So, Saturday I am going to be driving to meet up with my Mom and cousin. Second time my Mom has seen me in 11 years and first for my cousin. Not worried about my cousin because she is very accepting. With my Mom, at first I was dreading it. I talked with her a few hours ago. told her that I do now have facial hair. Just didn't want to shock her. And from there the conversation changed. She asked me some questions and was very respectful. Asking if I was happy, if I have surgeries still to do, if my neighbors and co-workers treat me ok. And then she said, " You are really starting to grow on me." For my Mom, that is a big deal. Yea, it's taken years for her to get to this level of acceptance. Just thought I would share this for all that might be looking to give up on their parents. I am an old dude and my parents are now in their 80's. I did have times I was ready to write them off and had many people told me I should. I am glad I did not listen. I am now the primary caregiver for my 87 year old Dad, and we have an awesome relationship. And now, here is my Mom.
And just to add. I know it is harder for my Mom because she still lives in the small town I grew up in. and my Mom has always been very insecure. More looking to 'What will people think', And what people think is a reflection of her. That kind of crap. Little by little. It's working.
