I've noticed that the ratio of lesbian to straight orientation transfemales is VERY rare. I mean I use to feel back then when i first began transition (acceptance and mental preparation) that because I still liked girls that it invalidated my transgender status because girls are supposed to like guys etc. that thought process is obviously gone now, but it still feels somewhat strange... I mean what are the odds that I would be not only something as RARE as transgender but also something as rare as being a lesbian?
When I see other girls on here talk about their new found intense attraction to the opposite sex (men), I don't wanna say that I get jealous, but I do get a strange feeling still.. it just makes me wonder why I (a person who USE to be bi and have fantasies about men) turned out to be purely gay female, despite my previous desires for male interaction ~ Don't get me wrong, I'm happy and glad because i can't stand men (on a romantic relationship level of any kind) and can barely stand them as friends; and the men I DO find at least somewhat mentally stimulating are the ones that have a more feminine behavior to them in both attitude and appearance.. (sorry, i digressed a bit too long before making the point), I'm glad because it allowed me to stay with my wife and still remain fully attracted to her, if not MORE attracted to her in MORE ways than just one. So I guess if there needs to be a question here; I'd like to see how many other transpeople remained or realized that they were gay (respective to true gender identity, not assigned at birth identity). I guess i just wanna feel like i'm not the only one xD
2nd interesting change - before transition, i wouldn't say i was sexist, but i did have my share of generalized ideals about women and men... and I felt pretty much unmotivated or apathetic about womens rights or male privilege etc. But since transitioning, I've literally become somewhat of a feminist. Not an extreme feminists that you see these days with ridiculous ideals and extremist responses, but just a feminist in the sense that it truly disgusts me how women are treated in this country AND other countries, and misogynistic behavior REALLY rubs me the wrong way whereas back then it had no effect on me whatsoever, whether it was defending male rights or female rights, i couldn't be bothered to care. Now it really has a profound effect on me to the point where I've become a minimal feminist. I mean i still laugh at sexist jokes but thats because its all in good fun, but true sexism against women almost makes me feel as though it effects me directly. Don't get me wrong though, I'm not misandrist or anything (funny enough theres a word for misogynist but not for misandrist haha xD).
So yeah, anyone else feel a sort of duty to their true gender identity? I may not have been born female (and maybe this is just the hormones working correctly) but I feel equal to the struggle. I've already experienced sexism despite still not being 100% passable. Any other semi-feminists out there? or even FTM's who felt a certain way about male gender rights or privilege etc. I dont aim to cause a gender war, but just to gauge interesting responses ~ nothing wrong with showing pride in your gender identity (as I'm sure we are all far well aware lol)
tl;dr - how many others transitioned and became or remained gay in relation to their true gender, and how many others felt a sort of pride or sense of equal duty to the rights of their true gender identity?
Anyway, sorry for making this really long, Im just not very good at summarizing... hope it proves for an engaging thread :3 feel free to ignore this if it doesn't really apply to you. I hope none of this sounds stupid or silly >.< I live to learn.
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Curious Inquiry: Could being a lesbian have any connection to being more feminist? Because i've seen others on here and elsewhere mention how a lot of lesbians are very feminist. Interesting observation 0_o
