How are you easing your friends into realizing you are growing breasts?

[immortal gypsy]

I think my male friends are in steadfast denial mode still. While my best friend laughs at me when I complain about growing pains she tells me it's my turn now.
Work well I'm haven't told yet (not sure if I will at all). I'm not sure who is fooling who sometimes there

[Jennygirl]

I came out to about 50% of my friends within the first month and a half. When an acquaintance asked me randomly (I was dressed especially girly this night) if I was going to get it over with and "get a boob job" I figured it was time to come out full force... and I did.

Exciting days, those were

I haven't seen a single bit of opposition from friends throughout this whole process. In fact I get the picture nowadays that 50% of my friends have forgotten I used to be a dude- unless reminded of course!

[Rachel]

I am out to a dozen at work. I manage 30 operating engineers, most ex military one bubble head MC who looks absolutely terrifying. He is my Ops Manager. I came out to him and he has been great.

I have some beginning breasts, rather nice. Not one single person has said anything and I deal with thousands. I am with Doctors who are in general very observant and not one word ( looks but no words).

I have an issue with hiding and have been working on it for a while. If asked I thought I would say that is private.

[Kristyn74]

I've spoken to a friend of mine who is strongly 'queer phobic' he won't even get the doc to check his prostate cos 'it's an "out hole" ' i suggested to him that if he had to take drugs for an enlarged prostate and the side effects were breasts he said so be it,and he wouldn't go under the knife to remove them,So I'm going that one, if need be. spironolactone is prescribed for enlarged prostates!

[Sammy]

Depending on folks with me, I am either concealing them (cause thats none of their business) or just wearing whatever I fancy atm. So, if it is the latter and I am with male-friends, then sooner or later we go to that awkward exchange of "Hello? My eyes are just right here - not down there! Please?" /sigh/

[Misha]

I told almost everyone (family, friends, colleagues...) around me during last November and December so they had plenty of time to psychologically prepare for what's to come. It was especially important for me to sort it out ahead of time at work so I could safely start girl-mode there in mid-December. I work in a certain bank's technology department and on our floor there's like 100 people.

At the point when in the beginning of March I started to use breast forms, curious looks: yes, questions: no except for one. I don't remember who exactly asked about them but my response was: "And how else am I supposed to get used to them when they actually start growing?"

Funny thing that quite a few colleagues actually believed that I was already on HRT for some time at that point... Like they would grow that quickly over a week when I was on home office because of laser depilation. That would be a record :-) .

[Samantha Rogers]

So far no one has said anything. Since I have family responsibilities that will prevent my going 24/7 for a long time (if ever) I don't really much want to out myself in general, and loose t-shirts and so forth have worked so far. If anyone has noticed they have not mentioned it. But as things continue, I care less and less. If someone does mention it I may just tell them the truth. LOL.

[AnneB]

I've spoken to a friend of mine who is strongly 'queer phobic' he won't even get the doc to check his prostate cos 'it's an "out hole" ' i suggested to him that if he had to take drugs for an enlarged prostate and the side effects were breasts he said so be it,and he wouldn't go under the knife to remove them,So I'm going that one, if need be. spironolactone is prescribed for enlarged prostates!

I like that one.. As I'm in a very male-dominated industry, the guys I work with are mostly middle aged so, enlarged prostate therapy works as well as anything until there comes a time if/when I will have to 'fess up.

[Jenna Marie]

I never mentioned it, and I left it to them to manage their own reactions, which they politely did without bringing it up to me. Well, except my one dorky college friend who got all flustered and left a "nice tits! how weird." on my FB, and I ignored it...

I guess it never occurred to me to talk about it, and I didn't have much of a window before I didn't *need* to actually say it, either - I ended up coming out at work early before I was outed by being 42C at three months HRT. I *did* make a point of wearing outfits that downplayed them around my parents for a year or so, though, to give them time to adjust.

[Codia]

I came out to my friends over a year ago and besides work (haven't had work since November) I've been living full time. When I find employment I'll be working as a female as it doesn't make sense to step backwards.  Occasionally I bump into someone I haven't seen in years (eg: bumped into an old friend at a music festival last weekend) and I explain to them quite confidently what I'm doing in my life as I really don't care if someone feels differently.  My hip to waist ratio is noticeably different after nearly two months.  I don't think "the girls" are very noticeable from others perspectives but I frequent a padded bra.

[Serenahikaru]

I announced to my colleagues that I was transgender and would be presenting as me. I did that on a Friday and turned up to work on the Monday in a skirt and blouse.

Game over.

They had to deal with it because I already had.

Lol, I like that, but I couldn't pull it off. I haven't started hrt yet, though I was planning on telling a close friend and sticking with an androgynous style (since my style is already pretty classy). Then I was thinking of just wearing girl clothes on the weekend once I was sure I could pass.

[Suziack]

Yes. I present androgynous. Each day that goes by with interactions with friends I find I'm subconsciously pushing my shoulders forward so my shirt doesn't 'poke' as much. I also hate walking into those headwinds.

It's starting to become a chore

Yes, Isn't it funny how when dressing androgynous, or even when dressing toward the male end of the spectrum, one still gets addressed as Ma'm? And having no 'boob's that show, to speak of, at times doesn't even seem to make a difference.

My vote goes toward first telling the family and inner circle of friends, depending on who one is close to, and which of these people will be understanding, then eventually expanding beyond that, on an as needed basis.

[Teela Renee]

when it came to my friends, i didnt hide it, I would sit there in my sports bra and if they didnt like it I told them to leave then. I wasnt nice about my transition, it was ya accept it now or dont come near me till ya do.

[Jenna Marie]

the old mare : Yeah, honestly, it never occurred to me to specifically mention growing breasts. Transition, yes. Breasts, well, people either assumed what they wanted or they could ask, but it seemed like a very TMI thing to *tell* them.

[Hideyoshi]

Yes. I present androgynous. Each day that goes by with interactions with friends I find I'm subconsciously pushing my shoulders forward so my shirt doesn't 'poke' as much. I also hate walking into those headwinds.

It's starting to become a chore

I work outside, and when I walk against the wind, even my sports bra doesn't push them down enough anymore, so I have to act like I'm fixing my hair tie or scratching my neck to try to conceal the bewbs

It is like a chore, but that's just another first world problem

[Misato]

I'd think my friends would have been more concerned if I didn't pad my bra out until I didn't have to any more. I like detransitioned for a day back in grad school and my friends all freaked out on me with queries of, "Are you ok?" I mean, as I came out the general reaction I got was, "I had no idea! But that makes a lot of sense."

[Hermosa_Tabby]

I had a generous A cup before I transitioned at all.

Yeah people don't really say anything. They may giggle at the moobs in private, but they won't bring it up. No one ever did with me having gynomatica or whatever it's called.

(about 5 or 6 months in now of hrt, and they are almost a C cup lol.) I still do the androgenous thing at work. Want to get my face lasered before I change  fully, but I get to be me while I am home.

[FrancisAnn]

That's funny. I have a woman neighbor that walks over to visit sometimes. A few days ago I was only wearing a very thin blouse & no doubt at all about my B cup breasts. She did not say anything however it was obvious. Now I always wear a thin top when I'm around her & it feels normal for both of us. I guess she may say something one day but so far we are just friends.

[Stephanie2]

Yes, the best excuse is to tell them you have gynecomastia (I had to look up the spelling) if you didn't want them to know of transitioning. My lady doctor didn't even call it gynecomastia, though. She just called it a swelling of the breast and ordered me a mammogram! Made me feel feminine, even though it was a bit embarrassing. The mammogram, by the way, wasn't bad at all, the way they do it now.

[Misha]

Now that I think about it there was actually one family member who literally stared at my breast when he didn't see me for like a month. And that was our cat.

He didn't say anything of course but he kept looking at my breast with a very concentrated look and was moving his ears in the typical "cat confusion" pattern... That was really funny :-) .

Still, it wasn't as far as interesting when he saw me 3 weeks into blockers and couldn't recognize my smell but could recognize me by face. I haven't seen such a shocked stare from a cat until then.

EDIT: Sorry if the above seems rather off topic but I consider our cat a good friend of mine as he helped me to "regulate" my depression prior to transition. And I was actually worried he might not recognize me anymore.