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My mom betrayed me...

Started by Rayne, June 03, 2014, 10:16:12 PM

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Rayne

To give the background info before I delve into the details. The first time I only half came oiut to my mom she accepted it...kinda. But when I told her I wanted to stop the testosterone she's beed paranoid ever since. Perhaps about how dad will react at first.  She started thinking I've been loosing weight to make my breasts look bigger. (Makes no sense as the fat there would go away some making my gynecomastia smaller, and she has the medical knowledge to know this.) Several weeks ago I mentioned I had a girlfriend to her. (Me and my BF both told our families that before he told his family about my issues.) and somehow she turned this into a BF without knowing anything. (Apparently having gender issues just makes me super gay. O.o) Well now she told my sister Jessica. So that threw me into a panic. Jesikka seems... she loves me either way, but  it's very weird to her. My other sister, after a heart to heart, has figured it out herself. though she thinks that no it's not from a fetal hormone issues. She thinks that because I wasn't treated early enough for my hormone issues, I've just lived with it for so long that I think this is who I am. And as such she doesn't know how I should approach it.

So overall I am out to all but my dad and my grandpa. Neither of my siblings I had planned to tell at this point. I could really use some advice. I feel hurt and sad and betrayed and confused. I need some help and advice on how to deal with the comming out to another 2 people I didn't want to know just yet.
Using a stupid, definately not smart, phone, so please forgive any typos or grammar errors.
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Li

idk what to say....all i can say is that you have your me and all your friends to come too for emotional support. even a lot of the peeps here will be glad to help you in any way they can. i do wish i can help more....but no matter how much it hurts me to not be as much help like you said us being states away i cant do much.
Be you and let others be themselves.
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Rayne

Wow... apparently either no one cares or they have no advice to give about things that can help when forcibly outed to family members you were not ready to tell yet. Or when the whole family is going into denial. I guess the worst of it is that I really want some kind of loving relationship with my mom, and I really wanted to be able to come to her for support. I just don't understand why she freaks when I get my ears pierced when it might make my sister uncomfortable, but it's okay for her to make both me and Jess uncomfortable by telling such things. I just don't know how to deal with the situation. Has anyone else here ever bee forcibly outed by a family member?
Using a stupid, definately not smart, phone, so please forgive any typos or grammar errors.
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Ms Grace

I think this thread may have a title very similar to another one that was around earlier this week so people may not realise it is different. Also, it's a bit hard to figure out what's happened here - your mother outed you to your sister, and you're concerned she'll tell others? In that case figure out what you would prefer they hear and get to them first. Better it comes from you than your mother.
Grace
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Transition 1.0 (Julie): HRT 1989-91
Self-denial: 1991-2013
Transition 2.0 (Grace): HRT June 24 2013
Full-time: March 24, 2014 :D
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Rayne

Well I'm no too worried about my sister blabbing, though my mom talking more could get annoying fast. I just don't know how to deal with all these people finding out at once. I don't know how to deal with now both sisters knowing all of the sudden with no forewarning. and at this pace I worry about when dad will find out. I could use advice on keeping things from turning into a family drama event.
Using a stupid, definately not smart, phone, so please forgive any typos or grammar errors.
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Umiko

i'm trying not to tell my family, especially my father's side. they are a bunch of gun ho Christians who would completely reject me, AND THEY ARE THE FLIPPIN ONES WHO TRIED TO FIND ME! i mean like wtf is wrong with them. anyways, sry about that little rant.  so  i know how you feel. my mom is somewhat ok but she told my lawyer who than is telling me no, which i have to listen to my lawyer and i am trying to do this off the books so my mom is now trying to stop me.
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