It's kind of hard being over 30 and single, and now being trans.

[Evelyn K]

You know how it's said, "all the good ones are taken." There lends a certain truth to this, I guess I never made the cut earlier in life to find a stable spouse for family and children.

I've mused that dating in the CIS world at my early middle age is like wandering around a pick-n-pull junk yard.

At least the junk yard pieces are all OEM factory parts which compounds the hilarity (or depending on how you look at it, sadness) of such metaphor. 

[big kim]

It's harder being over 50!If I ever meet a guy it'll be a Dexter or someone called Malcolm who lives with his Mum and goes trainspotting

[Miharu Barbie]

If it brings you any comfort, I was 33 and single when I transitioned.  At age 35 I met a wonderful lady, stable, happy, employed and supportive.  I moved 1000 miles from Los Angeles to Portland, Oregon to be with her.  Sadly she died when I was 40, but at age 42 I met the most lovely, amazing, wonderful woman I've ever known!  She loves and accepts me for exactly who I am.  I was 43 when we married.  I'm 49 now, happily married and doing extremely well.  Our marriage continues to grow happier and more stable as the years go by. 

Don't despair.  Life has adventures in store for you that you can't even imagine from your present vantage.  Your only job is to love thyself, and immensely, and be ready to accept and allow the adventures as they are presented to you.

Prepare yourself for love, and love will find you.  Prepare yourself for loveless despair, and you are likely to miss the love that finds you, even when it's right in front of you.

Hugs!

[stephaniec]

I don't know, for me being trans has opened a door to a new universe to explore. life would of been different finding a partner and family , but  it wasn't meant to be for me so why waste the preciousness  of life  on a possibility that didn't materialize and just enjoy the new possibility of another domain. As another member said its like going from a gray stormy day on the Kansas      plains to the multicolored world just over the rainbow

[Just Shelly]

If it brings you any comfort, I was 33 and single when I transitioned.  At age 35 I met a wonderful lady, stable, happy, employed and supportive.  I moved 1000 miles from Los Angeles to Portland, Oregon to be with her.  Sadly she died when I was 40, but at age 42 I met the most lovely, amazing, wonderful woman I've ever known!  She loves and accepts me for exactly who I am.  I was 43 when we married.  I'm 49 now, happily married and doing extremely well.  Our marriage continues to grow happier and more stable as the years go by. 

Don't despair.  Life has adventures in store for you that you can't even imagine from your present vantage.  Your only job is to love thyself, and immensely, and be ready to accept and allow the adventures as they are presented to you.

Prepare yourself for love, and love will find you.  Prepare yourself for loveless despair, and you are likely to miss the love that finds you, even when it's right in front of you.

Hugs!

This is so nice to hear!! Makes me feel I have hope....though my preference is the opposite!! A little more difficult :/

[Nero]

30+ is only a detriment to a woman if you're looking for really young guys or your age or older guys who are age snobs. And even then, the older the guy is, the more likely he is to be interested! And of course, there are young guys really into cougars. lol

Not sure how it works with women. I imagine the average woman is looking for someone her age or older.

[TerriT]

My SO is 10 years older than me!

Evelyn, don't get discouraged. You're still pretty young. Anyways, you seem cool enough so I wouldn't worry so much about it.

[JessicaH]

You are still very young and pretty. If I could find the love of my life at age 41 (3years ago) you SURELY can!

I don't know why she loves me like she does but I have never felt more loved! Just dont give up and don't isolate yourself. You have to meet a lot of people to find one you really mesh with!!!!

[Ryan55]

my girl is 8 years older then me, shes 31, i'm 23, so there are younger guys who like cougars, just sayin lol so don't be discouraged

[Evelyn K]

I don't know, for me being trans has opened a door to a new universe to explore. life would of been different finding a partner and family , but  it wasn't meant to be for me so why waste the preciousness of life on a possibility that didn't materialize and just enjoy the new possibility of another domain. As another member said its like going from a gray stormy day on the Kansas plains to the multicolored world just over the rainbow

Wow steph, reading that was awesome. I'm going to have to add that to my "quotes of the year!" list.

(Oh who am I kidding LOL. J/K! I'm going to print it out instead!)

[Evelyn K]

You are still very young and pretty. If I could find the love of my life at age 41 (3years ago) you SURELY can!

I don't know why she loves me like she does but I have never felt more loved! Just dont give up and don't isolate yourself. You have to meet a lot of people to find one you really mesh with!!!!

Jessica you lucky cat. She's hot! I do like them cougars!

[Evelyn K]

my girl is 8 years older then me, shes 31, i'm 23, so there are younger guys who like cougars, just sayin lol so don't be discouraged

No No. I hope there are younger gals who like cougars

[Jessica Merriman]

my girl is 8 years older then me, shes 31, i'm 23, so there are younger guys who like cougars, just sayin lol so don't be discouraged

That is one lucky girl, sigh!

[Megan Joanne]

You are still very young and pretty. If I could find the love of my life at age 41 (3years ago) you SURELY can!

I don't know why she loves me like she does but I have never felt more loved! Just dont give up and don't isolate yourself. You have to meet a lot of people to find one you really mesh with!!!!

Ooh, she's pretty! You lucky girl.  By the way, you have a nice smile Jessica, keep on smiling.

[JenSquid]

I just turned 30, and I've never dated. To be honest, I kinda doubt I ever will. I feel like, if I ever find the right person, I'll be doing really well. I try not to let it get to me.

Sigh.

[Umiko]

trust me sis, i feel your pain and i'm in my early early 20's lol. but after hearing how hard it is on the SO, i find it better not to have a partner for me though because i rather not let someone else suffer though everyone takes things differently.

[Eva Marie]

I'm now facing this situation at 51.

I'm not depressed by it, what will be will be. My philosophy is what Miharu Barbie said - Prepare yourself for love, and love will find you. I'm not dead yet and I believe that there is someone out there that would like to get to know me.

Until  then I'm using my time to work on becoming the best "me" that I can be and I'm enjoying my life.

[Cindy]

Well I'm on the wrong side of 60 with no hope, then he just walked into my life.

Never say never, Oh to be 30!!

[Jenny07]

I've long been single and have given up long ago of ever meeting anyone.
Love for me has always ended in tragedy and much pain.
I was going to see my ex partner today but she was sick so rang and chatted to her mum for an hour. I still love her but there is nothing I can do after her accident.
She has a sever brain injury and will never recover. It is still very hard but I do my best.

I don't know what the future will hold so just want to be happy in myself and that has taken me down this path. 8 months now on low dose E and feeling good with myself for the first time ever.
Depression has lifted so that is good.

One day at a time.

[crowcrow223]

You know how it's said, "all the good ones are taken." There lends a certain truth to this, I guess I never made the cut earlier in life to find a stable spouse for family and children.

I've mused that dating in the CIS world at my early middle age is like wandering around a pick-n-pull junk yard.

At least the junk yard pieces are all OEM factory parts which compounds the hilarity (or depending on how you look at it, sadness) of such metaphor. 

Think of all the drama you are lucky enough not to experience... Not every spouse would be accepting if you came out as trans. To be honest, I'm happy I never got into the whole dating/family/children thing. Not that I would, I'm fairly young, just saying