went because I was bailed out on 300 dollars
bail by my dad) I was not allowed near anyone, especially men. So I was alone in a cell from midnight until 6 that evening
when I was bailed out. I wasnt even searched until there was female staff the following day two hours before I was
bailed. It was humiliating and made me feel less of a woman. They asked if I had breasts. And quite obviously I do (stupid
question) within 5 days of getting bailed out, Brandon and I got back together because we didn't want to let one little
squabble get in the way of us being together. My court date for may 11 was cancelled and my lawyer said he'd contact
me when there's a official dateBut Im so scared and can't stop obsessing over if they'll make me go back to jail. My
boyfriend told me they won't because its my first charge. But I can't stop thinking about it. My mother s boyfriend
attacked her, broke her nose and he went to jail, but he got bailed out by her. That's more serious than our case. When
he got bailed out the next day, even after the court date, he never went back to jail even though that case is far worse than ours. But I can't stop obsessing over if theyll make me go back
