I Love Being a Trans Woman

[Miharu Barbie]

I was just thinking about some of the things I love best about being a trans woman.  I thought I'd share.

Being transsexual has helped me to attract into my life mostly people who love me for who I am.

Fighting to be true to who I am against the judgments of others has helped me to become a strong, self-actualized woman.

Lack of support in my lifetime has helped me to be resourceful and clear about what I want.

I have mostly depended on myself to excel in my life; I know what it is to take responsibility for who I am and for what I've become.

I love being a girly-girl, and I will never take it for granted!

I am full of harrowing tales of adventure and intrigue related to being a trans woman.

I learned early in my life to release toxic relationships quickly and to nurture supportive relationships at all cost.

I became expert early in my life at detaching from people with love.

Being a powerful nonconformist has put me in the path of many powerful teachers and guides.

My capacity to suffer early in life equals my capacity to love and enjoy later in life; I am blessed!

[LordKAT]

A very good way to look at things. Thanks for sharing.

[Jess42]

Uh huh. Some see it as a blessing and others as a curse. I tend to see it like you though and it has actually made me stronger, more reliant on myself, more confident in myself and so on. Kind of like trial by fire. I am trans so I might as well use it to make myself a better person. Not to mention it has given me great empathy to other's struggles and compassion for other's problems and accepting of everyone no matter what even though they may not accept me. Blessing or curse, it all depends upon how you look at it because it indeed is both.

[Tessa James]

Your statement is positively refreshing and I appreciate hearing that from someone who is so far down the trans trail.  I too love being trans and share much of your experience.  Perhaps I am not far enough along but do have reservations about calling myself a woman.   I want to sort of earn it to own it and for me that is part of transition.  I spent too long a time being socialized as boy and man and having raised a daughter I know there was a tremendous amount I missed out on.  Not sure if we can really make up for lost time but we can try eh?

Thanks again for that positive statement, you rock!

[Miharu Barbie]

I love that employers and colleagues are always extremely impressed with my resume.  From their perspective, I was a girl car mechanic, and I even owned my own auto shop for a time; I was a girl avocado farmer; I was a girl soldier; I was a repo girl; and I was a girl search and rescue scuba diver.  Co-workers all think I'm some sort of super girl adventurer.  And it's okay with me if they want to think that. 

[Eva Marie]

I am very early I'm this process and I still have to change my name and come out at work (which will happen very soon) but I have had the same thoughts. Being a trans woman means I have to be strong, confident, and brave to survive. It is an opportunity to be the person I want to be, but I have to have the courage to go after what I want. Being a wallflower will not work for me any longer.

[Elanore joey]

the thing i love about being a trans woman is every so often being able to feel sexy, before i came out i struggled to get aroused or be in any sexual encounter even with my ex-girlfriend. although i could still not have sexual encounters i feel quite sexy when i see my upper body and it also put a really big smile on my face.

[Ltl89]

It seems like you have a really good mindset.  I'm happy you have reached this point in your life and have found inner peace.

I myself don't feel the same way, but I do hope to one day overcome my own internalized transphobia and self hate.  There really is no reason that any of us should feel bad or guilty for being trans.  It's really not such a terrible thing even if society makes it into a huge deal. 

[Jill F]

I don't love it, I don't hate it.  It is what it is, but it sure beats the hell out of being a dead man.

[Miharu Barbie]

.... it sure beats the hell out of being a dead man.

Amen to that, sista!

[Ms Grace]

Personally I'd rather be a cis woman, but I also know I wouldn't be the person I am today had I been born natal female. And I think I'm pretty OK as a person, so there's that I guess. I do know that I'd a million times rather be a trans woman than pretend to be a cis guy.

Being trans and living in both ends of the gender spectrum and somewhere in between has certainly given me an insight that is valuable beyond belief.