how important to you is the big surgery

[Jessika Lin]

How important to me is it? In a word, essential. Essential to my peace of mind and quite essential to my continued existence. As far as I'm concerned that lump of flesh between my legs is a cancer and I want it removed ASAP, I will never feel whole until it is.

Also, while it has nothing to do with my case, my province requires GRS before it will allow a gender marker change.

[Juliett]

Before I was full time, grs seemed like THE MOST IMPORTANT THING IN THE UNIVERSE. But after getting a bf and being full time for 3 years and being able to pass in my sleep, it's something that I'd love to get, but can live without.

[stephaniec]

I know that it would be so perfect to be complete. It has been such a torment for me to carry this burden

[Myarkstir]

Up to 1year ago i would have said bah i can live without it. But then something clicked in my mind, i needed to be more feminine, a complete women. More importantly i needed to know what it really feels like to "have something inside me". And no anal didn't do it for me, i still haven't healed up properly from the few attempts i did 17years ago. So in no time i went from not so important to 4 months and counting. I would say that when it hits you it does it like a ton of bricks.

[StevieAK]

I think about it but reminded by my wife that she is not a lesbian so keep "it" I must. 

I would like to get some face work done and negotiating with wife now.  I met a person that had their face done and although 50+ had the face of a 25 year old woman and I just cant see that...idk. My wife wants me to still be me and or who I was and or whatever. 

[Evelyn K]

Not here. I can't seem to get over the idea of being penetrated by, em, pene. My hard wiring won't allow it.

I like my wobbly bit. We don't know the long term outlook for neo-vagina complications later in life such as increased cancer risk in the area. There's just not enough data so I'd rather opt to be on the safe side.

Admittingly this is what I get for not being fully trans so the dysphoria down there isn't a preeminent driving force. For others I can understand.

Besides, I figure I might increase my dating pool odds with more straight women who are borderline bi-sexual. I am lesbian after all.

[Myarkstir]

Not here. I can't seem to get over the idea of being penetrated by, em, pene. My hard wiring won't allow it.

I like my wobbly bit. We don't know the long term outlook for neo-vagina complications later in life such as increased cancer risk in the area. There's just not enough data so I'd rather opt to be on the safe side.

Admittingly this is what I get for not being fully trans so the dysphoria down there isn't a preeminent driving force. For others I can understand.

Besides, I figure I might increase my dating pool odds with more straight women who are borderline bi-sexual. I am lesbian after all.

Lol i fully intend to be able to put my men in the drawer when they are not needed 

[Evelyn K]

Lol i fully intend to be able to put my men in the drawer when they are not needed 

Well for me I'll just sit my real doll up in her chair or something.

Then there's always the reliable angry hand I've drawn eyelashes on.

[Ataraxia]

Not that important to me because I don't feel like it would really affect my ability to live as a woman. It would alleviate a great deal of my dysphoria, but I feel like the fact that it still won't enable me to carry a child would make me feel dysphoric as well. Maybe I'll change my mind about that one day, or maybe medical technology will catch up so that it will be possible for me to have a child, but until then it's not that high on my priorities list.

Hopefully one day I'll get to the point where money isn't an object, and then I'll get SRS but until then there are other things I'd rather save for that would make me much much happier than getting SRS would.

[Evelyn K]

^^

Hormones is driving me sterile (probably a done deal by now) so even with medical tech, I still wouldn't be able.

Didn't sperm bank because I've decided having a kid at this point in my life is a gamble. I need to take care of myself.

[Ataraxia]

^^

Hormones is driving me sterile (probably a done deal by now) so even with medical tech, I still wouldn't be able.

Didn't sperm bank because I've decided having a kid at this point in my life is a gamble. I need to take care of myself.

Yea...as much as I would like to save my swimmers before I start HRT, I don't think I'll be able to It would be fantastic if one day SRS also comes with a uterus and whatever else is needed to get pregnant. SRS would definitely shoot to the top of my priorities list

[Allyda]

Well I've already raised 3 daughters (adopted, my IS condition makes me sterile) who lovingly call me Mom from infants. Sooooo, wanting kids isn't a problem for me. My surgery won't come soon enough.

Allie

[Evelyn K]

Yea...as much as I would like to save my swimmers before I start HRT, I don't think I'll be able to It would be fantastic if one day SRS also comes with a uterus and whatever else is needed to get pregnant. SRS would definitely shoot to the top of my priorities list

But you'll still need eggs. Unless you are talking about being a surrogate.

Then there's the birthing process, mens hips are not wide enough.

[Bols]

Important for me as a final step, as ffs would be higher on my list. I've dreamed about being a girl for so long...

[stephaniec]

Important for me as a final step, as ffs would be higher on my list. I've dreamed about being a girl for so long...

wow, so many with the sane dream, there must be something about being female

[Rose City Rose]

There was a time in my life when it would have been unthinkable, but now it's something I'm definitely thinking about.

I'm mostly-straight, in a long-term with a guy who won't bottom, and one of the first signs my dysphoria was getting critical was when I couldn't top any more because it made me feel awkward and uncomfortable.  I also have testicular pain that I'm almost certain is about 50% somatic (though I do have a varicocele in the left one).  My sexual response is doing well on hormones and my orgasm hits like a hammer when I don't have to touch my penis.  In all, I'd say I'm a prime candidate to benefit from surgery.

I'm still unsure how I'm going to pay for it, or how I'll feel about it once it's done, and I'm terrified about complications or the need for corrective surgery.  Those are the only reasons I would think twice but there may come a day when those reasons aren't enough to stop me.  That's how it was with HRT and with going full-time; I was scared of all the things that could go wrong and I held off until the thought of holding off any longer was too much to bear.

If you're already past that point, dear, then go for it.

[mac1]

There has been times when I really felt a great need for full SRS. However, now I could probably get by with just the removal of the unnecessary parts, a proper urethra relocation and enough body and facial feminization to pass as I don't have any real need for a vagina.

A vagina would be an optional item as I don't have any real desire for penetrative sex with a male. It might be nice to see how it feels to have a penis inside of you but the cost and inconvenience of that surgery might not be warranted as I would not have an ongoing need for the vagina. I also do not have any need for or desire to have a penis as my wife has not wanted penetrative sex for a long time and I have sat of squatted to pee full time since 1997.

Just let my doctor say that the removal of my penis and testicles is medically necessary and that it will be covered by my medical insurance - and see how fast those things are gone. 

[Allyda]

Just let my doctor say that the removal of my penis and testicles is medically necessary and that it will be covered by my medical insurance - and see how fast those things are gone. 

If they didn't need the tissue to create my vagina, the abomination in my nether region would have been gone long ago. Some of the creative ways I've come up with range from the rubber band method used on steer's to driving to the emergency room parking lot with my trusty fillet knife, whacking it off making sure to run it over a few times with my trucks Pro Comp 37's(so it can't be re-attached) then stumbling inside a bloody mess, along with more creative ideas in between. Yup, as I've stated above my surgery won't come soon enough.

Allie

[mac1]

If they didn't need the tissue to create my vagina, the abomination in my nether region would have been gone long ago. Some of the creative ways I've come up with range from the rubber band method used on steer's to driving to the emergency room parking lot with my trusty fillet knife, whacking it off making sure to run it over a few times with my trucks Pro Comp 37's(so it can't be re-attached) then stumbling inside a bloody mess, along with more creative ideas in between. Yup, as I've stated above my surgery won't come soon enough.

Allie

I also have thought of creative ways to get that thing removed. As I said, I have to find a way so that: it will not look intentional, it will not get me put in the nut house, my wife will be accepting of it, and it will be covered by my medical insurance. Do you have any reasonable suggestions?

[Allyda]

I also have thought of creative ways to get that thing removed. As I said, I have to find a way so that: it will not look intentional, it will not get me put in the nut house, my wife will be accepting of it, and it will be covered by my medical insurance. Do you have any reasonable suggestions?

Well, as it turns out my SRS is covered by my medical insurance and this December I go under. I'm disabled on Federal Medicaid with WellCare as my HMO. My SRS and voice surgery/trachea shave are paid for because they are considered medically necessary procedures.

Allie