Srs without dysphoria of genitals

[angel0202]

Ok so basically all throughout my childhood I was clearly of the opposite gender, in almost every way possible. As soon as male puberty set in at around 16 - e.g facial hair, masculinizing of the face, I got very very uncomfortable and depressed, I hated it, and I had such an urge to wear makeup, female clothing, (not for sexual proposes) I was just never comfortable with my self and I started self medicating hormones at ages 17 and it felt sooo right, I felt totally comfortable with myself, something id never felt. I could never ever live as a male again, the thought of going bald etc  and developing anymore male characteristics scares the hell out of me. I also might add that I liked my male parts, they allowed me to orgasm, and I can see good in everything. But I didn't LOVE them so much that I did not care about my sex drive diminishing, they were just there and I adapted to them... I don't miss it whatsoever. Iv been living as a women for about 1 year, my life is very good.

Anyway before hormones I hadn't even thought about sexual reassignment surgery, as like I say I didn't have that dysphoria with what was down below, I didn't love it nor hate it.

Now I cannot see a life without getting sex reassignment. Now everything about me is becoming female it just doesn't look right aesthetically in my opinion, obviously there are other reasons, and I mean I can live with what I have currently but I KNOW id get more happiness from being a fully functional female, living like this isn't something I want.

My question is, is anyone else similar to me and planning srs? I just want others to share how they really feel about there bodys etc. Because for me my dysphoria isn't from my genitalia but from everything else masculine. I can have sex with partners comfortably, (ill add that im naturally passive).. but I feel like srs is right for me..

[defective snowflake]

So long as its what you really want, how you feel about your current genital arrangement shouldn't really matter.  People get it for more than one reason alone.

[suzifrommd]

My question is, is anyone else similar to me and planning srs?

That's my story to a word.

I don't mind my genitals, though I'm aware they are the wrong shape. I'm having SRS a few weeks from now, because I've decided I don't want to spend the rest of my life never knowing what it will feel like to have a body that's shaped the way it should.

I've never had body dysphoria. As a guy, I had a satisfying sex life, and even now I'm more than satisfied with my autoerotic life.

But I've wanted a vagina and a clitoris all my adult life. I spent a lot of time thinking about this, reading dozens of posts from post-op and non-op women, and doing a lot of soul-searching. I can't be certain it's right for me. That's impossible, since I won't know how it will feel until after it happens. But I've decided further thought won't bring me any revelations that I haven't already had, and having this procedure still feels right to me.

[Nero]

Yeah, really when it comes down to it the only thing that really matters is what you want - and if you can live with the consequences if it turns out to be a mistake. If you know what you want, and you're informed of all possible outcomes, side effects, etc. And prepared to live with it if it turns out not to be what you thought - that's the main thing.

But I would encourage you if you haven't already to deeply investigate all possibilities in your own head. If orgasms became impossible, would you be okay with that? If sex as a woman didn't end up as satisfying for you as it was before, could you live with that? (that was something one high profile regretter said)

And there are others on this forum planning SRS who feel similar to you. Not that uncommon. Not everyone has crippling dysphoria.

[angel0202]

That's my story to a word.

I don't mind my genitals, though I'm aware they are the wrong shape. I'm having SRS a few weeks from now, because I've decided I don't want to spend the rest of my life never knowing what it will feel like to have a body that's shaped the way it should.

I've never had body dysphoria. As a guy, I had a satisfying sex life, and even now I'm more than satisfied with my autoerotic life.

But I've wanted a vagina and a clitoris all my adult life. I spent a lot of time thinking about this, reading dozens of posts from post-op and non-op women, and doing a lot of soul-searching. I can't be certain it's right for me. That's impossible, since I won't know how it will feel until after it happens. But I've decided further thought won't bring me any revelations that I haven't already had, and having this procedure still feels right to me.

wow okay thanks for your views.  I guess some could live with having a penis or vagina. I just know that it will not make things worse, and Is likely to enhance so much, I mean I NEED hormones, thus cannot really get pleasure from my male parts even if I wanted that kind of pleasure, and I really know deep down ill be complete with having female genitalia, despite not having any hate for what I currently have.

[angel0202]

Yeah, really when it comes down to it the only thing that really matters is what you want - and if you can live with the consequences if it turns out to be a mistake. If you know what you want, and you're informed of all possible outcomes, side effects, etc. And prepared to live with it if it turns out not to be what you thought - that's the main thing.

But I would encourage you if you haven't already to deeply investigate all possibilities in your own head. If orgasms became impossible, would you be okay with that? If sex as a woman didn't end up as satisfying for you as it was before, could you live with that? (that was something one high profile regretter said)

And there are others on this forum planning SRS who feel similar to you. Not that uncommon. Not everyone has crippling dysphoria.

Yes iv weighed up the pros and cons, I see no cons to getting srs for me on lots of pros. I do not even orgasm currently, I find them quite overrated. Mental pleasure from sex is what I personally believe in, orgasms would be nice. The sex side of it could not go wrong. Having absolutely no genitals is the equivalent for me having male parts, so I see no loss only gain...

Thanks tho im definitely doing some soul searching and nice to actually communicate with those, as its all just been endless thoughts in my head!

[Julieb1]

If it helps I knew when I was 7 I should have been a female I crossdressed from 11 and used that to deal with how I felt during the yrs I started transtion age 36 no longer feeling able to live as male I didnt want to put myself away again after dressing etc.

I didnt dislike my genitals they just werent right I said to both my shrinks I could if I needed to live the way I am with out surgery but I want the surgery my stuff worked all the way up to surgery including the day of the op dispite aas.

I had sorta worked out if if I had got it wrong what I was gona do I prepared myself for the waking up oh ->-bleeped-<- made a mistake moment it never came.

im now post op 9wks diation is a pain as in doing it but I dont miss my bits I have something much better and it has reinforced my internal feelings of being female and now makes me complete.

xxx

ps really have a long think and honest talk with yourself

[Jessica Merriman]

My question is, is anyone else similar to me and planning srs?

Curious as to what advice your Therapist gave you on this topic?