Grats Olivia
I finally told my parents last Sunday. I am glad I managed to tell them before the news found its way through the grapevine.
At this point, my supervisor & manager at work know, plus a couple of other colleagues. I told NA home group when I spoke for my anniversary last Sunday. Several people at my Quaker meeting know. My brother & my parents know. There is no-one else whom I feel I need to tell personally.
It is a wonderful relief to know that I am at a point where I do not need to care about whoever might discover that I am trans, because all the people I might be worried about hearing it already know.
My brother was not overjoyed, & tried talking me out of taking HRT for several weeks. He has come to understand that he cannot control me, and our friendship is much as it was before I told him I am trans. My parents don't want me to tell another soul. I have agreed not to tell any other family members or anyone back home. I live thousands of miles away, have lost touch with most of my old friends, & only speak infrequently to one of my cousins. It was an easy compromise.
Everyone else I have told has been supportive. For many (especially at work), it just wasn't that big a deal. Granted, that latter may change somewhat should I ever start presenting as female. I am not there yet. There is plenty of time to worry about it later if I do get there.
For now, I feel I can relax and give myself the freedom to be me without the constant worry & fear that has haunted me for so long.
Tessa
